Is there any way to ask a provider in advance of the session via email or PM about specific preferences  or services . Obviously I am talking about a situation where after reading all the reviews , there is still some question.

This is something I have not done before , and I can see the obvious reasons it could be problematic. Just wondering if there is a way to deal with this that maybe I have not thought of , besides booking a session and hoping for the best.

Under no circumstances ask about acts performed.  Either do some research or just hope for the best.  Use the head on your shoulders to think with in these situations for everyone's protection.

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Its different on TER in my opinion cause the provider can look at your profile, your reviews and such, and determine if you are a good candidate. I have actually PM some providers and none have ignore my messages. I don't explicit ask them, I use abbreviations and such. PM in my opinion is a good system for inquire about services.

what she will do. tell her what you like and ask her what she likes. Phrasing can make a big difference.

I've also had some success with PM on TER resolving unknowns.  Sometimes all the research still doesn't pan out and you're left wondering about a service or a rate.  I'd say asking over the phone or over open email is a bad idea, most ladies will understandably cut the exchange short right there.  If you can't find the information you need in the TER profile and reviews you can check to see if the provider has a P411 listing where they are allowed to advertise specific services.  If all that fails, a PM to the provider asking if it's OK to ask is a reasonable approach.  The worst that can happen is a reply saying she won't discuss it over PM.

always. no exceptions. i don't want to see a girl who'd do this. it's neither smart nor discreet enough.