Had a similar situation and I felt empathy for the lady but also didn't appreciate being deceived
I went to see a FBSM provider, an Indy, and she didn't look at all like her pictures, and in fact looked very haggard. It was a very short, but awkward situation. I politely left a tip for the walk-out, but the look on her face was heart breaking. She asked why I was leaving and I told her there just wasn't an attraction. Again she asked why; 'is it the ink'? I quickly replied it doesn't feel right. But I'm pretty sure he knew by the look on my face that she was, in my eyes, busted looking.
I felt pity for her, no one wants to feel ugly or unwanted. I've always treated the PV providers with respect, but this really hit the point that they're people too with real emotions. With that said, it was a very awful experience and everything looked very dirty and sketchy.
Crappy thing is, I got a recommendation for her from here.
How do most handle this?
Had a similar situation and I felt empathy for the lady but also didn't appreciate being deceived
no reason to feel bad for her - she is using fake pictures, she is the scam.
They were her pictures, but old and brushed up, or she's just had a rough go in life. That's where my empathy is; she looked like life had beaten her down. Still though, there is deception in that her ad didn't reflect who she is now.
I've walked on several sessions. In my early hobby years even in the face of disappointment I went on and participated in the session till completion. Then as a significant increase in the volume of fake, airbrushed, and PICs of ladies when they were 20 years younger increased along with the bad attitudes during the session; I had enough and vowed that when a session dropped below a minimum standard of acceptance....I bounce!! This includes upselling, over selling session attributes, etc..
The first time I did it I had the same experience you did. I enter the room and the provider looked absolutely nothing like her ad. She saw the obvious disappointment on my face and asked..."Is there a problem..." with a slight attitude. Then I simply noted, with at a smile, you look nothing like the PIC in your ad. She paused, and then with a growing sense and attitude of ".....And?...I can still do the deed." I simply stated I don't think this is going to work. The first look on her face was one of her ego being crushed. Then she paused and noted that my looks should not be a problem. My first thought was "huh," "really," do you know the line of work you're in?
I then simply and politely left a self determined "walk-out" fee. She was new to the game and I could tell she was crushed as I imagine many providers believe all they need to do is show up, no matter the circumstances, and I dude will pay her to have an orgasm. NOT!!!
If walk-outs happened more often I think it would go far in showing the providers that they can't just "show-up."
Why the walkout fee? If she looks nothing like her ad, then it is her that wasted your time. I don't hesitate to walk out and I let them know why. If more hobbyist did this, we would see less face ads. Deception should not be rewarded.
Do you give a would be robber a "self defense fee" if you thwart his robbery attempt? Why in the world would we want to encourage this type of bad behavior by rewarding it.
Unfortunately unless there is an actual session, you can't review your experience, the best you can do is post a warning on your local board, but please guys, quit rewarding bad behavior, it just encourages more of the same.
New provider/ new to TER so this is probably a stupid question, but why in the world can't you review when you've shown up for a session and have walked due to deceptive practices? Seems like an very important data to be able to share about a provider.
Because this site would be flooded with walkout reviews and it would make it tedious to use.
Mind you I'm not leaving say half the fee. The times I've walked I've never left more than $40. The walk-out fee shows class and indicates to the provider what she missed out on and may even teach her to change her practices.
Walking in anger, not leaving a small fee, gives her an excuse i.e. ".....fuck him, he woulda been an ass hole anyway..." Nah, I wanna leave the impression of being the one the got away.
and it will never get her to change her practice, if anything it proves to her that she can get "money for nothing" and is a huge disservice to the rest of us as it "rewards bad behavior"
Thieves don't grow a conscience just because you show "class" or pity them, Thieves change their behavior when what their scam quits working. Twenty guys a week each leaving forty bucks along with ten guys a week actually staying and going through with the session because "I was already there, and I was horny" is a pretty damn good living, and gives her ZERO reason to clean up her act.
similar to why it's better to give a robber a burn wallet with $20 in it than to tell give them nothing. So you might not get bonked on the head.
I've encountered dated and misleading photos, but I went through with the sessions. Two of them were very disappointing: one was overweight, was a smoker, and had foot odor; the other had major ink and was not focused on me at all (only on her early AM flight and the location of the nearest CVS).
I've seen 2 women who used bogus pics. One was very nice looking and had great skills; the other was a clear 10 in my book, probably the prettiest/sexiest provider I saw.
If I see someone who grossly misrepresents in the future, I'm willing to walk. I think the modest donation you left was a nice touch. I feel for the women who are hurt, but they need to learn that accurate self-representation is important and just showing up for sex is not all that most of us are looking for. I'm a very visual guy; if I expect a 9 and get a 6, I'd rather not be there.
I am in New Orleans right now. I had a day off at my bridge tournament. Called up an agency on a very short notice and set up a date with one of their girls. She looks curvy but definitely not fat. She has only two reviews about 6 months ago. TER is not the dominant review site in NO so the lack of reviews didn't worry me much.
When I opened the door, a girl at least 20 lbs heavier walked in. The girl in the pics was voluptuous but she is fat now. I immediately decided I couldn't go through with it. She has a big belly and her ass looks like two big buns. I told her I don't think I could do it. I could see the hurt on her face right away, but she said she understood and would tell her booker. While she was texting her booker, I was sitting there feeling very shitty. I almost decided to tell her I changed my mind and we could do it. In the end, I gave her 20% of the fee to compensate her for her travel expense. Most of us don't want to hurt other people's feelings unless we have to in order to protect ourselves.
The good news is the booker apologized profusely when I told her the girl's pics are old. She promised she would find another girl for me. This was very late in the evening but she managed to find another girl in the last minute for me. Talk about customer services. I wish all DC agencies work like this. I lucked out as the new girl was very hot and the performance was also great. I already wrote a review for her.
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Good points all around but my preferred method is to pretend I left the envelope in my car and walk out. How dare those providers believe they can compete in this business with outdated photos, terribly out of shape physiques, deceptive ads, bait and switch, and so on! Then they act crushed and rejected in the hotel room as if it's the client's fault for not happily accepting the deception. I work too damned hard for my money to give it away in that fashion.
This hasn't happened to me in a long time and it won't ever again as long as I continue to keep up with my homework. I don't make a move without reviews.