I am not sure the exact answer, but I think you need to find either a doctor or a provider you can talk to about this... but not just anyone, you need to be able to open up and be honest without fear of ridcule or judgment... thats the person you need... (tough I know, but with your post as an Alias - I have now idea who you have seen to get an idea as to who can help...

I had some issue with ED (Lost a family memeber last year and I still am not right) when normally I am hard as steel... so I talked to a few doctors and most wanted to give me the little blue pill.. I really didn't want to go down that route so I asked a one *provider* to give me some advice and for the most part it worked... ( I am not 100% but its way better now )... and I'd go on to say most of it is/was mental... (*if you read my reviews you should quickly be able to tell who the provider was - as I don't want to seem like a shill)


I think if you talk to your ATF they might be able  give you some pointers.... they may actually get turned on by the fact you want to learn how last longer for your partner and dive right in to help...

My 2 sents (Ain't worth much these days but atleast its 2 pennies)

While this may not solve every man's issue on lasting longer... it will certainly help quite a few!
The key Ive found is to be an unselfish lover who regularly is monitoring your progress or excitement level. I have rarely had a lover cum faster then he wished for. There are ways to hold a man back from cumming. To bring him very close but not close enough. When he tells me it is time, then I bring him to that point and he is happy that he lasted so long. The only time Im not able to help a man last, is when he won't let me take control and just tells me to keep doing something that feels soooooo good, and then..... *bam* hes a gonner
I do not use any sort of tantra. In fact, Im not too big a fan of it, since it sometimes makes a man NEVER cum! And I do love an end result that is there as evidence for my own eyes to see...
Just make sure you have an unselfish lover who is monitoring your excitement level throughout your love-making. And if you find this sort of lover, don't be afraid to tell her to "slow down" when you are getting too excited or to "go ahead, I'm ready" when you are ok with ending.
Also.... booking longer appointments will be an ideal option for you. This way, on your first cup, you will have down-time to chat and most likely be able to have another round.
I personally have absolutely no problem with a man who cums fast. My most serious relationship was with a French man who came within 5-10 minutes. It was his lust level that I cared about. How much did he want me? That is all I cared about. Those few minutes that he was inside me was heaven. I loved him dearly and I was just happy to become one with him. It was never an issue of timing.
I dont know you or your wife, but perhaps you should ask yourself a few of these questions. Is she a selfish or unselfish lover? As well as your providers. Are they in a hurry to get you out the door? If they are, then they will not hold you back but rather encourage you to cum faster then you needed. If you find a caring and unselfish provider, tell her these things and have her pay very close attention.
But all in all, I hate seeing a man beat himself up about how long he lasts. I have never worried about having a lover last long, and it is sad for me to think that some women play off of this insecurity in men. Please don't let this diminish your sexual self esteem. Sexual self esteem begins in the mind. If you let this get you down, that will play part in your performance more then anything else.

Love, Flora