I wouldn't tell on anyone else,no reason to snitch on myself.

Just wondering who you talk to about your hobby if its your friends or family or co workers?

I've wanted to tell some male friends, because I think they'd enjoy trying it themselves, but for some reason I can't bring myself to do it.  Somehow it seems more embarrassing to tell a guy friend, even though they'd probably be fairly intrigued, whereas the reaction of all of my female friends I've told was not very positive.

You're kidding, right?

some friends do and some do not.

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I told my oldest friend mainly so I could have someone help me get out of jail if I ever got caught.  We have been friends for 40 years, and we are not in regular social contact.  I find it hard to keep my mouth shut when someone starts a self righteous rant about the evils of prostitution,  but do so to protect my family mainly.   I dont want them burned by my behavior.   If i were alone, I am sure I would be much more vocal about it, at least in general terms.

mostly because a few of the losers over there couldn't deal with the fact that the woman I am now married to knows all about my activities and in fact allows me to step out once in awhile (with limitations).

My regualtions:

(1) only women under 25 (I guess she figures I won't run off with someone so young LOL)
(2) only BBBJ, no intercourse
(3) NO Greek
(4) She gets a new BMW every 3 years (not a joke!)

Now, I'm sure many of you are thinking "how the hell does she know if I'm following the rules?". It's called honesty and trust. She trusts me and in return I respect her wishes.

To be honest, I have only stepped out maybe 2 times in the last 3 years. This might be because the "fear of being caught" factor has been removed from the equation which actually takes some of the excitement with it!

So your wife knows you're following the rules because of honesty and trust. But you rarely step out now because that honesty and trust took the fear of being caught away, which took the fun out of it for you??? Which implies the honesty and trust weren't always there. OK...if you say so.  And now you're a Saint? Congrats on your promotion! For someone that only steps out twice in three years you sure do post a lot! I don't know who negotiated your deal but you're admitting to two non-wife BJ's per BMW!! Yet you seem to actually be proud! I don't get it, but thanks for the laugh!

But they don't really get the "hobby". They just think I know and play with party girls.

I bet I don't have a dozen posts on this board!  

As to your assessment of my sistuation, like I said, a lot of people can't handle it.

since Monday.   Which is fine you can post as much or as little as you want.  But you might be posting more than you realize and  bit less than your critic thinks.

Personally I think you contribute to the board in a lot of ways probably as much as some others and certainly more than I do.

Friends introduced me to the hobby, and I've passed the knowledge on to a few more.

"Open Secret" amoung friends

ie. those that know me can figure it out, if they care/want to know,  but no one brings it up unless I do first.

I'm just curious why, after telling three female friends and getting a negative reaction, you decided to tell a fourth female friend.

That is, there were too many things I wanted to talk to them about that either required building and maintaining a big ball of lies or just telling them the truth.  It wasn't really a big deal - I don't always like all the decisions they make either.

As I have said before, I hobby with full permission of the spouse.  And yes, we have rules that must be followed.  She has veto power over my choices.  Be it civie or P4P, she has to give the OK.  We have an open and honest relationship that many folks choose not to understand.

And it's very true that since the "forbidden fruit" aspect is not there, I'm not tempted to act irresponsibly in order to take advantage of an "opportunity" like other guys. Since I can go to my wife and say, "I'd really like to experience this lady" I avoid the dangers of trying to bang the babysitter, secretary, stripper, coworker, sister-in-law, etc.  You know, the sort of stuff that tabloid headlines, lawsuits, and divorce decrees are made of.  

We're not just spouses, we're best friends and revel in the happiness of the other.  

We still hang our regularly, and she wanted to know why I am often unavailable. The truth is, she asked me if she could meet my ATF. Not gonna happen.

Ex-wife - she's a reference.
Cousin
some friends.

Ummm well the magical search feature will tell you otherwise. Try 40+ posts since you "resurfaced". That's just under your current handle. And that's just THIS board. So yes, for someone claiming to only get a BJ twice every three years, you post a lot! And if you spend that kind of time on the boards not getting any more action than that, you probably wank a lot, too! Nothing wrong with that, though.

Now, exactly what is it you think people can't handle? What is there to handle? You claim your "situation" got you in trouble on another board. I think you're just having trouble with the English language. That's all.

You see, when someone doesn't believe you, it doesn't mean they can't handle anything. It means they don't believe you. In this case, you should be flattered because by not believing you, the members of the boards are saying there's no way you're as big of an idiot as you're claiming to be. Nobody would buy their wife a new car every three years to be allowed to have just two BJs from other women. Not even an idiot. Trust me on this. And don't argue with me. If you argue with me at this point, you'll just demonstrate that you want us to think you're more of an idiot than we're giving you credit for. Just trust me. You're fine right where you are.

Your "situation" didn't get you into any trouble on this board or any others. It's simply unbelievable. You failed to convince anyone that you're being truthful. While I'm sure there are some guys that hobby with their wife's consent, if you were one of those guys you'd act like you've been there before. Instead, your post comes across as screaming, "Look at me!!! Hey everybody, here I am!!! Look at me!!! Envy me!!!! Don't you wish you were me?!?!!?? Me me me!!!!!!!!!" FAIL! Definitely FAIL!! You know how people go around saying "FML" all the time and what it means, right? Because your posts has people saying "FYL"! Is that what you want?