I could see this working if you know a provider VERY well and she trusts you completely.  Enough that your word alone will be sufficient for her to see your friend without regular screening.

That said, have you ever considered if your friend may not react well here, especially if he learns that his good friend hired a prostitute for him?  Just asking ....

Hey everyone.  Long time lurker and hobbyist here.  I have a good friend who is coming back from Afghanistan, and I want to surprise him in the hotel as soon as he gets back.  He spent over $10,000 on my bachelor party, and I want to return the favor.

I'm looking for a scenario like this; I meet the woman earlier in the day, and "arrange" things.  When he gets in town, i'll make sure he's in the hotel and give the provider a buzz.  She can then swing by and knock on his door, and use some corny reason to accompany him -- "Hey, i'm sorry, i've got the wrong room.  Are you busy though, you're kinda cute.  Maybe we can grab some coffee?" -- and let it roll from there.

Probably book for 3 hours, keep him company, and after everything is said and done, just go on your merry way.

I have no intention of telling him that I arranged it.

Anyone have any recommendations for providers, or providers that think this might be up their ally?

I could be wrong, but I don't think there would be too many women in the business who would be up or that.  You are better off planning something else or going with a civvie.  First off all, it is hard to trust anyone without any review history or any recommendations let alone a friend of his.

I've used ClassyDC previously, a handful of times.

That being said, I understand that.  That's why i asked

What's his type to start?

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There are alot of potential risks involved in being a "surprise" for someone. Their reaction may not be a positive one and may put the provider in an awkward or even dangerous position. The only providers who may be up for this, is a "newby" provider, who has not learned about avoiding possible dangers. They take more risks actually, and I remember when I was a newby, I did all kinds of crazy things that could have ruined me if bad luck struck. Yes, once I walked in a hotel room filled with about 10 Swiss sailors and had a go with most of them. They also were drunk... And.... I would NEVER do something like this again. Plenty of requests will send up a red flag of possible danger, and we try our best to avoid those red flags.... one of the red flags would be "SURPRISE!"
My advice for you is to be upfront with your friend. Tell him that you remember his kindness to you, and you wish to be kind to him also. That you understand being away in Afghanistan was stressful, and you want to give him a welcome home gift that will calm his nerves and make him happy. Tell him the truth and tell him you want to pay for this gift. Then have him choose a lady he likes (of course you should give him some options based on your research of legit ladies with great reviews), but leave it up to him who he wants to be with.

for my brother's 50th birthday. He had never hobbied, was married and owned his own business. Not as many newbie friendly back then and could not get him screened. Our taste were much different so it is not like I could hook him up with someone I knew.

(Just for credibility's sake, I'm retired from the Air Force and spent 25 years on active duty.)

Your friend has experienced things that those of us who have never been in combat can possibly understand.  I guarantee that he is a different person than the guy who gave you a bachelor party for the ages.  He may not even know he's changed.  For certain, he will be "processing" what it means to be away from all the gruesome stuff that happens in a war.  He might be willing and able to talk about some stuff.  Some things he will never be able to talk about.  In its worst manifestation, there may be some post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) right below the surface.  Most every GI returning from the war now has a session with a psychiatrist.  He needs to do this first in order to understand who he is and to re-define "normal."

If you want to be his friend, and I have no reason to doubt your motivation, just BE his friend.  Let him take things at his pace.  He may want to have a beer and just talk.  He may start talking and he may completely melt down.  You don't know, and he may not even know, how he dealt with his sex drive while over there.  He may be angry.  He may be bitter.  He may not like how he dealt with it very much.  For sure, he won't be "horny" as we generally define the term.

I don't advise putting a provider in this position right now.  He doesn't know how he will react when he's alone in a room with a gorgeous (and eventually naked) American woman for the first time in many months.  If he's ready, you might take him to a strip club.  Again, let him suggest this.  Don't force it on him.

Thanks for being there for him.