Has any one noticed that sometimes after you become a regular with a specific provider, she starts offering a poor performance?
The first date is usually great and then everything just becomes dull.
You end up not willing to come back and it is sort of hard to leave a bad review.

Has it happened to any?

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Maybe its not a poor performance..maybe it is..maybe its you. Like maybe you have lost interest in her or being with her. Sometimes this happens because it has taken its course, or there just isnt any reason to keep spending time together.

This is a hobby, no strings attached but sometimes real life can mesh into hobby life. We are human beings after all! Some ladies also when they have a regular CAN become too comfortable, forgetting that we are offering a fantasy and maybe some dont try as hard as they would when seeing a 1st time client? I always try.. Makes things more fun.

Happy Hobbying!

This is what makes it so hard to find a goto girls and keeps me from repeats except for certain ladies
when i do an appointment i am not expecting a porn star every time actually i would just they rather be nice and halfway happy to see me and be a gfe lets just have a great hour
Poor performance is poor performance I don't get paid if i fail at my job but they do- repeat business is the life blood of my business without it i fail . Some girls don't need or want repeats it defies logic but what can you do?
i don't bother complaining it does no good, i had a regular just like you after getting blown of and service sliding i moved on . If they don't care why should i

Yes, that is understandable. Many of us are very realistic, and this is nothing but hobbying.

It is just about the fact that everything goes  great on the first meeting, then it is easy to notice when interest is lost. Usually one starts asking when you didn't need to.

It's true; it can be a way to avoid supposed or possible strings attached that might arise.

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After seeing a provider for a few times. I find the atmosphere much more relaxing. We know each others likes and dislikes, and the experience gets better every time.  YMMV

Yes.
Some providers will take you for granted after a few visits. It is now rare that I will see the same provider more then 2 times, and when I do I space the session months apart.

Admittedly in my case, part of that scenario is my preference for variety. I can get bored with the same provider very easily, regardless of performance.

because I have discovered that if a P4P 'couple' really have what it takes to click(this is muy importa`nte)every encounter gets better. You may like to think,at times,that you have something with a particular girl/ladie,but the feeling may not be mutual. Rest assured friend,when you do discover a ladie who is truely symbiotic you will relish each meeting. Then your problems really begin.HA!

Yes,their immediate goal is to get you 'in the' door'.

As far as the review is concerned;let your disappointment subside and then have a crack at 'honesty'.

There is a simple solution. Dont see the same girl twice. I have my favorite girl who I use as the measuring stick I stopped seeing her in December of last year. To me the other girls are contenders who attempt to beat her for the performance, personality and hotness title. So far no girl has beaten her in two out of three categories.

I have had this experience in LTRs in the past.

For my part, I *think* I am continuing to show enthusiasm and appreciation. I try never to take a lady for granted. But I have to allow that such a phenomenon is probably, at least to an extent, a two way street. The edge sometimes soften with familiarity.

And I have to admit that I've gotten cynical about this topic at times, when disappointed.

OTOH, I have had hobby "relationships" where this did not occur. Sure - not every session is the same. The lady is not a machine and neither am I. Some sessions are hotter than others, more "connected" than others, warmer or more friendly than others.

I've noted the same thing with my SOs over the years '

The simple antidote is the application of the old addage - absence makes the heart grow fonder.

In my experience, it really does. Stay away for a few months and usually the follow on session is a hot one. Thereagain, this is probably a mutual thing.

Sometimes you just need a break from each other.

Then again - sometimes the relationship is worth so much, regardless of the occasional "ups and downs" (pardon the pun - I could not help myself), that the best thing to do is continue to enjoy one another's companionship, communicate and work together to make the times spent as good for one another as possible.

"Admittedly in my case, part of that scenario is my preference for variety. I can get bored with the same provider very easily, regardless of performance."

That is precisely my feeling.  My old basketball and football coaches used to ask us before the first game if we had butterflies.  Then they'd say that we should have butterflies, and that if we don't there's something wrong.  Thus far for me, the nervous excitement of meeting a girl for the first time has usually been far more enjoyable than a familiar lay with the ATF.

But, hey, the hobby is different for everybody.

my preference is to repeat among a few courtesans. but i have found that repetition sometimes leads to communications problems. also being nice sometimes leads to being taken for granted.

aside from private time, a poor reaction to discussion of general business topics indicates a problem. in one instance i recall a certain carelessness about location that was not discussable in an open and honest way.

i very much appreciate the ability to discuss the business relationship clearly and separately from the fantasy. i am not finding many capable of that......

While I have grown to be very leary of 'psuedo-psychiartrist'(tell-them-what-they-want-to-hear)providers,I do have a tendency to remain very loyal(as much as possible)to those who make that special effort to make each and every(repeat)encounter a great time for the both of us. My countenance will not allow me to reciprocate 'piss-poor treatment for piss-poor treatment'.I have however,created such an insurmountable wall around me that I feel sorry for the sincere ladies who make an attempt to click with me. Once again, the many suffering the ill-effects of the few. What's up 'cat'? Haven't heard much fo you.

because the answer to your first question is a resounding YES! Of course the cause of that may lie within my last post here-in. Your experiences are a 'mirror' of most of my hobbying tenure. I wish you better experiences from here-on-out.BTW,not knowing where you reside,you did receive one response from a young lady who always makes an incredible attempt every time she see's someone.

and i am becoming weary with "tell-them-what-they-want-to-hear" providers. that approach eventually fails in two ways with me. 1) i'd rather hear something credible and responsible. 2) one-size-fits-all solutions do not work well.

my preference in this activity is to circulate among a treasured few friends. anonymous variety is unappealing and ineffective for me. so as to "what's up", i am in process of reconsidering who i might see.

perhaps someone will come along, read this and criticize it for "overthinking" that it should be "just for fun". well i don't do this just for fun. (although i have managed to have quite a bit!).

rather i do it to manage a chronic disease that is stress aggravated. it seems that the best method for me is to combine medications and lifestyle changes: continue to enjoy living alone while occasionally enjoying excellent compensated companionship.

often decreases.  I sincerly believe many laides like to be with new men just as much as so many men seem to enjoy being with new women.  

Some just seem more excited when they meet you than they are once they know you.  Of course it csn be me...most people are not as excited to know me than they were when they met me.  

But seriously, the energy level can go down because the excitement lowers.  This might be what you are seeing.  Sex with strangers can be exciting on both sides.

However, while sometimes they may be taking revisits as secure and comfortable, and thereby maybe be comparitively lazy, that does not mean it is poor.  In fact, it can be better - maybe just not as exciting.

It depends alot on what your tastes are.  It is bound to change one you get to know each other.  The key is how it changes.  If the loss of excitment is compensated in another way, you have found the right lady for you.

my entire 'mission statement'. Do you know how frequently I hear how much someone would "love" to see me again. Would you mind if I just HOPE that you may be 50% correct? Otherwise,tomorrow I may be FINISHED! Am I being lied to?(that's never happened before).

as it is an opinion.

As to them being sincere as to wanting to see you again, if you are a decent guy I am 100% sure they are being sincere.  It of course could be that she wants more business.  Let's be honest here.  

But it also is very possible she enjoys your company.  All I was stating is that it is perfectly reasonable for the excitment to decrease with repeated business.  But I also pointed out that other things can take its place.  If those other things that replace the level of excitement aare as or more valuable, then it is a good situation.

It can all come down to what you are looking for.  If it is all about the excitement of a new lady, one could see repeats as getting poorer.

Why so defeatest?  LOL

That's why I do this...variety.  I run from what you're talking about (poor perfermance, gets old, boring, etc, etc etc

I tend to be somewhat nervous and guarded on a first date.  Each subsiquent time, I become more and more relaxed. I try to spice it up and keep things fresh for my regulars.  What I like, is that by the 4th or 5th visit, I know what they like, what they may be willing to explore and can push the envelope a little. Plus, since I know they aren't LE, I can attack as soon as I open the door!  lol

But that's just me....

kari~