I met a female (will not call her a lady, you will know why in a minute) about a month ago on an online dating site. We went on one date then she decided to part ways. Last week she reached out and I made the mistake of showing interest. Now she is barraging me with text messages (at least 5 per day), has asked for $800 for her time (she says I wasted her time with my insincere interest), and now she threatens to inform my wife of our one date (there was nothing but dinner and drinks).

I have remained silent to this barrage of texts. It is getting annoying fast.

Do I respond to her barrage of texts, and if so, what should be the message? Does anyone have any ideas how to stop this stalker, what is the cure for a stalker?

Block her on ur phone... I wouldn't reply, that would only encourage more communication...  I don't get why she's asking you for money if met her on a normal dating site... Is she a provider?  People are crazy!!!  My 2 cents

Call your phone provider and change your number.

a stalker can't text a number they don't have.

Asking for money makes sense to me.

Block the number.  If you have an iPhone, you don't even have to call the company to block the number.  You just go to the contact and block it. easy-peasy.

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I didn't see where he introduced her to his wife. How did that happen?

 
You guys sure make life hard.

Send a simple note that $800 will not cover the expense of the criminal attorney she will need if she ever contacts you again and attempts to blackmail and extort money from you with threats to cause pain and/or suffering (does not have to include violence) against you and your loved ones. Indicate that she has already committed said crimes as the actual carrying out of threats is not needed to press formal charges in most cases. Note that all further communications on the matter are terminated from your end but you will continue to save her incoming contact attempts for the event of legal action. And give warm regards of course. Even crazy people deserve as much.

Good luck.
SW

800 will get you a really nice time with a sane, normal and highly reviewed provider.. reason why dating sites are not that recommended..

Thanks for your responses and advice.

This certainly confirms the best playground to meet ladies and have fun has been right here in my backyard all the time. In that respect, it's a lot like the moral of the story in the Wizard of Oz. Oh how I wish I could tap my heels and be taken back to Kansas and spend some time with Dorothy. I am once again a true believer the best things in life are right in front of us all the time after this nightmare.

I plan to block my cell phone number, and my wife's cell phone number, so that this crazy woman will not be able to call or text either of us from her cell phone. Unfortunately, that does not prevent her from calling us from another cell phone or telephone. I do not want to change our cell numbers because that would be suspicious to my wife, and we have too many family and friends who may call us at our current numbers (we have had these numbers forever) and they will not know our new numbers. We do not have a landline number at home, we both exclusively use our cell phones.

I still have not decided if I will send this crazy woman a text or email as a few suggested (most convincingly, Sofia White), or I will maintain my silence. There are merits to both approaches. Since this woman is most assuredly possessed by the devil and crazy, I do not believe she will be convinced by reality, legality or logic.

Again, thanks to all who responded, truly appreciated.

YW.  Keep in mind that when some crazy people do act upon threats, they are cowards and attempt to hide behind fake numbers and online identities. She is likely to contact your wife via burner phone, Facebook, Linkedin, and more so go through all security settings on all outlets your wife may have. These types of women do better research than the FBI so cover your bases and when in doubt, don't forget that even hookers, perverts, and adulterers have rights in the legal system and she can be held accountable for her actions if need be.

SW

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I did not provide the crazy lady my real name or wife's cell phone number. I did provide her my personal cell phone number when we exchanged text messages to set up a date. Big mistake, I know. I'm going to Best Buy this week to buy a burner phone. The crazy lady informed me she had used my personal cell phone number to locate my personal information and my wife's cell phone number and personal information. I don't know if that is true or not, I only know all too often where there is a will there is a way. I blocked my wife's cell phone number as a precautionary measure. I did not yet block my cell phone number because I want to continue to collect any threatening messages she sends (cannot do that after I block my cell phone number).