hello all... its been a long time.. i have been preoccupied with life and thus have not had much time to hobby or do much of anything else. hope all is well with everyone.

i have a question today about divorce.  i know we are all involved in a risque lifestyle that is accepted by some and not by others, i know i've enjoyed it a great deal but as of late has brought some questions to mind.

I m wondering how many of you are divorced? providers and hobbyists alike. did you divorce before getting into the hobby or after? if so what was it like? did you have a hard time dealing with the SO after.. what kind of financial strain did it put you through?

any input is always appreciated.

thanks. and hobby safe!

I've been separated for 11 years but not yet divorced. She has been very uncooperative and difficult perhaps because she's been living in the big house that was paid off 10 years ago. I tried to be reasonable and be business-like in dealing with her but she is still angry and bitter. Now that my youngest child is graduating from college I am restarting the process; I will get it done this time. Financially it has been difficult for me. We could've retired early, in our 50's, if we had stayed together, but now I'll have to work for a living until I'm 70. I know a lot of couples stayed together for financial reasons but that would not work for me.

As for the hobby, cheating has never been my thing. I had sex with only one woman the first 50 years of my life; since then, over 100 different women. If I was lucky enough to find the right woman I'd be monogamous again.

Why do you care? That's too personal a question to ask on a hobby board, and its totally irrelevant to hobbying.

Everyone has their own personal lives, and family life, personal finances, are best kept out of public discussion..

That's just my take..

So then I as usually will jump.

Hope not to irritate you with my  upscale story again ha ha h/

I never was married in states  was divorced in Germany   from my German Russian Husband because met
as I was thinking love of my love - American man!!!..

I moved to states .. he fixed all papers took me with my  two kids and I am in Denver .. and you know  in very first month I understood  what it was about

As many of you want high end woman here but can not afford have  such escort be with him all day around  so then you boys going to Russia and taking from there pretty women  with MBA educations  high cultured  and  good wives and lovers.. you have such here but why you do there? see deals ..
as on  the sale .. for half price .
You have such women here as well .. but yes they will talk $$$ language mostly then,
and when i was moving here I even not asked his annual income and what he is doing -   as to my  Russian old fashion upbringing.- it is not a questions to ask man  you think you love.
count his income ..it kills love then.. yes ?? it is how we do process in Russia
. it is major  reason that American males travel abroad  to bring a woman .. and Iam naive .. was believing in love that he truly loved me  and want me for right reasons- all what he  was doing - it is  making nice deal how he said back then nice package - amazing women with two talented kids( and my  kids yes .. already famous one already other going there )
so his exact words were
"   you are Nice package  on the sale for half price"
I guess he also was in this hobby ..
so
I did rebelled  and said - i am not a deal on sale .. and I left him even not marry him
I applied for political asylum  and I get it - have reasons .
Then I went all way to college  from an associate to MBA now and graduated in 2008...  with MBA  and it is when market crashed
With my accent.. with my hot appearance   and independent character I am irritating many  and on job places.. you know I prefer bend over here  then in offices .. and you would not believe ..  actually one client wanted to give me job in his office - I asked him what I will do - he said - bend over in my office when I tell you .. and he was giving nice salary.. . and told me - you be a queen in my office  they will afraid you as they afraid me .. ( it is here  in  states .. no made up .. he has many offices ove states and kind of crazy powerful man - I am also  crazy powerful but  there  is a difference- I can not  make people feel bad I can not abuse them...
and it  was .. weird .. to  do as he suggested ..  he said - we MAY BE then marry .. I said  if I be bending in your office and they - employees would know that - I be better wife - i did turn down good  money ..
what do you think I done it wrong ??
so ok any way ..
about hobby husbands  clients lovers and kids..

and  Now economy is recovering a bit  may be I  be willing find employment by my education.
But I never will stop be a lover as you know.

I want write a book in the best scenario make a movie about life .. and it be not as  this high end escort   did" Diary of call girl" it is .. just entertaining show  soap opera ..  I want make a movie about journey of strong woman country to country  Russia , Germany .. France  and states.  ...  Real life  journey and not twisted  views on what is escorting and why it  is that here so many good  people who are not cheaters and not stupid whores ..  and etc ..

I will do one day  write the book - who want make movie or who can connect me with people who be interested to work on such with me  - OOO !! it be way more interesting this this one Arbitrage movie .. seem one ?? and this one Heartbreakers who someone supposed me to watch .. there notjign to watch ..it is a joke  comedy .. yes  .. may be but soon it become .. lame .. do not you think ?? If I make movie ..it will grab you and will hold your heart  from first min to  the  rest of your life If you have heart of course
 so it is my life story now you know it  all  thanks  read  my reviews and help me with my journey.
Truly yours





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I am in a largely sexless but far from loveless marriage. My wife probably strongly suspects, but we have never talked about it. We have kids and lots of financial obligations to each other, but that is not why I stay. I am not looking for an exit.

If it ever became a financial strain, that would be an enormous problem for her. I make sure that it isn't.

However, I feel most guilty about the emotional bond that I seek and sometimes get. As you can tell from my reviews, I look for not just GFE but actual girlfriends. When I find someone I click with, I stick with her and become kind of exclusive. In my fantasies, my wife and girlfriend would be comfortable with each other even if they weren't friends. In reality, I do things with my GF that both she and I like to do and my wife doesn't like to do (not just or even mostly in bed).

Very few providers I have known well enough to know were blushing virgins or nearly so when they started. They have all been married, de facto married, or the "other woman." Of course, I skew toward well-reviewed, grown-up, and relationship-oriented ladies, so this may reflect my preferences.

I hope that this addresses your questions.

Well they could be asking out of pure scientific curiosity. If so it may be a valid social-anthropological question is the divorce rate higher than the social norm among providers?

If this hypothesis is true then of said respondents which groups prefers rocky road ice cream over French vanilla?

* laugh *

All kidding a side there is trend I have notice with unmarried providers, having intimacy issues of various kinds. More so than I see in my other more civilian business interests. However, that is just a personal observation and in no way scientific.

It would be an interesting study (at least to me) for the sake of pure knowledge and no agenda.


Lee Dreams
"Sine amore, nihil est vita