I read some of these reviews where guys get caught up with the providers  attention. These girls are pro’s. They din’t want to see you outside of your appt. Their job is to make you want to come back. They have no emotional connection with you.  Get a life!

Maybe for a drink or meal. But I doubt anything else.

Maybe for a drink or meal but nothing else.
IMO

I know a few providers who ended up getting married to someone they met as a client. Had one experience myself where it ended up being emotional. So it definitely happens but I agree with the overall sentiment. It's not good getting invested in these relationships.

You sound like a broken record spouting the same line. Maybe try a new one.

The fact that you still have to pay for sex confirms she’s still OTC.  

We went from “they are interested in nothing but your money” to “yes, but you still have to pay for sex”.

One of the worst STIs one can catch is feelings.

That is the problem with making universal claims in a whole where there are always exceptions to the rules and I strongly suspect P4P is the exception to that one.

This goes for hobbyist and provider…..never mix business with pleasure

You’re definitely playing with fire when you even consider viewing the hobby as something other than mutual adult fun. Its very HUMAN to form connections with other people - we”re wired to form bonds and some of these ladies can make you forget that it is a service…but at the end of the day you need to realise that if she’s making you feel more than just a client there’s dozens of other guys who she has also got feeling the same way too. I would think getting into a relationship with a SW would be problematic from both POV’s. Eventually the amount of guys she’s sucked and fucked is going to start to get to you, and in the back of her mind she’s going to be wondering if you’re sneaking around seeing SW’s behind her back because your a John.

These providers have lives outside if their “business”
Boyfriends, girlfriends, families. I many cases no one knows about their other life.
It would be interesting to hear the perspective on this from the ladies.

It's not professional. And yes at the end of the day this is suppose to be a business. Because it is so intimate, lines can become blurred easily when there are no boundaries. Boundaries in any business are very important.

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Your post helps understand the dynamic from the providers view. Thank you!

JOHNNY LEE ~ LOOKING FOR LOVE, sums it up the best!

Many years ago, I had a provider ask to blur the line. Sometimes she needed company and I was safe and we had good chemistry. When she called, no payment. When I called, standard arrangement. It eventually got a little confusing and then flickered out. It’s a little different from the original scenario as I wasn’t feeling attached - it was in a bad place in my life for that - but things do happen.

But interestingly we have, and often hear, the same for the client side. It's a professional relationship, not personal, you're paying to see her so don't cross the line by making it personal even if you have attachments. Let her acknowledge an interest. If no one feels safe speaking up then where does that go?

Feelings happen. And that's fine. On both ends. Providers aren't robots. Just because they might not want a relationship doesn't mean they don't care or develop affections for their clients.  

It is unrealistic to think, if you meet the in biz, there is a traditional future for you as a couple.  Saw a lady for12 yrs who started in massage and then was escort, they were profoundly great times but money was always part of it. Always great fun but the financial “commitment,” no matter the feelings and great sex,  made it transactional no matter the good feelings. Saving us both from wrongly assuming we should leave our spouses for the TLC we shared.

Who hurt you?

If you are seeing someone, even a provider, in a regular basis, it seems quite normal to develop feelings/attachment to them. But just like any business transaction, to them you are a customer.

Typically yes, but there are exceptions. In my experience if she is developing true feelings for you she will find a way to let you know by dropping hints or more. If she wants more she will let you know. That’s been my experience.

Don't ever mistake kindness for wanting a relationship. Always remember what this is...a mutual business arrangement. For the RARE times it actually develops into something more, don't be butt hurt if you FAFO.

Yes, by hints I don’t mean kindness, I mean she wants to hang out and is not charging you any longer. She talks openly about her personal life and tells you what she likes about you. Those are hints that she wants a relationship. It will not be ambiguous. You will know.

Would you say it’s professional if a provider had you as a guest in her house for a few days?

Have you experienced that or just assuming?

Emma is rarely on the boards so don't expect an answer but it's pretty obvious that she'd say NO.  

I don’t think I asked you a question sport.

About 10 years ago I became close to a provider.  After seeing her 10 times we kinda clicked. It started as a friendly car ride to UNION Station and kept going.  We became friends because I could help her with her language barriers. But I never forgot who she was and what I meant to her.  

We're all not the same. I truly enjoy my lifelong TER friends. I do have a deep connection with my friends. I'm sorry you have not experienced real love. ❤️ I get excited when my friends text me kindness.

Yes here on TER but do you ever see them socially OTC ?

Yes, she does.

without a fee?

I don't think any of my friends would want to see me for free. I do provide time OTC because we're real friends. I believe respect is reciprocated. I don't have free time being the only active parent, but I make time for my friends.

You're certainly an amazing woman and friend.

Personally there are a couple ladies I’ve known over years that I truly appreciate as people and have certainly communicated with them a lot outside of appointments, and certainly was happy for that extra dimension of our knowing each other in a transactional way.  

You charge your friends? For just being friends?  
Are they paying you for friendship or service. There is a difference.

I'm sorry this is hard for you to comprehend. I have life long friends here from this hobby lifestyle. My oldest friend has been my client for over 15 years. No I don't charge him for my friendship he donates money it's that's simple. The difference is respect. ✊🏽  

But you still charge them. Call it whatever you want. A fee is still a fee.

A charging them a fee makes them a customer, maybe a dear customer, but a customer nonetheless.  

One can be a "customer" and a friend at the same time.  

Every business has its favorite customers.

The world is full of exceptions, detours, and surprises — and some of those surprises end up being the best parts of your life.

how could you even ask that? obviously if you ever paid a professional for any service and stayed longer or was invited to stay over, that's obviously no longer a professional relationship

On a first date it's not a comfortable feeling when someone constantly states how they want to marry you, have kids and are falling in love. 🥰