Thanks for all the suggestions and a few pm's!  One caution I did hear was that the MILF label is not always valued by some of our provider friends, even though they be over forty.  So I think a word of caution is in order here.  Many of us "older" guys appreciate the maturity and sensitivity that more mature ladies provide, but we should also realize that many others can do that as well.  So a special appreciation to all those ladies that don't make us feel that we have to perform like we were able when we in our twenties and thirties.  It's all  about the journey, not just the "grand finale".