I wanted to out him then and there, and certainly don't want to see any of the ladies he raves about.
But outing him can get me banned forever. And I kinda like my handle and all the reviews that I have written..What's a girl to do when she's gotten an email asking for BB Greek that is without a doubt connected with a "prolific" (if you will) board poster?
I received the email some time ago and thought the resemblance in writing style was uncanny to this 'heavy hitter' of a poster, but kind of brushed it off. Recently while going through my "do not respond" folder I read the email again and decided to do a bit of research and came up with damning evidence since this person likes to tell many details of their life and everything matched up perfectly.
Obviously I will never see this person, though I'd made that decision a long time ago due to his clear need for attention/ lack of discretion/ a recent admission of unsafe practices/ etc. But do I have an obligation to let other ladies know? I mean I don't have proof of him having necessarily engaging in BB, but isn't "cold" emailing ladies asking for that suggestive that he might ask for it in a session? Or possibly worse yet, just go for it? Or should the email be disregarded and let sleeping dogs lies.
I've been denied access to the Providers Only board repeatedly...
So the tl;dr summary: Frequent TER poster emails asking for unsafe acts; do I have an obligation to let others know? If so via what channels.
Intelligence like this needs to be shared not only with girls but guys too.
I have been helped by boatload of guys to get dates with ladies, and a lot of guys have helped me as well. Last thing I want to do is help a guy who puts the girl's life in danger, and by extension our life in danger as well..
I too have received one such PM, but I slept on it and until this point didn't say a word to anyone... I can prove it with the PMs, if need be.
Let your conscience be the guide....Perhaps we are talking about the same dude...
*Edited for Grammar/Spelling.
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It is stated as follows: "PERSONAL INFORMATION
Posting personal information of members or providers, including content copied from their emails and Private Messages, is grounds for BANISHMENT. This includes PMs between TER and members."
That's not really helpful and specific enough. That is just a general statement. Think it is time for TER to be more specific on this section of their guidelines. So, you CANNOT post his TER handle publicly on a regional board because of the feedback I just got from TER.
We all know you cannot post "personal information" such as his real name, telephone number, or email address. But, is his TER handle also be considered personal information too? The answer is yes. That's their guidelines.
So, the only option is to PM and email other hobbyist and providers about this particular client. Can you PM me CurlyW of this client? I want to let other providers know to stay away from him.
I wanted to out him then and there, and certainly don't want to see any of the ladies he raves about.
But outing him can get me banned forever. And I kinda like my handle and all the reviews that I have written..
Those guidelines are out of control- you can't even post news stories
I can't imagine anyone is surprised these requests are made and you made the right decision to completly ignore him and put him on the do not see list. There are health risks with many activities we engage in, but BB greek is certainly the greatest risk. I would let sleeping dogs lie since you didn't see him and he didn't force anything like bb to happen. I would maybe let any provider friends you know hear the story but be careful because you could create problems for yourself with a provider that is friendly with him. Also consider that he may have been testing you to see if that was a menu item...and passed along info that you were willing to do it.
Btw, we have met and you are a truly fantastic date!!
If he has no reviews attached to his handle, just assume "trolling fktard" and move on. If he DOES have reviews, you can certainly blacklist his handle or post about it in the provider only room. I don't much care what anyone says, I will honor the guidelines of TER, but you can bet your ass I will get the word out somewhere else. These guys are walking germ farms, and no one should see them.
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This would have detrimental effect on the entire DMV hobbying community in terms of ruining reputations to potential visiting providers, as DC already has bad rep for NCNS 
It also has potential for spreading STD to fellow hobbists and providers.
Edit: Just read Galaxxxy's reminder about TER privacy policy. So you can't even expose the guy's TER ID/aliases?
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What a provider blogs about, the blacklists she posts, and anything done on her own time off this board is not a matter for TER to bother with. They have enough to do. No one is saying she can't expose this person, just not here. A mass mailer works wonders. 
That ban on posting personal information can be an issue when safety is in question.
I am sure everyone remembers the rash of robberies, assaults, and girls held at gunpoint recently.
If those of us, agencies and independents, had been able to out each one of these very publicly with names, phone numbers, and TER handles, these persons would have been stopped much sooner.
Women were being held at gunpoint, sexually assaulted, and robbed! Yet we couldn't publicly out and of the 4!
I do understand privacy is important. I respect that heartily. And yet in situations like these, when it is so easy for a situation to turn deadly, is respecting their right to privacy the best thing for the community at large
I don't go in there and never have, so not sure what the guidelines are about that place, but on most other boards you can post real emails and phone numbers for issues such as robbery, assault, and rape. Just an email requesting a service, is not viewed as an alert unless the guy FORCES that service when he arrives.
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Apparently Agencies are not considered providers so they don't let us in.
Thank you!
Yes there is an agency only board, however it doesn't address the issue of "industry". TER has always treated Agencies as second class citizens by end result. It is what it is, and you merely work with it.
There is an Agency Alert system in place and information is often shared, however it doesn't help the greater community. Personally, I have always questioned the wisdom of creating division between Agencies and Independents when in reality we all have to deal with the same issues. People who are the mismatcher personality types will argue well your apple pie has a wavy crust and our apple pie crust is smooth, therefore it's not the same. In these moments the concept , "dude it's an apple pie" is totally lost on them.
As an Agency owner, my people come to me for solutions to everything and guess what ? I have to have working answers every-time on every possible issue you could encounter in being a provider. Something most never consider. In the big picture, perhaps we don't need separate boards we're all in the same industry.
As for TER policy, every now and then it is good to stop and examine the paradigm you base a policy on. The prospective may be convenient to you, however it no longer reflects the reality of the people you serve. Business encounters this all the time and is why the capitalist system of competition can create a better product.
Anyway, this issue has been around ever since I can remember and will be around long after many of us are gone. One of many questions is how will we evolve to deal with it ?
Sincerely,
Lee Dreams
"It's all about integrity".
It's very hard to prove who runs an agency..male or female, and they don't want guys in the ladies private room, though I am sure those fkers get in. Bottom line...if you want something to get 'out there' about someone, it's not hard to post a public PDF and it will show up in a google search of the handle you blacklist. Of course, guy can change his handle, but he is also starting all over again.
My comments where about "agencies" male, female, TG ownership for the most part we're regarded the same within the context of my comments. I know this because we communicate.
In reading your reply, I am left with he impression you missed my greater philosophical point... not that it matters ultimately.
Sincerely,
Lee Dreams
"It's all about integrity.
...but I'd like to know who it is, to take some precautions/screen the ladies he's reviewed, for my own safety...BB Greek is Russian Roulette- yikes...
I received the email some time ago and thought the resemblance in writing style was uncanny to this 'heavy hitter' of a poster, but kind of brushed it off. Recently while going through my "do not respond" folder I read the email again and decided to do a bit of research and came up with damning evidence since this person likes to tell many details of their life and everything matched up perfectly.
Obviously I will never see this person, though I'd made that decision a long time ago due to his clear need for attention/ lack of discretion/ a recent admission of unsafe practices/ etc. But do I have an obligation to let other ladies know? I mean I don't have proof of him having necessarily engaging in BB, but isn't "cold" emailing ladies asking for that suggestive that he might ask for it in a session? Or possibly worse yet, just go for it? Or should the email be disregarded and let sleeping dogs lies.
I've been denied access to the Providers Only board repeatedly...
So the tl;dr summary: Frequent TER poster emails asking for unsafe acts; do I have an obligation to let others know? If so via what channels.
There are boards that allow you to post, but be specific that this is simply suspicious and you have not met him. It is great to have the warning out there for other girls to use their discretion, but you don't want to mislead and unnecessarily blacklist someone.
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One of if the the biggest posters on the DC boards has been denounced to me me three times by different ladies as someone who chisels them by offering higher ratings for discounts; ladies, please publicly denounce these as**oles for what they are; same thing in this case. BB may be a diff issue but lying is the same. Sorry to be the white knight but ...
I received the email some time ago and thought the resemblance in writing style was uncanny to this 'heavy hitter' of a poster, but kind of brushed it off. Recently while going through my "do not respond" folder I read the email again and decided to do a bit of research and came up with damning evidence since this person likes to tell many details of their life and everything matched up perfectly.
Obviously I will never see this person, though I'd made that decision a long time ago due to his clear need for attention/ lack of discretion/ a recent admission of unsafe practices/ etc. But do I have an obligation to let other ladies know? I mean I don't have proof of him having necessarily engaging in BB, but isn't "cold" emailing ladies asking for that suggestive that he might ask for it in a session? Or possibly worse yet, just go for it? Or should the email be disregarded and let sleeping dogs lies.
I've been denied access to the Providers Only board repeatedly...
So the tl;dr summary: Frequent TER poster emails asking for unsafe acts; do I have an obligation to let others know? If so via what channels.
Rules are posted, not handed out to each member via PM.
Read the guideline for yourself and post his handle
Posting personal information of members or providers, including content copied from their emails and Private Messages, is grounds for BANISHMENT. This includes PMs between TER and members."
That's not really helpful and specific enough. That is just a general statement. Think it is time for TER to be more specific on this section of their guidelines. So, you CANNOT post his TER handle publicly on a regional board because of the feedback I just got from TER.
We all know you cannot post "personal information" such as his real name, telephone number, or email address. But, is his TER handle also be considered personal information too? The answer is yes. That's their guidelines.
So, the only option is to PM and email other hobbyist and providers about this particular client. Can you PM me CurlyW of this client? I want to let other providers know to stay away from him.
I wonder if its him.