Because there is conflict of interest. Which woman does not want to be regular with a decent man. Thats stable money coming in month after month for 6 months. Who knows, he could find someone whom he clicks with on the very first date (again, the term I use very loosely). but going into a session where you are predetermined that this particular woman is going to be my regular, is a mistake IMHO.
We all have done these mistakes, and the purpose was to educate him so as to prevent him from doing the same. And why isn't it safe to assume that he wouldn't want to sample a few ladies? Is he in this for monogamy? I hope not...
Still Genius, or not that much anymore?
I'm sure homeboy is just compiling a list of women that would want to be a regular with him. Some women have plenty of regulars and are just looking for in an between time person and you will be low on the scheduling priority list. And I'm sure any man that has seen the celebutante Jenna Shea knows a bit about the game...
In town for six months and would like to establish a regular meeting with a lady or two. A couple of times per month and maybe more if we have a nice connection. $300-400 price range. Hard to navigate BP with all the providers declining Black clients. Open to all races - prefer athletic / shapely women. Looking forward to our meeting.
Don't do the mistake of trying to find a regular. Sample various ladies that suit your taste and needs, and who will see Black guys. Its important to get that out of the way beforehand. When you find a good connection (and I use the term in a non-romantic way), repeat. Let it happen naturally. You will have better results.
Sure, things CAN happen naturally, but how is endeavoring to find a regular a mistake? Why the hell should the OP resolve to "sample various ladies" if he doesn't want to?
Yea I guess you're right. I mean, he could get some responses here from girls that are looking to provide the very thing he's seeking. And we all know quickly things go awry if an arrangement is mutually beneficial, right?
Because there is conflict of interest. Which woman does not want to be regular with a decent man. Thats stable money coming in month after month for 6 months. Who knows, he could find someone whom he clicks with on the very first date (again, the term I use very loosely). but going into a session where you are predetermined that this particular woman is going to be my regular, is a mistake IMHO.
We all have done these mistakes, and the purpose was to educate him so as to prevent him from doing the same. And why isn't it safe to assume that he wouldn't want to sample a few ladies? Is he in this for monogamy? I hope not...
Because there is conflict of interest. Which woman does not want to be regular with a decent man. Thats stable money coming in month after month for 6 months. Who knows, he could find someone whom he clicks with on the very first date (again, the term I use very loosely). but going into a session where you are predetermined that this particular woman is going to be my regular, is a mistake IMHO.
We all have done these mistakes, and the purpose was to educate him so as to prevent him from doing the same. And why isn't it safe to assume that he wouldn't want to sample a few ladies? Is he in this for monogamy? I hope not...
Still Genius, or not that much anymore?
I'm sure homeboy is just compiling a list of women that would want to be a regular with him. Some women have plenty of regulars and are just looking for in an between time person and you will be low on the scheduling priority list.
And I'm sure any man that has seen the celebutante Jenna Shea knows a bit about the game...
First, don't use the term "conflict of interest" if you don't know what it means.
But yea, you still haven't said why actively searching for a regular is a mistake. You've made broad assumptions about what entertainers are looking for; and you've generalized that "we" have ALL made this the tremendous error of seeking out regulars for our pleasure...but still no explanation as to why this is such a faux pas.
Also, there are many many degrees between 'Regular NSA' and 'Monogamy.' I shouldn't have to explain that.
You don't know anything about that person yet. If you want to have a long term relationship, although NSA (relax people that's No Strings Attached, not National Security agency....whew), its important to at least like that person. This, according to me, and most people would agree is the basic requirement. You are not going to know that until you have met her a few times at least...
Reason # 1 is alone enough to not go into NSA relationship pre-planned. But I will give you a bonus..
The sex needs to be good if not great. A lot of people complain, and I've heard these complaints for over a decade, that the sex was great to begin with and then it fizzled when she got too complacent, and no longer had to work for the money. When that happens, you know its time to walk away from that NSA relationship. I am not a mangina to keep paying her hundreds of dollars hoping that the sex will get better. Now, this can happen whether or not you enter the relationship preplanned or not. So why mentally invest yourself into a deal even BEFORE meeting the girl when you would have to walk away.
This is as asinine as going on the first date with a wedding ring. Forget Long Term NSA, I wouldn't even consider overnight with someone without meeting them a few times before.
I believe in taking one step at a time... Perhaps you don't. And that's fine.
P.S Did a search on your ID and you seem to be around from 2011, at least, so not treating you like a newbie...
Enjoy the Superbowl tomorrow.. Don't think too hard...
I've been doing this for many years, always looking out for a possible "regular." In that time I've only found two (serially of course) that I would classify as such. In my case, I would say that it takes two or three visits to know if the chemistry works.
I am with Zorrf on this. Markets work best when there is full information on both sides so that everyone knows what they are getting into. If you are interested in an ongoing relationship, I don't think there is any harm in letting them know. That would be a plus to most ladies given that it saves time and stress of screening and the stress of meeting someone new in this way. Curly W seems to be assuming that you are trying to sign up for a "season ticket" with some lady in advance of a first date; I assume that you are not, and are looking for someone with potential to be a good repeat date. If I am right, some thoughts follow:
1. Your stated range of acceptable rates should get you better than what you have experienced. On the other hand, your experience was in line with or better than other reviewers given the women that you saw.
2. Do your research. If you don't have TER VIP, get it now. You have already spent way more than the cost of a year of TER VIP on mistakes that TER reviews could have steered you away from. However, when you do your research on TER, keep in mind that there is heavy grade-inflation in the scores. Almost all providers with any track record (e.g., five or more reviews) have average scores above 7 with most above 8.
3. In this context, stay away from BP. Look into TER ads, P411, and something similar. For what you are paying, you should look into a more upscale category.
4. You should be upfront about who you are in terms of appearance (age, weight, baldness, race, disability) and research what you want to do (DFK, BBBJ, etc) but don't ask about services. Unpleasant surprises for her make for unpleasant experiences for you. Don't be too self-conscious about this. None of us are all-that-and-a-bag-of-chips or we wouldn't be paying to see them. Unlike some Hollywood figures, we don't need to pay them to leave.
5. I will stay away from the racial stuff apart from this. There are black, white, and other ladies who won't see black clients. Your reviews are all of white ladies, but you might have this experience even with AA ladies too. Some of this has to do with how they think that they will be treated, particularly for the black ladies (or so they have told me). In any event, you don't want to pay to see anyone who doesn't want to see you. My guess is that if you move up the quality ladder from BP, you would have less of a problem. Some of the ladies may be flat out racist, but you may be able to address the concerns of others in other ways. However, I defer to others who identify or are identified as black on this score.
6. The ladies have the best information set; they should weigh in with their views.
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