For many of us this is a taboo topic. I have never held back from telling a provider those words because I genuinely do feel love for every woman I have ever been intimate with.  Never has a provider taken what I was saying out of context and freak out and make a big deal about it such as denying a second appt or getting blacklisted (that I know of).

If in this big, fat lie, if someone wants to say, "I love you" while you are banging her brains out.. Go for it.. As long as you are back to reality when the hour ends and the door closes behind your back, its all good.

I agree with 808.
GFE is not a "lie"; it's a fantasy, a role playing game, and as such it is a break from reality.
Similar to going to see a play or a movie, except we get to participate, in fact we get the staring role.

During a session, kissing is an important component of the activities for me....DFK is my Viagra.  However, I've conversated with many a provider who have noted that DFK, passionate kissing, they reserve for their SO.  They will go only so far with the DFK and limit it to LFK.  Some ladies can seperate it in their mind and it's no big thing to them.

their chains have to be yanked, and they need to be told.."Dude...Its a lie...." I am all about letting people enjoy their fantasies, and I enjoy mine too..  

Love you vs. I'm in love with you

Yes, every girl paid or not. I just love women PERIOD! When they have their legs wrapped around my waist and my cock is way deep inside of her warm vagina,  she is panting her hot breath in my face, I love her even more. Yeah, I understand that when I walk out that door, I go back to being John Doe and she goes back to being Jane Smith instead of Dazzling DeeDee. However, for that hour the love I felt was real, at least for me

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illusions are 90% of the game..

One night I watched a popular escort melt down on a TER discussion board.

I PMed her & she called me and I comforted her.

When we ended the conversation that night she repeatedly said "I love you, I love you, I love you, thank you, I love you" in a really soft baby coo voice.

On the outside "I was like, okay, no problem hun, its cool".  On the inside I was like damn, this is turning ME on.

Having never actually met her in person I realized why she probably gets so many damn straight 10s.

Some providers have a magical combination of vulnerability, intuition and sexuality- it registers as so impossibly real.  
If I said "I love you" to a client we would probably both erupt in laughter- I'm not the sort of girl who wants to chance insulting someone's intelligence -OR- catching a case with an unhinged client.

I've had clients say "I love you" in the heat of the moment...and frankly, I take the word too seriously to say back in passion or by request.  

I have said it to a long term client who is my friend, but that is an entirely different story and speaks to a mutual respect and a several years long connection that is just...beyond words.

So I would say some girls can get away with it, its a special skill...like flexibility.
It works innately, or don't even try it because it will end up sounding stupid and forced like prompted dirty talk lol.

I have had a couple of ladies say this to me, in moments of passion, that also felt quite personal.  I had a unique connection with each of them from the first meeting, onward.  So maybe it was genuine.  From everything else that occurred (plenty of OTC time, extras, etc.) I think there was genuine fondness.  But also not saying we are settling down together.

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There are enough unstable people in this business that I personally think its a dangerous phrase for a provider to say to a client...even long-term clients with a mutual understanding.

...your cock." is enough.

Banging each others brains out is a side effect, not the entire point of a gfe session. I'm not saying that's what the original thread was about. I'm just kinda throwing my little 2 cents in about gfe being a lie.  I'm genuine as they get in every session, which is why I try to pick guys I'd fit well with. Not a love connection.  A personality connection I guess.

Is there nothing I can say
Nothing I can do
To change your mind
I'm so in love with you
You're too deep in
You can't get out
You're just a poor girl in a rich man's house

None of the ladies has responded yet, but I will chime in.

this is a real fantasy for me . and i totally know it just a fantasy.

That is just too funny!!!!  What a classic

I have had a few clients say it to me and I have had a few want me to say it to them. I can be honest and say it feels a bit odd to say I Love You to a client because I am not used to it. I am close and intimate but there is still the part of me that I keep away for my SO, when I have one. And if I actually love them. That is another story.

I agree with you Ally! There is a line that you have to be careful of crossing and you do not want to sound fake or lead someone on.  

I was close to shooting and a provider blurted out as I was hammering "I love you".... I was taken by surprise but went with it and had one of the best finishes too date... We both giggled and laughed about it afterwards with seemingly no awkwardness.... I'm not sure what prompted it but I look at this whole adventure as a collection of amazing times with some amazing women... This was for sure a great one....

most hobbyists seem delusional or prefer to play up the "fantasy" aspect of their encounters. if that's the case,  good luck.

that "every single person" he sees, he feels that special connection with...

=) yeah.  Some guys romanticize every encounter. All good

I have to be honest, it made my labia shrivel. I reserve those three words for my dad, my friends, and my cats.