that you didnt book with her (and did with someone else) when she was in town?

I don't think it's any of her business but I also believe you shouldn't just ignore her emails that she's in town.

Thoughts?

But if it's a situation where you previously had agreed to book with her when she would be in town but changed your mind and booked with someone else which she didn't need to know about anyway, than you shouldn't ignore her email, and if you were going tell her you were going to book with someone else instead of her then I could imagine she might get offended.

So I can specifically call her and tell her which "other" girl I am spending time with....  

 I would love to piss her off.... Just for shits and giggles....  

 I don't understand what you mean when you say, "you shouldn't ignore...." You don't owe her anything unless you have actually booked time with her, or promised her something..Yes, then and only then you should respect her time and show up as promised (or cancel well in advance)....and pay her full amount...

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Being smart, tactful, and sensitive are good things too.

If she booked her trip partly based on the expectation of seeing you based on what you said, that's not a good position to be in.

I've had a few cases where someone from out of town was returning.  I liked my earlier experience(s) with her and wanted to see her again, but either had too many personal and business activities or had previously booked someone else for about the same date and/or was too far over budget for the month.  In those cases, I say that I'm not available but am interested and hope to see her on her next trip.  This happened recently with an ATF.  It was just bad timing.  I really do hope to see her next time.

But you should just be able to say you have plans without getting interrogated about it.  Cuz her interrogating you about it would also make her a shitty provider.

it's a generic question,  

not a specific provider.
"I don't understand what you mean when you say, "you shouldn't ignore.."

if a provider you've seen before comes to town and emails you "i'm in town and would like to get together..."

would you ignore her and not respond?
 

in that situation your's would be an appropriate response.

 
But, what if you told her you werent available and THEN booked an appointment with a different provider (after)?  
If the new provider calls the first for a reference...it could be an issue.

If you don't mind I'd like to offer my take on this subject...

I am most appreciative of any Gentleman that chooses to spend time with me.  There are so many great choices and beautiful and wonderful Ladies it has to be hard to figure out which ones may be a match for you.

When I decided to become a Provider the first thing I was told was never be jealous of another Provider..respect them as you would want to be respected....Hobbyist like variety..they pay you to leave...If a gentleman wants to see me again I am honored he had such a good time I earned that return visit.  If he doesn't then I either did not do my job right or I was just not what he liked or wanted...either way I am grateful I got to meet him and at least enjoy that one time I did see him..

The other thing I was told is "he who hath the gold makes the rules"..My Assistant is a wise person and has taught me be grateful for the business I do get and not worry about the business I don't get as I have no control over that.  Do my job each and every time to the best of my ability and if all the stars align odds are I will get a return visit at some point in time...and to be perfectly honest I enjoy variety also...isn't that part of why we do what we do?

Thanks for reading and if I have offended anyone with my thoughts I apologize in advance

Nikki

If someone emails me like that, I would tell YES or NO simply depending on what I am in mood for...

You are making it way too harder than its supposed to be !!!  

Trust me.. You ain't hurting her feelings.. I have said NO to plenty of girls, and plenty of girls have said NO to me as well...

"You are making it way too harder than its supposed to be !!!  "

this is a very common repsonse. not always warranted though.asking a question doesnt always indicate intentions.

in this case i'm just throwing the situation out there if it happened to anyone.

"Trust me.. You ain't hurting her feelings."

agree with you there.

Unfortunately, in this business a lot of cock blocking takes place. Providers get jealous and wouldn't let clients see other gals.  Its easy money for them since they don't have to screen the guy again, and when the guy turns them down, their ego gets hurt.  

This tendencies sometimes goes to the extreme and the girls even go to the extent of bad mouthing the guys on blacklist sites and through other back channels, so they wouldn't get appointments elsewhere

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I agree.   I wouldn't do things in that sequence.  If my schedule had changed so I became available, I'd try to book the first provider and give her a day or two to get back to me.  If I didn't hear back on what I considered was a timely basis, I'd see it as my prerogative to book someone else.

I think it's best to treat people fairly.  If the truth is that you changed your mind about wanting to see the first provider, you need to say that, tactfully if possible.

I would never pay you to leave.  

I know what you mean.  It just struck me as odd, especially since I'm striking out in terms of trying to get together with you.

Xoxo, KL

....if she's offended then OH WELL. I don't take lightly to when I say variety is the spice of life especially in this hobby.  I mean you let her know you weren't available (at least to her) therefore it's not like you lead her on so.....*shrugs*.  If she's "jealous" (likely about the money she sees as lost to her) then this is probably the wrong business for her.

and I look forward to your next visit to DC.  I look at it like any other business, once you get past the basic commodity a customer's decisions depend on attitude and service!

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