yes I'm using an alias but the question is real.  I'm a fairly regular hobbyist, 2-3 times a month with a fair number of reviews but recently I met a provider,we hit it off and now I'm a regular of hers and I really like her and she likes me, well at least we went out on a couple of non-com dates (not the kind of "dates" that are typical of this board).  The question I have is would you seriously date a provider given the knowledge of how many hobbyists, amongst some of you are likely included, she has had as clients?  I know she's a real person with real feelings and I don't want to mess up anything.  I'm not looking for freebies so that's not at issue. or if I'm even thinking this a problem I should forget this and remain her client?  Honesty masked by anonomitity is a virtue on this board. Thanks gentlemen.

hello sweet heart I am a provider and i was out for 7 months with a client who told me that real mind I wanted and I moved in, after 3 months when travel was ended by calling on Texans to another escort and I stay in background. / / / / Is not the first time it happens. I want to find someone but it makes me go from client imposibible a serious relationship, why? that we met at a fire linia second is that the client wants to see something new and us at any time you draw on a face to who you are ... I wish you good luck, with all my heart ...

What she does (with others) obviously bothers you and your feelings would get in the way of a serious relationship.

I'm with you.  Maybe English is her second language.

As you note, she is a person with feelings.  Be honest with her and yourself.  I know I would go for it if I believed she was sincere.  Remember that she has not only been with some hobbyists, but you have been with some providers (and she recognizes that).    Good Luck!!!

I know what the OP is saying and implying. I have some close experience at this as well as a co-worker who married an escort.  My advice is keep it light. Continue to see her and pay for the privildge if you are enjoying the sex and her company. If she allows you some off the clock time to take her out, consider that a gift from her, but do not expect it. The minute you cross from customer with money to dating status is where ALL the problems come in. The jealousy, on both sides, the emotional roller coaster, obligations and expectations, and eventually hurt feelings and remorse.  
I am sorry if this sounds jaded, especially if you have not gone through the full class in this. Enjoy what you have now. If she wants more, she will let you know. It is known as the "Pretty Woman" syndrome. Are you Richard Gere? Do you have an unlimited budget?
Probably if you discussed this with her, you will get one of three outcomes. I have had both. 1. The happy story where she falls into your arms and tells you she loves you back and you live happily ever after.
2. She tells you that she is flattered but in her real life she has a husband/kids/significant other or has a lesbian relationship. And she continues to see you for money. But no more off the clock dates.
3. She thinks you are going into stalker status and immediately no longer returns your calls or emails. Will not have another session with you.

Good luck with any of these scenarios...

Not sure if you noticed, but when there is an envelope next to your handle, it is not an alias.

So where are those reviews?

Take the advice from others. Do not cross over the line. Respect her both as a person, and a provider.

Do not lead her on to believe there is more or will be more unless you are ready to put up with a real relationship and not a fantasy or dream as most 1hr appointments are.

I don't care how open minded some people think they are. When you get serious and become emotionally attached can you accept her coming home after a long day of work and not think how many other have been all over her, literally.

Some may not have understood what Niki said but I did. When you have become involved to the point where you are supporting her is she to stop work and you continue hobbying or what?

I hope you guys have talked about this and clearly understand where each of you are coming from and going to be in a few weeks or months.

Best of Luck - could be fun while it last, but I seriously doubt it will last.

Even friend would be awesome!!


My advise is if u think she likes u as men(not a client or $$)..U should go for it.


I'm so jealous brah!!LOL

Emotions will mess this up. Even if you're comfortable with what she does (unlikely in long term if anything serious) she will not be comfortable with you.  Remember who is the emotional one. And she will doubt and watch you like you would never expect. Then again I also believe going back from this point could be comfortable and ruin future visits with her.

I've only seen one case where it worked long term and both party were both the partying type and in the industry. (this was in Montreal and no disparity between their income, etc unlike SE Asia and such.). It would take two equal persons far from types of folks using TER, living in DC, and needing to hide behind Aliases to be able to pull it off.

Proceed; but proceed with caution. Be open to 'full steam ahead' OR 180 degree turn-a-bout.

sorry my English is not good is my second language

I have been down this road and yes I would do it again (with her).

Relationships are just as fragile as lives. Enjoy what you have. You can't predict where it goes until you know each other better. If it goes really far, sure at some point both of you will likely want this to be an exclusive relationship for both - but it may or may not even get to that stage, so... just enjoy being liked by somebody you like. This is not a given

I felt intrigued upon the thoughts motivated from reading this thread. You asked, “would you seriously date a provider given the knowledge of how many hobbyists, amongst some of you are likely included, she has had as clients”. My answer to your question is “maybe”, it depends on your definition of date. If your definition of date is to relate with the sole purpose of determining whether someone is suitable for a spouse, then my answer is “no”. However, if your definition of date is to relate with the purpose of winning one’s love, then my answer is “yes”; go for it, be her friend, respect her, and experience your passion for her. In 1988, I came across a book on “winning one’s love”, entitled, “Love Tactics”. One consideration with the tactics is friendship and that would be friendship even “given the knowledge” you mentioned. Good luck!

With respect to your question, "Would you seriously date a provider given the knowledge of how many hobbyists, amongst some of you are likely included, she has had as clients?" that in itself should not be a deterrent. Even a non-SP female (whom one might consider dating seriously) might have had many "boyfriends." It is quite plausible that a SP is ready to make a transition to a different phase of life or a different career and that you are the right companion for her next phase of life. What would your role be - compare her expectation with yours; see if you can evolve compatible expectations. Is each party capable of holding the course (then, go for it) or could either be swayed by the winds (then, don't dream high)?

I agree with most in this thread and SunWorshipher has a good point, almost everyone has had former "boyfriends" and since your a frequent hobbyist, you too have had many "girlfriends" So that shouldn't deter you. What I'd be most concerned about is the psychological issues. Let's face it, not everyone can enjoy having "company" from several hobbyists a day for who knows how long and not fuck them up in the head at least in part.  You may want to find out why she chose this line of work as  there can be some serious issues going on in her head. Before you go into something serious you should discuss things and decide whether you are ready and willing to deal with the emotional baggage she may have, hell we all have some baggage, its a matter of degrees and what she might be worth  It may be a bumpy ride and I wish you all the luck in the world.

Thanks to all who posted. I really don't know where it  will go but we've talked (even about some of these posts) and we're going to give it a go, let the chips fall where they may. we agreed that this business isn't good for a budding Relationship so I'll stop hobbying and she'll stop
providing (yes really!). To some of the comments, I'm not Richard Gere and there is disparity. While this isn't pretty woman (I don't like opera) and maybe this is a fantasy but ifits real, why not? With gratitude to those here because where else can I discuss this? Out here.

It is a healthy positive sign that the two of you talked about these posted pieces of advice and concerns. Take it where you want to...stay dedicated...good luck.