Posted By: MissErinBlack
Dudes do always want to see women make out, as long as they want to have sex with said women. The second they don't find those women attractive, or those women fall outside of what's considered normatively attractive, the act is thought of as inappropriate. It's generally only appropriate for women to make out when men want to see those women doing so, and can imagine themselves participating in some way.
So, it's really only "more socially acceptable" for women to experiment sexually if a guy wants to see it. You even said it yourself, which I just now read and find totally repulsive:
"Women kiss each other and dudes line up... Unless they are the trying to be a man lesbians, lol."
Where's the freedom to experiment there? It's only okay for women to experiment if you deem it hot, sexy and something you want to be apart of. Nope, i sure don't see freedom there. Quite frankly, it's none of your business who a woman decides to have sex with. She's not concerned with pleasing you; she has no obligation to you. This is honestly one of the most misogynistic things I've seen here lately.
I appreciate your sentiment about Michael Sams and his partner; I feel the same way. But part of the reason this act is deemed "unacceptable" is because cis-gendered, conservative straight men aren't attracted to either of these men, can't imaging themselves having sex with either of these men, and therefore announce that the act is disgusting and inappropriate.
There's also a stigma involved with being bisexual/pansexual/polysexual/queer. Even within the LGBTQ community, people that identify as such "don't exist"; if you're a woman who identifies as bisexual/pansexual/polysexual/queer , you're simply "experimenting" or "going through a phase", which means you'll just end up being straight and seeing men again in no time. If you identify as bisexual/pansexual/polysexual/queer as a man, you're simply thought of as a closeted gay man who just needs to come out already. Both of these are horribly reductionist in nature, and deny the lived experiences of all parties involved.
The default assumption for both of these arguments is that it's not actually a thing to be attracted to people of any sex. If you're in a gray area and find people attractive regardless of sex, the assumption is that you're just fucking around and will eventually go back to men. and that stigma sucks.
People's sexual identity isn't for anyone else. It's for themselves. If we'd stop projecting what we want onto other people, this might make things a little better for everyone.
I don't know the odds and ends....I heard Charlie sheen say it on two and a half men and I realized the somewhat truth in it from a societal standpoint, years of college, and going to strip clubs.
I'm not trying to have a fully serious discussion. Just pointing out the double standard.
-- Modified on 5/16/2014 4:26:14 PM
. And i'm drinking a beer or 2 now so I can't explain it better at this point even if wanted to do so, haha
