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Iamnotdeadyet 14 Reviews 201 reads
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I would endorse most of what Z says above. The "connection" real or perceived, is very important. Once one gets on in age, its physically impossible to go at it like a crazed weasel for an hour let alone 90 minutes. Its either sit there in awkward silence for part of the time or engage in dialog that's fun, intellectually stimulating and adds to the experience. I always look for reviews that mention something to the effect that she was really fun to talk to or a really interesting person. If all the reviews just talk about is how she jumped my bones as soon as I walked in the door and then wore me out for the full hour, its a bit of a turn-off. I personally like to take things slow and let the anticipation build up before diving in so to speak. If reviews always talk about how she was sitting on the bed buck naked as soon as I entered the room, that's a turn-off as well. Unwrapping the package can be quite a turn-on all by itself.
The other thing I look for is the fun factor. I really enjoy being with a woman who is always smiling (highly under rated IMHO), joking and appears to be having a good time. I'm there for a good time not to audition for a porno. There's nothing wrong with having to pause for a good laugh during a more intimate moment because of a funny comment. It just adds to the overall fun factor. Someone who is all business or faux passionate or even worse, very vocal with the praise about how great, big, studly you are, etc. just detracts from the experience. I'm also not a big fan of constantly being called baby or honey or sweetie. It feels so much better and personal to be called by your name. Don't get me wrong I do love dirty talk, but more of a playful, joking sort.
Unfortunately most of these subjective things are either not mentioned in reviews or you have to read between the lines to get a sense of what the encounter was really like.
Little things like a "thank you" email afterwords and a little banter in the scheduling email before also adds to the memory, anticipation and the perception of connection. All this takes time so I know why so few ladies do it. In general, I see it more with low volume or more mature ladies. There is a certain attraction to those who have minimums of more than an hour. It may or may not be true, but in my own mind, low volume = more quality and personal attention a lady can bring to each appointment. I don't think I've ever seen anyone who offered 30 minute appointments. I realize that there is a lot of play acting going on, but it just adds to the enjoyment of the fantasy. I also prefer ladies who have a permanent incall. The whole process of going in and out of hotels, dodging cleaning staff, etc. certainly takes away from the experience. I fully understand the safety concerns of working out of the same location where you sleep and not everyone can afford a separate work apartment, but it can really make the experience so much nicer.
FYI this is my first board post even though I've been a VIP member for many years. Not sure why I felt compelled to respond, but the subject hit a responsive cord.

AngelSpencer507 reads

Hey Gents, I have a few questions in regards you your selection in choosing a provider. Alias are fine as it grants you amenity you otherwise wouldn’t have, thus an honest response is most welcome. I’m asking what a lot of ladies are thinking. I think this post might bridge the gap between providers and the men that “lust” after them.

What are the main benefits your ideal provider offers in regards to her service, besides the “obvious”?

What do you expect to gain by spending your time and money with said lady? How do you expect to feel differently?

What proof and qualifications would make said provider trustworthy in your eyes? How else can she back up her story? (ie: reviews, pictures, etc.  Just because a provider CAN do something, doesn’t mean you automatically trust her consistently and effectively do them).

What services do you stay away from, what service are NOT for you?

Think about your ideal provider again. Now imagine ... whom is it that you wouldn’t seek services from?

If you can picture the types of woman you wouldn’t see, there is a segment of that group that your prospect actually wants to be, so consider that. For example, a lady that is not your preferred body type would most likely not “meet” your expectations as a lady you would see. Strangely, this may be exactly who your ideal provider wishes she were, or wants to become. There is a power in knowing that. How would you advise a provider to spark your interest?

Thanks Guys!

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RatedZ328 reads

Hey Jayla,


Your post intrigues me so I thought I'd give it a shot at answering. Somewhat embarrassing (just a little) so yeah I'm going with the alias.

What are the main benefits your ideal provider offers in regards to her service, besides the “obvious”?

I'm not married, no girlfriend, never had one in fact. I'm not ugly, nor terribly terribly awkward or even overweight, but I am shy and fairly unlucky at love (cards too) and willing to admit a bit insecure. That being said, what I'm looking for (aside from the obvious) is a true-as-possible sense of the labeled Girl Friend Experience. As in I actually like to connect with the ladies I meet and try to get some of that feeling that I get from the various ladies the for one reason or another didn't wind up being my girlfriend.


What do you expect to gain by spending your time and money with said lady?

Some self confidence, a feeling that we really did connect and have chemistry and I want to feel that she had a good time too. Oh and of course experience. :)

How do you expect to feel differently?
Happier of course.

What proof and qualifications would make said provider trustworthy in your eyes? How else can she back up her story? (ie: reviews, pictures, etc.  Just because a provider CAN do something, doesn’t mean you automatically trust her consistently and effectively do them).

Hrmm this one is tuff. Reviews of course are very helpful. If the lady post on the boards too I can get a snapshot of her personality and that helps too. Ad posts count if they aren't just a cut and paste job from a previous ad.

When I do book an appointment I will normally book a two hour appointment. So I do like it when I see that a lady prefers the 90 minute appointment and is low volume.


What services do you stay away from, what service are NOT for you?

Given my preference for the longer meetings, seeing that 30 minute appointments are available tends to steer me away.

I'm also worried that one day I might be with a lady that is being forced in someway. Therefore I tend to stray away from agencies unless I think that the ladies want to be there. This same fear also keeps me away from the ladies, especially agency ladies, that can't speak English very well.
Also any agency that's sending the guys up so fast the last one barley has time to leave. A few times in the past I'd be wrapping up my session and the lady would yell out at a txt she was getting something like "What?! Is she crazy?" My lady friend would have to txt back to stop the scheduler from sending up the next guy before I had a chance to leave. Mind you; I was still inside my time window by about 5 minutes and was getting dressed each time. So yeah assembly line typ setup are a no-no. Past that I just stay away from ladies that specialize in a service I'm not interested in like S&M.



Think about your ideal provider again. Now imagine ... whom is it that you wouldn’t seek services from?

If you can picture the types of woman you wouldn’t see, there is a segment of that group that your prospect actually wants to be, so consider that. For example, a lady that is not your preferred body type would most likely not “meet” your expectations as a lady you would see.

I think I just covered that in the above questions :) Well I guess I can also add the I like the ladies I see to be on the slimmer side and from 5' 2" to 5' 6" ish. Girly girls with a tom boy streak are hot. as in she loves her heels, but she also loves some sci-fi. :) Hey I've met lots. I swear they do exist and yes they are hot too.

Strangely, this may be exactly who your ideal provider wishes she were, or wants to become. There is a power in knowing that. How would you advise a provider to spark your interest?

Put some of your personality into your posts and ads. I know secrecy is important to you as well as us but I really do notice when there's something extra in that ad or post and I appreciate it.

Communicate with your clients personally as much as possible. If it is necessary to use a scheduler please make it obvious. There have been instances when both the scheduler and the lady had access to the email account and it was only after I met that I learned that I hadn't always been talking to lady, but scheduler as well. I was all from one email account and even looking back at the emails I still can't  figure out which email was from who.

Well I think I've rambled long enough... I hope you find this helpful.

Cheers!
-Z

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Iamnotdeadyet202 reads

I would endorse most of what Z says above. The "connection" real or perceived, is very important. Once one gets on in age, its physically impossible to go at it like a crazed weasel for an hour let alone 90 minutes. Its either sit there in awkward silence for part of the time or engage in dialog that's fun, intellectually stimulating and adds to the experience. I always look for reviews that mention something to the effect that she was really fun to talk to or a really interesting person. If all the reviews just talk about is how she jumped my bones as soon as I walked in the door and then wore me out for the full hour, its a bit of a turn-off. I personally like to take things slow and let the anticipation build up before diving in so to speak. If reviews always talk about how she was sitting on the bed buck naked as soon as I entered the room, that's a turn-off as well. Unwrapping the package can be quite a turn-on all by itself.
The other thing I look for is the fun factor. I really enjoy being with a woman who is always smiling (highly under rated IMHO), joking and appears to be having a good time. I'm there for a good time not to audition for a porno. There's nothing wrong with having to pause for a good laugh during a more intimate moment because of a funny comment. It just adds to the overall fun factor. Someone who is all business or faux passionate or even worse, very vocal with the praise about how great, big, studly you are, etc. just detracts from the experience. I'm also not a big fan of constantly being called baby or honey or sweetie. It feels so much better and personal to be called by your name. Don't get me wrong I do love dirty talk, but more of a playful, joking sort.
Unfortunately most of these subjective things are either not mentioned in reviews or you have to read between the lines to get a sense of what the encounter was really like.
Little things like a "thank you" email afterwords and a little banter in the scheduling email before also adds to the memory, anticipation and the perception of connection. All this takes time so I know why so few ladies do it. In general, I see it more with low volume or more mature ladies. There is a certain attraction to those who have minimums of more than an hour. It may or may not be true, but in my own mind, low volume = more quality and personal attention a lady can bring to each appointment. I don't think I've ever seen anyone who offered 30 minute appointments. I realize that there is a lot of play acting going on, but it just adds to the enjoyment of the fantasy. I also prefer ladies who have a permanent incall. The whole process of going in and out of hotels, dodging cleaning staff, etc. certainly takes away from the experience. I fully understand the safety concerns of working out of the same location where you sleep and not everyone can afford a separate work apartment, but it can really make the experience so much nicer.
FYI this is my first board post even though I've been a VIP member for many years. Not sure why I felt compelled to respond, but the subject hit a responsive cord.

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2xist269139 reads

I don't need an alias:
What are the main benefits your ideal provider offers in regards to her service, besides the “obvious”?
Well, I say the little things like clean-up with a warm cloth and a kiss goodbye

What do you expect to gain by spending your time and money with said lady?
I want passion, I can stay home and have an un-emotional sex session with my hand!

What proof and qualifications would make said provider trustworthy in your eyes? How else can she back up her story? (ie: reviews, pictures, etc.  Just because a provider CAN do something, doesn’t mean you automatically trust her consistently and effectively do them).
Consistant reviews, or her telling a little about herself ina blog/story/website. I need personality to bleed through.

What services do you stay away from, what service are NOT for you?
I look for services that apeal to the fantasy I want to live out that day.

If you can picture the types of woman you wouldn’t see, there is a segment of that group that your prospect actually wants to be, so consider that. For example, a lady that is not your preferred body type would most likely not “meet” your expectations as a lady you would see.
I have to say it like this... I have seen a provider that was my perfect body (tigh young ass that you bouce a quarter off of with perky little tits and a nice tan), but she was mechanical and I had to think of something else to get off. Then I have seen other providers that did not fit my body type at all but were so sensual and erotic that I couldn't stop thinking of her for days.

It isn't always just the sex acts, it is a mind game as well!!!

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