"...they don't do some things with people they would be willing to do them with, because they're afraid everyone will come to expect it."
The story of my life! I've seen 7 providers but haven't actually has sex with any of them, because each and every one of them told me that if they had sex with me, then everybody would expect it.
OK, that's not true. I just made it up.
I just saw a well-established local provider, who has pages and pages of good to great reviews. Her profile says no anal, and I read a couple of pages of reviews, and spot-checked the others, and there is no report of her providing Greek -- except one recent review. There is also only one review -- the same one -- that says she swallows.
There are only two possibilities here: that the reviewer misrepresented what she did; or that she made a rare exception for him on one or both. In this case, I happen to believe her. (She says she does neither -- the first because she never has, and the second because she has a college degree in the sciences and has read that there are enzymes in the mouth that protect against HIV that are not present in the rest of the digestive tract.) But that is almost beside the point.
If reviews say that someone is willing to do things that she doesn't or does only rarely as a special favor or because she gets carried away, it doesn't do anybody any favors to discuss it in a review. Other hobbiests will be frustrated because they won't get something they may have expected based on the review; and the women have to deal with resentment that they haven't caused.
As a relative newcomer both to this board and to seeing escorts, I was struck by how often experienced hobbiests would either say YMMV (sometimes when they'd had a particularly good experience, sometimes when they'd been disappointed), and how sometimes reviews would say something like "I'm not going to write about some things, because I'm not sure she does it for everyone." That, it seems to me, is the right way to deal with it. Some women have told me that they don't do some things with people they would be willing to do them with, because they're afraid everyone will come to expect it. The odds are that not every escort has the same men in mind when they don't do something they would be willing to do for him but not others. So we're all just hurting ourselves, and denying ourselves some special treatment, if we don't exercise a little restraint -- and, of course, honesty -- when we write reviews.
Read the same review, knew it was complete BS. I've read quite a number of reviews where I was sure they were fictional post. I know from my previous tour in this hobby that some things the lady performs are best left out of any public forum. I do realize that there are some that like to brag and boast. That is the best way to get cut off from some really exciting and unique experiences.
You're never going to get honest posting from some posters. Read and follow those well known and take the others as wishful thinking or creative writing. If you're not sure about what you've read, PM some of the more experienced posters here.
If one(not directed at farsideof50) doesn't understand by now that these reviews are personal experiences written by the author(those that are legit) and are NOT a guarantee of anything to anyone else reading them.
And, if you're the type to go into a meeting with certain expectations but have no idea how to discuss/confirm or ask politely about them then you shouldn't be doing so.
Use the reviews as a guide of a potential experience, and not as a check-list. Just like focusing too much on the numbers, don't focus too much on the acronyms.
The other tough realization you will somtimes have to admit is it could be YOU(that's the problem) and not the provider.
I will admit it. I am one that can never find out before I arrive if certain things are provided. And once I arrive I can't seem to leave. The response is always " I can't answer that over the phone"
So how do you ask a provider if they bbbj or dfk before the appointment.
quote:And once I arrive I can't seem to leave end quote
Me either, but we both need to work on this!
quote:So how do you ask a provider if they bbbj or dfk before the appointment end quote
You can't and don't. If you can't find any info here, take a chance. But, don't set yourself up for a disappointment. Every experience can be a good one if you enjoy and focus on what it is you are doing.
Getting disappointed or letting something bother you while you're meeting will just ruin the rest of your time. Make the best of any situation, otherwise you might as well leave.
There are still a lot of guys who talk a good game. You know how most of the ladies have on their websites a request that we be showered and clean when we arrive. Do you know why they put that there? Because a lot of guys aren't. You may think you're the fattest, ugliest guy out there. You may think you have the smallest d!ck she's ever seen (not to worry, I hold that honor, my d!ck has produced more lesbians than an Indigo Girls concert.) But the reality is, she's seen fatter, shorter, balder(if that's a word,) and smaller, than you. If whe doesn't offer a certain service it may be for a number of reasons. She could be tired. Maybe not feeling well. Maybe not too comfortable around you. Maybe you're appt #7 for the day, and she's just burned out. Maybe the lack of DFK is because your teeth are moldy and your breath smells like you've been eating cat food. It could be you, it could be her. Either way you can guarantee YMMV to some degree in all cases.
i thinkas long as u floss n brush your teeth; shave n scrub the nuts; and spray some deoderint on u should be good to go.
since im a massage therapist i alwaysstart off by my seduction by massage techniques.women fall weak every time.itgets em in the mood
i cant help youwith a small dick tho.
Whoa Dog, what if I make a false move or two? Ouch! Besides, I'd rather leave that up to the provider... "Just a trim and a shave this time ma'am, and go easy on the Aqua Velva" (OUCH again)!
maybe u should consider gointo a professional nut shaver.do they have those round?a massage place where i worked some guy cam ein and requested his nuts be waxed by this hot waxer there.
she came over to his placeon her own free time and he paid her a gran to wax his nuts.
but i think you can get a ton of extra mileage with shaved nuts.i have let my own go a few times and couldvce sworn i didnt get the same response as i did with naked nuts.i have found providers who would lick,suck and tickle down there and even start to puta finger al ittle lower cuz they felt comfertable and asssumed i would be clean.
but dont put aqua velva there it would sting, your right.
You said he paid her a "gran". I fear you may have meant a GRAND. Not economical. I have had numerous dominatrices do it for a WHOLE LOT LESS. Then, they did a helluva lot ELSE, too!
"...they don't do some things with people they would be willing to do them with, because they're afraid everyone will come to expect it."
The story of my life! I've seen 7 providers but haven't actually has sex with any of them, because each and every one of them told me that if they had sex with me, then everybody would expect it.
OK, that's not true. I just made it up.
I don't think we will ever be able to stop guys from posting false reviews or sharing a secret between them and a provider. However, don't think it hurts to post when guys post obviously false reviews (or pm'ing them like Jeop did), perhaps they will think twice the next time.
That said, I think for most providers there are enough reviews that if you read through them and weed out the extremes on both ends you will have a pretty good idea of what you will encounter.
JT made a good point the you should not build expectations so high that if something on your check list is not met, say a bbbj, you have a bad time. I remember scheduling a session with Summer of BDJ when she had no reviews. Liked her look, she was young and thin with natural breasts. Because of her age and lack of reviews I tried to lower my expectations to a cbj and lfk. Well, when she kissed great and gave a nice bbbj I was sky high. If you go in with super high expectations, especially when reviews are mixed, you are setting yourself up for disapointment.
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