I have never had this happen to me before but about two weeks ago I set up an appointment with Pamela and after driving a little over an hour in traffic and getting to the meeting spot, I called her to see if she was ready. No answer. Meeting time came and went; about 15 minutes after she txt me saying that she was running a little late but that she would call shortly. Another 15 minutes go by. She txt's and says she's almost there. Another 15 minutes go by, I txt her, no response.. 30 minutes.. no response.. After about 1.5 hours of hanging out around her in-call I left. To this day she has never responded.

She made the appointment after she went to my references so I don't think that was the issue.. but the lack of communication is just so annoying. This has never happened to me and I just wanted to know if it's a normal thing or does this rarely happen? I haven't been a hobbyist for long so I'm not sure. I text/called/emailed her a few times after the fact just saying that I didn't even care about the flake out anymore, I just wanted a reason. No response. What makes this more annoying, is that I got an automatic email saying she's coming to town next week lol.

but this happens to everyone at some point.

It's best to give them a day or two, after you query them about what happened, to respond. This is what we call NCNS (no call no show) and both providers and clients do it. It is rude and unprofessional to say the least (without a good excuse).

You have to evaluate your response to this.

1) You can't write a review if nothing happened.
2) If she gets back to you, only you can decide what you think of her reason (real or BS). Some of this may hinge on how she wishes to "make it up to you" or if she even offers.
3) If she doesn't get back to you, well, it's easier to not have to factor in her reason/excuse.

At that point, you have to decide of you wish to let folks know about this. Like the joke about assholes, everyone has an opinion on what you should do, or not.

If you decide to post about it on your local board, as you did here, be sure to be drama free and unemotional in your post (I think you did a pretty good job). That will minimize some of the potential fallout. Just know that some providers can and will get ugly about any negative posts (and unfortunately, the ones who NCNS and never follow up are more likely, IMO, to be ugly about it).

Some of the decision lies with how much TER-cred each of you carries. If she is truly well thought of, a snip here and there wont hurt, and if you're well thought of then her saying things about you is less likely to have an impact.

Only you can decide what  you need to do. There is no harm in just moving on (versus not posting about ripoffs or bait & switch), and you are within your prerogative to post about NCNS. Just make an informed decision.

You will find many accounts like yours posted in the board.  Its important not to take it personally.  In the hobby there could be so many reasons for a no show.  It is less common with well reviewed providers (Pamela would be one of them).  I've had my fair share of missed appointments.  I recently had a situation where I arrived at an incall at the agreed time and could not reach the provider.  I called her twice without answer and left about five minutes after the agreed time.  I do not wait around in case there is a good reason I should not show up.  It turned out it was a scheduling mix up on her side, and we agreed to meet a different time.  I would keep an open mind, and move on for now.  Hope the next one goes better.

I have only good experiences with Pamela. The hotel situation in DC can be difficult for providers, or any other vistior with rooms not available or "lost" reservations.  As Pamela does her own scheduling retrun calls can be delayed.  I still think she is worth the effort to vist!

Good response.  Should be required reading for newbies to everywhere so they don't get in an emotional thread that they can't win.
Also, have heard there are provider sites where they can warn other providers about dangerous men.  Have heard they can also state no shows, etc.  And since clients have no access, there is no way to know what is posted about you or any way to refute.  So, consider long and hard before you post something negative.

Pamela handles her own appointment and sometimes she is a little flakely.  I've seen her twice and each time she was great in bed but she has made me wait too.  One time, give me 5 minutes turned into 30 minutes, another time we confirmed the next day and then the next day, she didn't return my emails or calls.  It turned out that she had a change of plans and was in another city.  I didn't make a big deal about it and we rescheduled and I had a good time.  She can do that because she's popular and tries hard to please you in bed.  If you're seeing Pamela, I would confirm a few hours before the appointment and if she is late by more than 30 minutes, I would leave and see someone else and assume that she's running late or had a change in plans.

Sorry to hear that happened.  I've met with Pamela twice.  Great experience.  Reach out to her one more time and give her a chance.  If she does, I'm sure she'll make it worth your while.

I have had the pleasure of meeting with Pamela times. I have also met with some of her playmates.
I can assure you that if you get the opportunity you will not be disappointed. She is an absolutely amazing lady and if you are fortunated enough to get to know her she will totally blow your mind!

Yea I wish I would have had a different experience but unfortunately it didn't happen. All I wanted was an answer and I would have been ok. Even if it was the next day, I probably would have been a little peeved but I would have understood. What I don't appreciate is making me drive over an hour and stringing someone along with out even saying that the meeting is off. I don't want to make this personal, this post was mainly to vent about a bad situation and see if this is a normal thing in this hobby.

I'm sure the provider in question is great, that's why I chose her, and I would probably see her if she contacted me. But thanks for the replies, it makes me feel better knowing this is notthe norm.