There is a provided I've wanted to see a long time. Very active on twitter, tons of positive feedback here on TER. Plenty of adds on other sites / even had a snapchat would post to so it was clear she was real provider.
She had moved away however and I missed my chance. Recently said she was coming back to town on tour and I reached out to schedule an appointment. She said great asked me for my info etc. said everything was good. Then asked me to send her a deposit which I happily sent over no problem. The issue is she never came to town. I've messaged her on Twitter the way we started talking, emailed, and filled out her booking form on her site before realizing I've been ghosted on.
My question I guess is at this point I've just had to cut my losses and should have known better not to send a deposit. Should I be posting a review on here for her though that she asked for deposit and then stopped responding? Won't help her respond to me, but may stop the next guy from sending money for no reason.
** I've seen her post adds this week in her hometown shes at now, so it's not that something bad happened just decided not to tour after all and kept the deposit with no contact.
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if you have not met with the lady in question.
Are you certain you sent the deposit to her and it was not a scam with someone else using her name?
Do you know if she actually received the deposit?
If she got the deposit and you're absolutely sure you were dealing with her, then you should simply contact her again, give her a set timeframe to make good on returning your deposit and if not, post her name on this and any other board she may frequent.
But be 100% sure about it before you do that ... just too many scams being run out there, people stealing identities, etc. to go and report on this without first having the proof.
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Yeah I'm certain it was her. She replied saying she received it and was looking forward to seeing me that next week when in town. I contacted her directly through her twitter I follow on direct messages. I previously contacted her and purchased a "premium snapchat" lol so I know it's the same girl.
Not a big deal lost a deposit so chopped it up to being too excited and I should have known better not to send anything before seeing a girl in person. I messaged her duo partner and she said that she canceled on her last min. I don't really expect a refund this isn't a Target or anything just thought posting a review may be needed but also feel bad doing so.
If duplicity is confirmed.... you have nothing to feel bad about. Possibly she didn't feel the area generated enough interest for it to be profitable, but that still doesn't excuse the lack of communication after the thought. Refund, reschedule.... either would have shown professionalism. Her purported actions scream " sketchy". As others have said.... make a last effort communication to resolve the issue ( with a clear deadline for response and resution), if the issue remains unaddressed... you would be doing a service to the other members here to call her out. You absolutely cannot post a review, since the meeting never happened. Sucks, but rules are rules.
I don’t think you can write a review because you didn’t meet her.
You can either post her name on the boards or try to submit a rip off report.
& on Boards in areas she intends to visit until you get tired of doing so. The rest of us would appreciate it if you would. And yes, you are a fool for paying a deposit, but just learn from & never repeat your mistake.
I would appreciate and I think the community would also if you let us know the provider. Of course this is assuming it was not a mistake and she purposely ripped you off.
If you plan on sandbagging a provider, let the Reviewers Only forum know or fill out the rip off report.
I wouldn't pay a deposit....period. If I book, I show up! On time, completely clean, and sober as a judge. Well....who knows how sober a judge is these days, but I am. I give them the info and the references they require. If they bother to check my references, they'll see I'm prompt and dependable. If money from my pocket is what they need to feel secure....good for them. But that's not gonna leave me feeling all warm and fuzzy inside leading up to the proposed date. I don't even necessarily think they would rip me off, but life happens. You can't control everything.
or just bitch about it?
Are you going to be a pussy as well as a chump?
Isn't this the profile (well reviewed, established . . . ) of a lady other ladies use as an example of a provider we are safe to give a deposit???
Someone please tell me again why a client should pay a deposit.
Curious, have you ever slammed a provider in a review or on the board for anything? NCNS, CBJ not BBJ as listed, shorting time, being late, smelling bad or something that others should know to save them from her?
I personally would never take a chance with anyone and give a deposit. I doubt he will make that same mistake again. But he may be trying to work it out for a future meeting. And some ladies might blacklist him even for there being in the wrong.
Maybe you’ve been lucky with everyone and all your experiences have been near perfect. But I’m not sure you would post harsh negative comments in reviews or here. Why don’t you pm him. He might be telling all those who did. Or it might be on the reviewers only board, haven’t looked in a while.
Meaning dumb enough to send a deposit first and then robbed I may be too embarrassed to admit to paying a deposit! 
. Minor issues like you mention belong in reviews. Fortunately I haven't encountered such behavior and have had many fabulous times with beautiful and classy ladies over the years, largely due to decent guys before me warning me off in reviews.
Being stolen from is a very different story. It hurts both sides of our hobby. How can a lady who sees it in her interest to ask for a deposit get one with this type of thieving going on? There is but one way to stop the stealing and that's to make the price of doing so prohibitive, like identifying the thief. The ladies should be condemning her action (if true) in their own interest. We're not seeing a lot of that now, are we?
If the answer is to ignore the problem or to pretend it doesn't exist- as I suppose you suggest due to fear of being blacklisted then guys will continue to be ripped off.
Were I stolen from, you're damn right I would announce it here after I tried to get my money back and gave the lady fair warning. I would do it for the guys following me. Otherwise, why even have this forum? Except maybe to white-knight for the whiners.
A pussy as well as a chump? It must be fun waking up as you every day.
I decided I would give her the benefit of the doubt and another chance to respond. She was traveling from the west coast back here where she you to be. Something honestly could have come up and I could have jumped the gun, so I reached out again and giving her a chance to respond is all before I blast her name out.
Many providers take request and take a depoist. I'm new to the hobby without references etc. so not the craziest thing to ask for one. I admitted it was my mistake and shouldn't have sent it. There was no bitching about it other than asking a discussion board hey what am I supposed to do there since I haven't had it happen before.
But I do sincerely appreciate your 2 cents.
a fucking back rub for your bravery?
So now you couple your whining with excuses confirming my earlier conclusion.
You got the advice that you requested. If a provider ripped you off, as you clearly indicated, and you don't say who it is, then what's the point of the post in the first place. How the hell were we to supposed to know that you were going to give her "the benefit of the doubt" yet again.
So, if she doesn't reply to your satisfaction, are you going to "blast her name out"! SURE you are - I've read this story before. . I won't hold my breath . . .
Thanks though, it's great waking up and being me!
