Does anyone know if these adult friend finder or lonely housewife sites really work? They want a big fee to correspond with others on the network. The only thing that got me interested is a story from a friend that said he put in his zipcode and found someone on his same street on there with a picture of her. He said it was definitelty her. These women claim to just want sex. It isn't something I would dabble in much, could lead to problems I dont want. Im just interested in hearing stories from people who have tried this service.

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AdultFriendFinder has been very good to me, but there are issues.  

I used it for a few years, before ending about three years ago, so my experience may be outdated.  I also noted that over that time the place was becoming more overrun with ads for women that really turned out to be ads for cam sites, porn sites, and I believe a provider or two.  Add to that the fact that men outnumber women about fifteen to one and the following facts should make sense.

It is very time-consuming.  You have to send out a lot of e-mails in order to get a reply or two.  I developed one long letter, from which I would cut and paste and add in stuff specific to the addressee.  That saved some time.

It helps if you have a hook.  I made sure the stuff I sent out was well-written, passionate, intelligent, sensitive, and tinged with a little more than a hint of danger and dominance.  I found that got a lot of the right ones interested; those seeking something different than hubby.  

We're still talking about a lot of work, here.  First there is the composing, then the tailored mass-mailings, then the discourse, then the sorting out who is real, reasonable looking, not insane, and willing to meet.  

You also have to strike first, which means watching for the new members in your area, in order to e-mail them before they open up their box and find 176 e-mails from sweaty, horny men.  Then you have to get them to meet and hope they like you.

Don't get me wrong, I met some smoking hot women there and young ones too.  But I hate to say it; I have a few things going for me, or at least I did in those days.  Even given that, it was a huge investment of time and energy, that was worth it once I had developed a little stable.  But I'd hate to do all that leg work all over again.

Here the investment is money, and a lot less time -- to do the reading/research that this site provides inexpensively.  And as a friend of mine says, "I don't pay women to come over.  I pay them to leave."  I had one or two of those AFF girls who made themselves into a bit of a problem.  Some of them also have husbands.  

All in all, I am happier here.

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I've wondered too--but, not too much. The actual "women who want sex" can find it without a web site. So I've heard it's mostly women you might not want to have sex with, and professionals of dubious rep. Haven't tried it myself.

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Think about it. "If it sounds too good to be true, then it usually is".
 Don't waste your money.

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Great reply Atavistic, could not have said it any better.
I to spent alot of time On Aff a couple of years ago.
I spent a good couple of months trying to figure out how to get replys. Just like "Atv" said, you have to be very creative in writing a good response, cut, paste, mass mail.
I had met probably 5 women from there. The biggst problem that i had with the meeting of these women was that, 1st,the amount of time you have to talk to them before meeting them is alot, 2nd you have to develop a trust and most importantly she has  got to somewhat to trust you, 3rd, this all takes time. alot of time !!!
When this all happened with me i had one "problem" now i don't know if this happened with everybody.
But, i found the women got a little attached. Most of the women were married and doing this because they are not getting something at home. Most of the time and from what i found out from this site was that, "That something" was not sex it was emotional reinforcement. It felt like they were trading sex for somebody to be nice or to be emotionaly supportive to them.
This usually causes a problem in the long and short term.
Because you have to show emotional support to get to the sex and then when you get to the sex they think they have everything that they dont have in there marriage or at home and this usually causes in there mind a "relationship". Very hard to get out of without anybody getting hurt. Usually does not end up well in the end.
MY Advice use TER pay a couple of $$s avoid the hastle get want you want and nobody gets hurt

-- Modified on 10/25/2005 6:53:39 AM

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Well, thanks for that advice. I will stay away. I dont need those problems, especially with what I have at home. I have been happy here, I just needed to hear a good testimonial. Thanks

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I've done it for a while now, it's cheaper, but a LOT more difficult. Tons of ads and fakes. I'm a pretty good looking guy and don't usualy have a problem finding girls but I don't want a relationship. That said,  the girls just have SO many guys to choose from. The ones I have met are passionate, but not great lookers. I'm not sure If I saw them out when with my S.O. that they wouldn't want to say hi or some shit. It's more leg work than going to a bar and less successful. So much energy expended - I'm letting my membership go at the end of this term and just saving my $ for the best providers in DC. Like someone said - we pay them to go away, and that's where the real value is if you've ever been persued by someone you'd rather not continue a relationship with.