Geez - we all thought the gift rate was going up - who's undercutting? Just joking.

I would be curious to know what your screening standards are?

We've all been screened at some point or another - well, with the exception of those who only go to AMP's. The process varies from one to the next and the only time I've seen it become and issue and invasive is when asking race and weight - and some take offense to age (old age that is).

But, if you could provide what it is you are asking - then you will get better feedback from the group.

And I still what to know whose undercutting?

Opps - Sorry - I just noticed you use Date Check. Well, I probably wouldn't see you if it required me to give up to a 3rd party the information they require and store into a database regardless of confidentiality. I know it not to say the booking person who might work for you and asks the same things doesn't store it someplace or possibly gives it up to an LE watch list.

The most I've been asked was my full name and work phone number which they verified by calling. So, I'm not a good example I guess. And to be honest - once I was asked if I had any provider references, I gave my TER handle and was told to come on over.



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I think it is important for the provider and hobbyist to both feel comfortable with the arrangement.  If the hobbyist is unwilling to provide the info requested by the provider, the hobbyist should move on to someone else - no hard feelings between the two - just not the right situation.

Some providers are a lot more careful than others.  And different hobbyists have different ideas about what info they feel comfortable providing.

By the way, Denise - I think I might be giving you a call in the near future.  

Sorry to hear about your booking experiences, but on the other side of the fence, I don't agree with either one of your perceived trends.  The "general donation standard" appears to have noticeably risen lately.....for both locals and visiting ladies, and I haven't seen any "nonchalance on the part of providers about their screening process".  It seems relatively constant.  Like many things, there is probably a bell curve with some ladies wanting a LOT of info, others being content with a "reasonable amount", while there are probably also others who are willing to take greater risks.

Personally, I only see those who I feel are content with a "reasonable amount"....which I define as at least two verifiable and known references.  If someone tells me that she needs things like full name, work number, home address, etc., I politely decline and move on.

In this "hobby", we all have to make our own "risk choices".  Whatever each of us chooses is just that.....our choice and none of us should take someone else's choices personally.

I realize to have a nice relaxed session I need to feel comfortable, that means a reference or work info.

Like Candace said, I too look awful in orange or in this area drab green!  

I was in a dangerous situation yesterday and while I was not hurt it made me think that I need to be more careful. I screen the same way many ladies do: work info, references. This gentleman did not have any references but was so sweet and charming in his emails I let my guard down and agreed to meet him.

No amount of money in the world is worth getting hurt.

Be safe and keep doing what you have all along. Real gentleman will understand our need to be safe and respect that.

Thanks for taking the hit