Have a bible study every night and read a different chapter from the book of proverbs. Especially chapter 5, it deals with prostitution.
...summer job turns out to be a provider for an agency in DC and you found out because you were cruising the board looking for a 20 something to spend a few hours with?
Can't tell the wife. How do I explain TER?
If you are serious here is an option..........
If you are divorced or seperated and still on good terms, get in touch with mom and tell her that you were informed by a friend. Have mom approach daughter, saying that she was told about the situation. Get her out of the business. Too many wierdos out there no matter how carefull she may be.
I don't mean to sound all hi and mighty. I am in the hobby, but when I visit a provider it's just me I have to worry aoount and probably the worst that will ever happen is maybe being arrested. For a provider they face serious risks with everyone they see.
I don't think I could handle being close to a provider. I would contantly be worried.
Good luck. And you never know, maybe just someone stole her picture.
Thanks, I actually thought that at first but it just doesn't seem possible. I'm going to contact the agency on soome advice from some fellow hobbyists and concerned agency owners.
What is a girl to do when her daddy marries his new trophy wife an she is just out of collage?
Be an escort and get paid to screw daddy's wealthy friends!
lol
I did.
After all trusts funds are for traveling , shopping , and partying- in South Florida anyway.
Well now she knows that you know since you posted on this board.
Regardless of whether you agree with what she is doing or not, it is her decision. Not yours. I don't think you should expose her to her mother nor anyone else. Would you want her to expose you if the tables were turned? I highly doubt it.
My opinion is to leave her alone and let her decide what works for her in HER life.
As for the gent who said this business is dangerous. Many positions in life are dangerous. If you handle this biz properly and screen well, it is safe and fun.
psychologist69, Maybe it's time to start cruising for some 30 somethings to spend time with!
Take Care, Betty xoxo
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So the rest of us can go see her!
JK..dude, this is like the worst thing. I honestly
do not know what I would do..
Either leave her alone
OR if you're worried about her safety, well-being and long term mental health -
Blame it on a colleague or family friend finding her and tell her to cut it out.
She'll be so mortified that she'll stop.
How would you prevent a future relapse? Or in other words, does your prescription only treatment of the symptoms and not a cure?
I assume that your posing here is an indication that you returned to providing.
You probably have the best perspective on why a woman starts providing and the durability of the shock effect of an intervention.
I have lots of empathy for a person trying to help someone else despite the appearances of hypocrisy.
and send her to you.
I'll send her back with a review stuck to her ass.
I would DIE if my dad were to find out about this. However, if she is over 21, your hands are kind of tied, and it's not like you can ask someone for assistance (spouse, friend, etc) because of your own privacy concerns. What a position to be in, Good Lord!
You really don't have much of a moral ground to stand on at this point, eventhough you're the dad. She isn't doing anything worse than you are; and I am not judging either of you.
Sounds like you're pursuing a few good options, good luck. I sincerely hope you find a solution both of you can live with.
so she works for an agency who posted her picture here with unmasked face?
life father, like daughter
you at least have the benefit of knowing before a more serious life changing experience occurred
it could have been worse, her face might have been masked and you might have paid a visit
unless you are ready to turn your world upside down and stop your hobbying there isnt a good option here
and it is possible you have stirred up a few agency owners and girls from posting to the same board you found her ad
id be sick if I had a daughter working in this biz and it would probably make me quit
but as betty said its her life and you are a day late raising her to be something other than a provider
oh and I think its hypocritical you being a hobbyist not accepting whats good for the goose is not good for the gander
of course if this was your son you found out was a hobbyist would you try to get him to stop?
I have no idea what I would do if this happened to me. I know for sure that I wouldn't read her reviews.
Good luck fellow in whatever you decide. Having two daughters myself, my heart really goes out to you.
It's interesting to read the reactions of men with daugters....
"I would be motified if my daughter....,"
"my heart goes out to you........"
Yet you happily plunk down your money for another mans daughter and we write glwoing reviews of how sweet a person she was and we had such a good time...etc etc etc
Ladies/Providers what are your thoughts on this "double standard." Now dont get me wrong I have 2 daughters and I would be mortified but considering we are supporters of this industry it's a thin line between mortification and satisfaction ..... I guess
I agree with your sentiment. Someone on top wrote something to the effect of, "well you raised her to be a provider and nothing else" - I was slightly offended by that (and I DO have somewhat of a "thick-skinned" personality) because there actually are professional, career-minded and 9-5 working class providers- there are all kinds of different providers for the variety of hobbyists.
Furthermore, EVERY woman is someone's daughter and/or sister (grand-daughter, niece, and cousin) so I don't know what gives....
That's like saying your daughter shouldn't be a bartender because you are an alcoholic!
My point is that if you have a heart at all, you have to feel for him. He asked for suggestions, not to lay blame by analyzing double standards.
Have a bible study every night and read a different chapter from the book of proverbs. Especially chapter 5, it deals with prostitution.
Okay i think you are in the wrong website.....
This job is not for everyone and after her experimentation she may discover its not for her. As you mentioned she is college age a time for trying on different hats to see what fits.
As a good dad my advice to you would be .. Be there for her to talk to and ask advice but ultimately she is an adult now and her life choices are her own
good luck
Not to be ragging on you daughter, but it is hard to believe that she would be that stupid to escort in her home town.
Had a similar experience were i visited a former neighbors daughter. Her family and mine still keep in contact so it was very awkward. We talked for a few and both promised to keep this our secret and I left. She still calls me Mr.-----
Either support her and show her how to be successful at it or make her pay back the 100k for school. Plenty of dads support daughters in porn.
many famous review writers apparently like to hunt in the same age groups as you do and also visit agencies.
my heart goes out to you on this one!.
Word of advice;
Agency owners visit this site as well. Not sure if their girl do as they are managed. Make sure she does not get hurt if someone thinks she is a trouble maker by having her dad on the board
Book her. Have the discussion after she opens the door.
ha ha ha, lol this gets my vote!!!! i vote you book her!!!!
So it's true! The apple doesn't fall far from the tree.
You don't have to go into the whole drama of how you found out - certainly there are plausible scenarios on that front. Talk to her about it. See where she sees herself in this. State your preference. Leave it at that.
you know Dr. Drew of TV and radio fame for giving advice on addictions and sexual behaviour
He says the majority of them have had some abuse in their childhood/life that contributes to their "chosen" profession.
Did you molest your daughter and/or was she molested as a child
Dr. Drew and the rest of the world (apparently you too Tall6969) like to regurgitate this little "fact", but it is really a bit skewed IMO.
First off, not all sex workers have sexual abuse history. I know plenty that don't.
Second, why is this a something that is only asked of OUR profession, as if sexual abuse must equal a person entering sex work?? What other professions are routinely asked this question to see what OTHER professions attract a higher number of abuse victims?? Social workers?? Psychologists?? Nurses?? Teachers?? Cops?? Many people that suffer abuse as a child turn to social service type industries to understand their abuse and help others in similar situations. It makes sense that those that have had abuse *might* gravitate towards this profession in a conscious or not attempt to understand or work through abuse issues. Granted, it can also lead to unhealthy patterns or a repetition of abuse also, but these blanket judgements as if all sex workers are damaged worse then anyone else in society is total BS.
Third, sex work like stripping has become more accepted in society, making it an easier jump to escorting for younger girls now a days IMO. And just consider the options for jobs out there right now....
Our society continues to send messages to our girls and women regarding sexualization and desirability that IMO is just as responsible for luring women into sex work as any actual sexual abuse issues might. Couple that with any sort of financial need and that pull becomes all the stronger.
Regards,
Megan
I for one, and most of the ladies I know have not been sexually abused as children/teens. I am not saying some haven't, but you can't generalize like that. Might as well say we are all active crack smoking addicts too.
If that is true, is it safe to say that the teachers/pastors that are being brought up on sexual molestation charges were also sexually abused? Should we home school our children to keep them away from "all" the perverted teachers. That's the problem with so called experts giving the "facts". Statistics can be reworked to say what you want them to say.
As for the poster's dilemna, as an active participant in the hobby, he really has no say. Talk about the pot calling the kettle black... Especially if he is seeing girls young enough to be his daughter. They are ALL someone's daughter. I would think that if he has paid that much on her education, she has to have some sense to her. Trust that she is making the best decisions she can, by herself, for herself.
Like Betty said, maybe it's time to start hitting the higher age brackets...
Kari
are sex addicts who don't have any real respect or appreciation for women, and that some trauma or abuse put them in that position.
If you live in a glass house, don't throw stones.
If not for the obvious reasons, some of the responses you've received should reinforce the fact that you need to keep her as far away from some of these assholes as possible.
Some of you fucking guys are amazing. Time to look in the mirror.
Fuck her
a golden opportunity to have an honest conversation with your daughter about two things: 1) her choice to be a college aged girl who gets paid for sexual companionship; and 2)your choice to pay college aged girls for sexual companionship. I don't see how you can discuss this with her without being honest with her about yourself. My simple advice is to take some time to figure out exactly what problems you have with her doing this. Then explain them to her, being honest about your own choice to be in this hobby. You should also give her a full opportunity to explain her choice. At the end of the day, you should make it clear that it's her choice and you will support her no matter what she decides.
Young people are not stupid. If she hears "My buddy ___ told me that he saw your ad for escort services," she will interpret "My buddy ___" as being you. Then you will be viewed as a hypocrite and what you say will fall on deaf ears.
I feel for you, but such is the cycle of life. Confront her gently and only say a friend recognized or thought it was her and gave you the site. Have an adult conversation and if she's doing it for money, but remember, like you, she may like to fuck and how do you argue with that?
Very tough situation...
Or... you write a screenplay about it.
As a hobbyist I'd say to leave it alone, to me it's a little hypocritical if you endulge in the hobby yet think it's bad for her to do so.
I think what's good for the goose is good for the gander.
I remember some years back that Maury Povich had a Mother and Daughter who both worked at The Bunny Ranch on his show. Well you can imagine how much crap the mom was dealt from the audience. But she shut them ALL up when she made this statement...."My daughter likes sex & money....where else can she get both in a safe environment? Also anyone who thinks they can stop their daughter from having sex for money is kidding themselves. If its in them to do it, they are going to do it."
Strong words but they are true.
To me its no different than if she was doing Playbou/Penthouse or Adult Videos...you either support or not. But its her decision.
Depending on what type of relationship you have with her....you can tell her you know and see why she got into it.
Also maybe check out the agency make sure they are reputable.
Thats just my opinion but then again Im a very open minded person.
I agree with Christian advice.
You need to be honest and talk to her, or just stay quiet and watch her back, and make sure she is working with a safe/professional agency.
If you lie to her that you fund out from your "friend”, She will find a way to say in the business and continue to work.. and it could be worse….. she will think that you don't know anything/much about this business, so she will start working with another agency or getting new body pictures, change her name, wear a wig, etc…. maybe by then you will think its another 20 something Provider, and call for her… that could be even worse than now…
Maybe she is new in the business, we don’t know if she will say around...
My advice; take your time and think about it very well… I know its not easy.. you never expected from her, I feel you...
But, Put yourself in her shoes, and ask yourself... if you were her, "what would you want your father/mother to do"
At the end of the day, you are her Father, and you know what to do....
Accept her as she is. When you see her, give her a big hug and ask her if she's OK. And hope you never run into her on one of your visits.
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Perhaps it's time we accept that escorting is just another legitimate business and that there should be no strings, secrecy, or embarrassment attached to it. We are far behind our Euopean cousins in this matter. If there are no guilt nor betrayal trips associated with it, then we'll all become a healthier, more happy society.
I am glad I'm not in your shoes but hope things work out okay!
Well no sense in pretending like it's not messed up. Even though you support this hobby, any human being would feel bad if they found out their wife, daughter, niece, etc was doing this. Especially when you consider what YOU have been doing with someone's else daughter, etc. All i'm saying is even though you support this thing of course you will feel bad about your daughter doing. You have the following choices. At least that's how i see it.
1) Quit doing this altogether, then tell her you used to do this and why she should stop.
2) If she's over 21, that's a double blow for you because she's legal now and you are kind of stuck. Especially since you are a customer yourself. Only choice here is to let her be and watch over her safety. Even advise if you can.
3) Tell her what you know and let her decide what to do?
4) pretend you are not a customer at all and just go nuts !!!. Say someone told you about it.
Sorry that's all i got since you potentially could have been one of her new clients. I guess just be glad you found out prior to that and go from there. Good luck to you and despite what people say on this board. Right or wrong, it is disturbing. At this point, a tough decision has to be made as you already know. Good luck and sorry this happened.
You should set up an appointment with her and then confront her. When you are trying to past their screening, be smart and do use all of your real contacts.
I think you would scare the crap out of her and hopefully steer her straight.