Sometimes I like to be the first appointment of the day. Most of time, I like to be the last because there's less of a chance for the lady to rush. However, to avoid being offensive, instead of asking for the first or last appointment, I ask for an early time or a late time hoping that would be the first or last appointment.
So, I'm in contact with this young lady to potentially arrange an appointment. All is going well with our communications until I note that I would like to be her first appointment of the day?
She responds back "....Argh. That question is such a turn off."
I respond back "...oops sorry. Do you still want to proceed?" She responds that she would rather not meet. OK, no problem.
Hmmmm, the question. I can't count the number of times I've made that request and NEVER have I gotten a negative response. In fact some ladies even took it as a compliment of sorts.
Now I will chalk part of it off to her being a rookie as she is new to the game.
What say you ladies? If a guy requests to be your first appointment of the day would that turn you off to the point where you would not want to make the appointment?
I'm not a newbie and still personally hate the request and everything it insinuates. Luckily it's not something I encounter often (I think a perk of sounding no nonsense is that there is far less "undesirable" content in my inbox) and at this point I'd probably literally ignore that it was said even if the requester was actually the first.
If they brought it up again I'd probably let them know if they're that concerned about it they are welcome to book me for an outcall dinner date/overnight/extended date. And that's honestly saying that they all in all have a really good chance of actually being the first and probably only, but that, how do I put it...level of entitlement? need for control? idea that anything after first is somehow yucky or tainted? irks me. I can't comment on your particular reasoning for why you may request it, but that's how it comes off to me on my side.
And depending on how much it irks, yes I might cancel. I find it hard to vibe with someone I think is fundamentally wrong. Kills my whole vibe and the kitty goes dry.
I'm not sure how anyone would take that as compliment so I'm interested to hear about that.
xo, Words from Your Neighborhood Classy Ass Hooker(TM)
I had no clue as the intent is not out of any "yucky" or "ickiness." If I had to put a reason on it, it would be primarily for the purpose of all parties being "dialed" in and "present." I know I do my best work, regardless of what it is, and am more focused between say 8:AM to 4:PM. And, I got a small thing for being first when I can...first in line to get tickets; First to see the hot new movie at the theater; first in the shower before the rest of gym class crowds it up; etc..
And alas, someone needs to float the memo for providers to let apparent idiots like me know that this type of request can come off as an insult. Cause I shit you not, more times than I can remember I've gotten a positive response per my request to be the first client of the day.
more times then not you probably asked a lady who has heard this question so many times that she doesn't even let it phase her any more.
we are asked for things all of the time. its all about how you reply to the request.
"i may be 15 mins early"
"ok, please be discreet.. if its any more there is a starbucks next door. i dont think ill be ready 15 mins early, but feel free to text when you are nearby" "why? our date is 7pm, be there at 7pm" "i cancel" "i understand you may be early, but i try my hardest to stay to a time so i have me time and you time. i won't be able to accommodate your early arrival, but feel free to grab a paper and catch up on the news" "screw you" "sure, let me know when youre here and if I'm ready ill welcome you up."
you could get any of those replies and then some. in the end, when the lady is ready for the date is when you'll be welcomed up. why make a fuss out of nothing? once you are around long enough you learn how to handle such requests. some ladies still take this personal, but what can ya do.. just move on to one who doesn't. what offends one won't offend another.
some ladies take the "first of the day" as saying we are dirty, others take it as a control issues. others dont care. others just go with the flow.
more times then not you probably asked a lady who has heard this question so many times that she doesn't even let it phase her any more.
we are asked for things all of the time. its all about how you reply to the request.
"i may be 15 mins early"
"ok, please be discreet.. if its any more there is a starbucks next door. i dont think ill be ready 15 mins early, but feel free to text when you are nearby" "why? our date is 7pm, be there at 7pm" "i cancel" "i understand you may be early, but i try my hardest to stay to a time so i have me time and you time. i won't be able to accommodate your early arrival, but feel free to grab a paper and catch up on the news" "screw you" "sure, let me know when youre here and if I'm ready ill welcome you up."
you could get any of those replies and then some. in the end, when the lady is ready for the date is when you'll be welcomed up. why make a fuss out of nothing? once you are around long enough you learn how to handle such requests. some ladies still take this personal, but what can ya do.. just move on to one who doesn't. what offends one won't offend another.
some ladies take the "first of the day" as saying we are dirty, others take it as a control issues. others dont care. others just go with the flow.
Lol, I always love that," I may be early". I always tell them "ok stay in your car" I don't care if you're early and then text me annoyingly several times that you are there. We should compile an entire list of things that are annoying in hopes that clients or potentials stop doing it.
Appointment at 6PM arrives at 5:39 PM "I'm here, room #?" "Do I get two pops in an hour" "Can you send the link to her reviews?" Staying way over your appointment time. Staying way over your appointment time and not tipping "Any other pics" The constant emailers or texters that NEVER book an appointment The clients that arrive VERY late, then expect the full time. The clients that arrive VERY late, expect full time, ask beforehand and says they are canceling if not. The clients that arrive VERY late, expect full time, and stay WAY over the appointment time, throwing off your entire schedule
Although we know what they do for a living, it kinda insinuates that there is a train of guys lined up for the day and you're trying to be first in line. If she is low volume, I can see how it would rub her the wrong way.
Besides, if she told you that you were the first of the day, how would you know if you weren't? The best girls make all of their clients feel as if they are the only one they are seeing.
It can be an annoying request.. Like..... Say you book noon and then a regular messages us the night before, "hey babe.. Tomorrow morning I have some spare time.. Can you come over at 9?" Are we to turn him down?
While it's an annoying request.. I simply just let it slide. I'm confident enough that I shower and clean up before each date that it doesn't make a difference.
If it makes you feel better that you feel you're getting the first date of the day, it's not that big of a deal..
It's a similar question to, "send me some private pics."
The questions can be annoying, but handling them appropriately is the best way to go.
She could have vented about it and laughed it off to another provider and just kept contact the same. I mean.. We ask you to do things sometimes that you're probably like, "duh" but... People can take things personal. That's just how life goes. xo
Personally that request doesn't offend me. I understand why it's made and I respect it. However, I think it's hotter when a guy wants to be the last appointment.
*my perspective is a little different. Having wandered for years in a sexual desert (ie, marriage) I am now getting laid and proud of it!
In no small part because it often leads to extended sessions and a lot of OTC time.
Hey, lots of us like to go have a drink "after work" I have found hookers are no different, and who better to share that drink with than that nice guy who was her last appointment of the evening? right?
Sometimes I like to be the first appointment of the day. Most of time, I like to be the last because there's less of a chance for the lady to rush. However, to avoid being offensive, instead of asking for the first or last appointment, I ask for an early time or a late time hoping that would be the first or last appointment.
Problem here is you just know too damn much... Lol! Enjoy the hobby for what it is and leave some mystery and details to us... Sit back and enjoy the ride. You know what time to book, so be there early on her first tour day... Lol!
Now, was she willing to honor your other requests? Just tell her how you like it and go from there, like you always do... Oh and Happy Football season to you babe!
the question i usually ask is "how early/late are you available / can i see you?" - perhaps it's the wording as i've not gotten negative feedback before. the notions of being more present and not rushing are ones i entertain as well.
it never occurred to me that a lady would be offended. Fortunately I ask for "morning" not "first" so hopefully I have never inadvertently ticked anyone. But now I wonder if they think that morning is code for first. Live and learn.
I remember a client from DC regularly requested the first appointment of the day and would book an appointment at 4 pm. Here Tall, I'll tell you a secret. I've had guys at 9 1030 and 12 ask to be the first appointment of the day and I'll tell them ALL that "yep, you're the first appointment of the day". Do you really think ladies are going to always be completely honest that you are in fact the first of the day. The day before she took 10 clients till 2 AM and sees you at 9 AM, what's the difference ?
You write a mouthful there! And as some ladies here know who are familiar with some of my requests; appointments after midnight on many occasions tend to work better for me. And I know I'm not the first appointment at that time of day/night/evening.....Well maybe, if I show up at 12:01 AM........ROFLMAO
And I am glad I asked too. Her response definitely took me by surprise.
I feel like the clueless office jerk, unaware person having that "blond" moment with statements that offend such as:
- "colored people" ______________ feel in the blank. LOL, what color are the people you are talking about?
- "Lets to go to Jew town and go shopping" You gotta be from and/or familiar with Chicago culture to know what that means net of me giving a long explanation. In short, my brother experienced this in college where he made that comment and Jewish person called him on it. He/We were so use to saying that and it was such apart of South Side culture that most were clueless/dismissed/ignored to it's racial/cultural/ethnic insensitivity. He had to admit, wow, you're right and I apologize. NOTE: Please don't start any philosophical race/culture debate per this.
Yea that question makes you seem a little too fixated on a provider's processes - which to me is kinda creepy and I'm not even a hooker. You getting rejected doesn't really surprise me.
As for that question being a compliment, that's a pretty odd take on it. I don't see how it could be. If girls are telling you that it is, they're probably just placating you because you're paying them. They really might think you're a pain in the ass. But who knows.
and whatever that answer is, simply ask for that time slot?
You do realize of course, there is no guarantee that even if you get a 7:00 AM appointment, there is no guarantee she didn't just BB her BF at 6:45 AM and since you are an eager beaver that showed up 10 minutes early, she only had time to wipe his jizz off with a baby wipe before seeing you.
My schedule is my personal business. I've heard that some guys think they are getting girls are their best and brightest, not keeping in mind that not every girl is a morning person and it may take them a little extra time to get ready in the morning.
I am another space cadet i guess. I didn't realize I was offending. I request morning appointments because that is when I can get free.
On occasion I have asked to be the first appointment but my theory was that if we hit it off I could request more time !!!
If you hit it off chemistry wise you probably have a better chance of having a mutual intense orgasm.
What about the woman who can have only one powerful orgasm and many little ones. As a guy, i'm one and then done for several hours. Sometimes I'm exhausted. All woman are so different, great post, I will not request it again. Thanks
Posted By: NikkiVegas
My schedule is my personal business. I've heard that some guys think they are getting girls are their best and brightest, not keeping in mind that not every girl is a morning person and it may take them a little extra time to get ready in the morning.
After a lady has sex we are ready to take on the world!!! I could cook you a dinner and clean your house!!
One thing that I learned from doing this for many years is that there is no specific time of the day where a lady is just at her natural sex peak of the day. We are also wired differently from men. I don't project on a man how he should feel based on how another man feels anymore. I also understand that my brain works differently. Someone wanted an honest answer as to why a lady was offended..
Some men think, "we pay you can't be angry."
That's simply not true. Anyone can be angry, as the customer you get to decide if you want to deal with that anger or move on.
I have also learned that since I soak in a tub between dates 100% of the time and that I do things to keep me at my 100% that every single person that I meet is the first of MY day! xo
I highly doubt escorts have clients before that time.
Posted By: Tall6969
So, I'm in contact with this young lady to potentially arrange an appointment. All is going well with our communications until I note that I would like to be her first appointment of the day?
She responds back "....Argh. That question is such a turn off."
I respond back "...oops sorry. Do you still want to proceed?" She responds that she would rather not meet. OK, no problem.
Hmmmm, the question. I can't count the number of times I've made that request and NEVER have I gotten a negative response. In fact some ladies even took it as a compliment of sorts.
Now I will chalk part of it off to her being a rookie as she is new to the game.
What say you ladies? If a guy requests to be your first appointment of the day would that turn you off to the point where you would not want to make the appointment?
I'm a little surprised by the strength of reaction by so many ladies. I'm usually a night person, and I also arrange almost exclusively for outcalls. But I can think of three instances of evening incalls that may shed a light on some guys' perspectives on wanting an early appointment. I should mention all three of these instances were when I was either completely TOFTTing or a lady had only a couple reviews.
Anyway, the thing I remember distinctly in these 3 instances were that I walked in for evening appointments to be greeted by a totally messy and well-used room and the provider being clearly tired, in two of the cases a bit drunk, and in all cases trying to get through the appointment as quickly as possible.
I know, I know, that's unprofessional on their part and most of you would never do that, and they would perhaps be that way regardless of time of day, and so my bad. But spare me a little latitude for TOFTTing once in a while, and I think a whole lot of guys would agree there's not much greater of a turn-off than walking into a room that looks like it's been used all day and greeted by someone who's just ready for early to bed and a good nights sleep. Personally, for some reason I have never really encountered a similar state of an overtired lady in an outcall, so that's my way of avoiding this all together.
And also, most of you ladies put up with all kinds of fetishes, slightly weird preferences, and denial on the part of clients born out of some kind of fantasies, so I'm not sure why everyone is so bent out of shape about people wanting early appointments. Oh well, like I said, I'm a night person anyway and always had more luck with outcalls anyway. Cheers!
Posted By: Tall6969
So, I'm in contact with this young lady to potentially arrange an appointment. All is going well with our communications until I note that I would like to be her first appointment of the day?
She responds back "....Argh. That question is such a turn off."
I respond back "...oops sorry. Do you still want to proceed?" She responds that she would rather not meet. OK, no problem.
Hmmmm, the question. I can't count the number of times I've made that request and NEVER have I gotten a negative response. In fact some ladies even took it as a compliment of sorts.
Now I will chalk part of it off to her being a rookie as she is new to the game.
What say you ladies? If a guy requests to be your first appointment of the day would that turn you off to the point where you would not want to make the appointment?
I am suprised by the strong reaction from providers. Isn't this hobby about a guys "fantasy" and finding someone to provide that. If that is part of his fantasy or preference why is it a bad thing? Maybe he likes the idea of being "first". Even if you were in another town or pace the night before. I don't think he meant it as a reflection on hygiene.
Yes, it is a fantasy. Yes, a lady should just lie and sit pretty in the corner and say, "ok babe. You got it!"
The point is.. There is no such thing as "first of the day." Even if you book at 7.. If a regular messages me the night before and also wants to book that morning, I will not tell him no. Unless of course you want to pay for that date and then consecutive times that I'll miss out on seeing him if he were to find someone else. x
to suggest there is NO way to be "first' is being disingenuous.
That said, I believe this would be harder to achieve on a first time meeting and easier with a regular. Also, I would only discuss this in person with emails or texts.
There is no such thing. It's that simple. You can believe what you want.. You can also believe that a lady is a born again virgin when she wakes up in the morning. Or that some how our body just is golden when it rolls out of bed...
But there is no such thing.
Even if you book a 4am with someone and someone else asks for an overnight and she says that she has to head out at 3am. Is she leaving his morning erection to take care of itself? It's really all just a fantasy. One not meant to be taken so seriously. xx
the night before? you're going all out to come up with hypotheticals. wtf? just because those scenarios are possible doesn't mean they are commonplace.
if a lady feels she has to lie to me about this sort of thing then I'd rather not see her.
It's not taken seriously. it's just a request. If she can't oblige how about just telling the truth and we reschedule for another time
It sounds great for you, the hobbyist.. It doesn't sound great for the lady, the businesswoman.
Put yourself in the ladies shoes.
You have to please your bosses all of the time. Sometimes you tell them a little lie to make them happy, don't you?
No one wants to be lied to, but when you're in the profession of pleasing everyone.. It's bound to happen.
And yes, you can come up with all types of hypotheticals. Everyone tells white lies... Not everything is everyone else's business. If you're that concerned about having to be someone's first of the day, just book them for an overnight and do not touch them at the night time. Put them to sleep at 10pm. Wake up at whatever time and have fun. Sounds sexy and flattering, yes?
Asking an "open-ended" question like that achieves the desired information without being so intrusive or obvious.
Especially when I travel for work, I mention to ladies that I am an early riser and prefer mornings to any other time of the day. I let them know upfront that I am usually up and about to start my day at 5:00 a.m. and am willing to see them as early as possible.
Maybe the difference is that I don't care if I'm the first appointment of the day (hence, not asking to be), I'm asking because that is really what time I awake and am "ready".
I thought this was a pretty benign request from OP - didn't realize posing this question warranted this much disdain.
Why would a provider care what order the hobbyist wants to be? Like the old adage, we are paying for their time... whether that's 7 am or 11 pm, what difference does it make. If that's his preference so be it. Just as the guy can have personal preferences about body type, age, hair color, etc. maybe being first or being last is just another preference or quirk.
Another very real consideration is that the provider may be tired out after a long day's worth of strenuous physical work, just as in any other profession (especially those in the service industry). I would imagine that the waitress would be more inclined to be more cheerful in the morning... not after servicing and cleaning up after a series of annoying families right before her shift is up. I believe the same logic applies here as well.
Why? BecaUse I am in the service industry. Plus many times people will say things or words things that come off in the wrong manner.
When I get asked for the first of the day, to me I always thought he wants me bright eyed and bushy tailed. Some guys like it really early. I don't mind that, I understand it. Now if a guy wants to be the first so I am at my most clean and fresh, well that is all day. I don't see tons of a guys when I am available and I take great care in my Personal hygiene. I am always fresh as a daisy and cool as a cucumber.
I will admit though in the past I did get mildly offended when asked To be their first. The way they worded it made me think he would be turned off to see me after another guy. Hey it IS a fantasy. We are selling fantasies here. So I get it. I basically got over it, and not many people ask anyway in that manner.
While I make a point of seeing only 1 gentleman on any given day in my hometown, I think this is a perfectly acceptable request, for a few (probably obvious) reasons. It may also be too personal a request for some ladies, given that some of us may not want to disclose how many gentlemen we are comfortable with seeing per day.
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