I just recently had a session with a provider, and as usual I had a FABULOUS time!!  

  I've been participating in the hobby for about 12 years and I can honestly say 90% of the time my experiences have been absolutely wonderful, and that's because the providers I've been with seemed to enjoy themselves as much as I do!! Look, I know money is the primary motivator and I'm totally OK with that, but I honestly believe that the large majority of ladies I've seen really had a good time and received pleasure during the sessions as well. Now I'm not trying to portray myself as some sort of Don Juan; in fact I consider myself as simply an average run of the mill guy with a horny streak (LOL)!! I don't think of myself as the type of guy women are going to "swoon" over. However, I will say that I always try to present myself in the best possible way I can on each date (which includes being clean and respectful). Maybe that's a part of it--or maybe I've just had good fortune in the ladies I've chosen to have sessions with over the years.

 So this leads to my questions---Do you ladies out there enjoy the sex (even sometimes) as much as us guys do? Does the way a client presents himself play a determining factor in your enjoyment of the overall experience? Do you go through sessions frequently having to "fake" or "act" enjoyment often?  

 I've done a lot of Internet research on these topics and the answers seem to be all over the map. So I decided to conduct my own informal survey just to see what would happen.  Hopefully I'm not beating a dead horse with this topic--I'm just truly fascinated by it!!

 Any responses would be most appreciated and welcomed---thanks so much!!

Hello,

Well, I have being doing this for years as well, just different names.  
Obviously each person is different.  

I believe that if a woman decides to do this kind of work, must be motivated by two strong reasons, Money and sex.
So, for me, if the person meets the requirements to be with me, and be basically, respectful and clean (which thank God is 98% of the times)
Then why not?  
Is about self-esteem. It really turns me on when I can turn someone on as well, And I love to have big O's.

So, yes my friends, here is my answer, I love sex too much that I enjoy what I do, that's why I keep doing it

I totally agree...

I was involved in the "swinging" community long before providing!  I have always loved sex... and, like Domenica said, if the guy is respectful, clean, nice... then I can go with that. All women know what turns them on or how they can reach "fulfillment"... she just has to apply it.   I will admit that sometimes we might have to fake it some and not always because of who we are with... sometimes it is us.. but guys.. c'mon... you know it happens regardless of if it is a provider, GF or Wife!! LOL

Still, giving a guy a great time IS the turn on for me.... with oral or cowgirl... I can always "get off"!! LOL

I love providing because of the guys I have met and the sex!! Actually, I have met a better quality of men who pay me than the men in swinging who got it for free!!  That seemed weird to me... but I love the men I see now!

Smooch!

Lea

I have been incredibly fortunate and lucky with the friend's I have met. I think if you screen correctly you can truly enjoy someones company. And, YES the way you approach someone makes a difference. For sure! Like anyone else in life.  

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Do you ladies out there enjoy the sex (even sometimes) as much as us guys do?  
-Yes

Does the way a client presents himself play a determining factor in your enjoyment of the overall experience?  

-Absolutely

Do you go through sessions frequently having to "fake" or "act" enjoyment often?  

-Thank science no.

So I clearly just made this account as I would never post under my "real" account, even with an alias - at least not until I know that I am out of this line of work for good. As a provider (and your miles may vary for other girls who like having sex with someone that they just met 2 seconds ago), but I very rarely get off with a guy that pays me for sex. I've been doing this for around 5 years now and I can only recall two guys that I have gotten off with. Both were regulars and honestly, I usually fantasized about other guys while having sex with them. The last time that I got off with one of them was around a year ago before I moved cities. To answer your question on if we enjoy this? Well, I don't. I hate it. I can't wait to get out and to stop sleeping with strangers. Yes, I fake if the guy is intent on trying to get me off. Will I get off with him? Absolutely not. I wish that guys would stop trying to "get me off" and just give me a massage. That would satisfy me A LOT more than having to fake getting off with him. Can't you just let me get you off a few times and then go on your merry way? And by the way, I would NEVER say this under my real account. But I do think it every time a guy tells me how much he wants to "please" me. Bring me champagne. Bring me flowers. Bring me a gift certificate for a massage or lingerie from Victoria's Secret. Be nice and respectful to me. THAT would please me. You trying to get me off? That doesn't please me. It just passes the time that I would rather use to get to know you. If I know you and we see each other often, THEN I MAY get off with you. Otherwise? No, it won't happen unless you're ridiculously handsome and spoil me to death. Then there's a good chance. . . .

If I do not enjoy myself you can see in in my body language, however I all most always truly enjoy the intimate experiences with my lovely gentlemen friends. That is why I do what I do, I love and enjoy it!

If someone presents themselves as cocky or rude its a complete turn off. I will not get off in that setting, I try to treat others the way they want to be treated and make sure they are thoroughly enjoying themselves cause that's when I have the best O faces... Hope my insight helps!

I enjoy it when you do!

Kisses here and there,

Leslie Awnwood of Atlanta

I guess I understand. But there are some of us that would listen if you told us that....and would respect your wishes. I know....you'd probably lose business if you told anyone....

I'd  believe you.

 I do agree with what you're saying because with many of the ladies I've seen I can tell how they are guiding the session to "get it over with" even on dates longer than 1 hr.I know why they do it and I just remind myself it's a matter of adjusting my expectations.

Preach it girl!!!

I am easy to get off, thank god, or I am pretty sure I would hate this too.  

But you wanna know how many after all this time have done it because they were trying? Around two. Sit back and let me do my thing and we will both leave happier than all get out

I've wondered about that myself! The responses are interesting.

Personally, yes, I really do enjoy my appointments. I feel I am having as good a time or better I haven't had a need to fake it. Going into it, I thought I would have to do that, but I quickly learned differently. First, you know the clients are generally quite decent and looking to make sure you are comfortable and having a good time.  I am genuinely attracted to a wide variety of types, and I find men fascinating and like spending time with them.  So chemistry is usually working in my favor.  And I'm low-volume so I don't think I get jaded. I mean, it doesn't feel routine to me. It's exciting.  As long as I am treated well, and things are relaxed, I'm happy. I can only think of two or three times when a client did or said something I wish he had not, and then I just felt awful. It's a vulnerable position to be in. It all boils down to just treating someone as you would like to be treated if you were in that position. But 95% of my dates have been, as you say, swoon-worthy.

I applaud you telling the truth...because let's be honest, there are a few different types of men who "hobby".  Married men who aren't getting the excitement they crave at home, or don't feel like creating that excitement at home.  Guys who don't have the time to cultivate relationships (but have disposable income.)   --- These two aren't so much paying for sex so much as paying for the ease of no strings attached sex.  Paying for you to leave and not make problems.

and then there is the other category...those guys who are incapable of making connections with women for whatever reason.  Ugly, obese, awkward, and/or all of the above....the guys who have to pay for sex.

To think that many of the latter group are getting women off is absurd...

Also, my heart is on my sleeve, and you will know if I am not enjoying myself..I don't feel a need to fake anything..I am more then willing to let you keep trying..lol :p

primary motivator in starting this thread was recalling a talk show I saw some time back regarding the escort lifestyle. (Sorry I can't remember who the host was.) Anyhow, I will never forget this one very nice looking young woman who stated how much she enjoyed her work (basically echoing the majority of the thoughts expressed here.) I will never ever forget how the studio audience reacted to this woman--they made it sound like she was practically Satan's disciple!! It really infuriated me that a viewpoint so "at odds" with the stereotype would be shot down and ridiculed so ferociously!! I've never forgotten that show---it's just a reminder at how so narrow minded people STILL are despite all of our so-called societal "advances" LOL!!!

 I have no doubt that the battle for acceptance is waged in some form by providers every day---which makes me all the more grateful for the many wonderful ladies I've met in the hobby over the years!!

My Guess is you are Just one great guy that thinks that way.  
I will be honest  
riding a man to a orgasm is fun backwards and forwards lol.  
unless he's a ,picky arrogant unfriendly and has smells unusual.  lol  
GOOD is clean
gentlemen  
dress nice
smells nice
friendly
on time
ROCKET SCIENCE RIGHT))))))))))

I'm not going to deny that there are some girls who probably enjoy this lifestyle, but from my experience, I have NEVER met a girl who does this that actually enjoys it. We are really good at acting like we do. And if I had posted under my real handle, you would probably be surprised at how many guys have been "fooled", even stating in the reviews how much I "clearly love what I do." Eye roll. Of course girls are going to log on under their handles and claim that they love it. Some of them probably do. But overall, if you had the chance for us to answer honestly, I would estimate from my personal experience with every girl that I've met and communicated with and have seen on the girl only forums in different regions that this is a horrible line of work for most of us and it's very rare that we get a great guy coming in to see us. I know that most of you think that you are great guys, but even if you're not physically deformed and you "have" to pay for it as I think someone said, I guarantee we still wouldn't have spent time with you had you not paid us.

Sounds like a very honest Lady. I had a honest conversation with a provider/friend yesterday and she said the same thing. She enjoys sex but she can not have a civilian relationship until she is out of this business and the only reason she is in this business is debt. I listened to her story, we actually talk daily. It's not a job I would want to do. I feel bad for her. I will always be her friend but I guess the next conversation will be if we will continue to see each other as me being a client.

Thank you for the nice reply and for acknowledging that as much as the girls may not like what they do, and saying that as a provider could help them find a friend, but also possibly not have the business to keep them afloat.

was that I DO agree that every girl that is in this line of work probably enjoys sex, I am 99% sure that it's very rare when she actually enjoys it with a guy that pays her.

So although we have not met in person, you can now say you know at least one provider who genuinely enjoys her work. I swear that on a stack of bibles.  

I did not know so many women providers did not like this until I read your post.  I've been on provider-only forums on other sites and also heard that women like what they do.  So this really surprises me, actually, to read this!  I have met a few providers -- not legions -- but a few very reputable ones, and most of them seem either "okay" with it, or are (like me) really into it.  I don't know that I've ever met a provider who hated her job.

I mean I believe you and all, I just don't think providers who like this are the exception, necessarily.

There are plenty of guys I see that I would happily date w/o being paid but the rules of the game are I get paid.  95% of them are great guys in my book.  I can hardly believe it's rare that you get a great guy as a date but I believe you because you are saying it.  But it surprises me.  It saddens me.

So this is my big question: if so many providers really don't like what they do, if that is true, and it is true for you, then why do it at all?  There are hundreds of other ways to make money.  Life is too short and precious to spend any time doing anything that makes you feel unhappy or less than authentic.  Really! Truly!  For some of us, this is a fantasy come true.  But if it isn't what makes you light up and grin all day, then, my word, find that thing that does and do that!  If you don't mind me saying. No amount of money is worth doing something that makes you feel diminished or less than happy.  My two cents

That is just what I like about it.  It's a rather typical fantasy, after all!  But to each her own...

it's a business but, would someone go into business opening a bakery if they hated baking/cooking?

An escort can still enjoy some aspects of the job. I would say the part that they dont enjoy the most is ( can't say the lack of respect and hygiene issues because those are a given) guys trying to please them sexually.  They see many clients per week and cant be expected to be "on" EVERY single time. Of course, many delusional hobbyists think THEY are the ones who are so charming and that it's everyone else she's faking with.  

Probably more common for younger provides to have this contempt for the job described on this thread.

 
 

"clearly love what I do" LMAO!

did you write that in any of your reviews?

 
 

eye roll. but why would they subject themselves to a job they hate for a LONGER time why not just one hour appointments?

Several providers have told me that K9 is their favorite position.  Is this why?  I.e.  it's a way to somewhat distance yourself from the act.  I just thought this was a strange conincidence since the girls I've dated didn't particularly care for K9 (although they do it because I wanted to).  Instead, they preferred the more intimate positions that allowed you to see each other's face and kiss.  Any thoughts?