She's ok with bare. Back. What would you do, if you have a family? Go for it?
I've known her for about two years, she has always been safety conscious but something changed t he other night. We were in a situation where I could have done it off the clock, but I had to leave and get home at a reasonable time.
We've been spending some time off the clock, being more of a friend now... If that has anything to do with it. I feel there's strong chemistry between us and she stated the same, even though we stopped short of mentioning anything else more serious.
I'm tempted actually. Has anyone had a provider who turned into something like friends with benefit? offered bareback?
I'm guessing she must like me enough for something like this
I am sure she is a lovely person and it is wonderful that you have moved to an off the clock relationship as well but if she is offering Bareback to you then more than likely she is offering it to someone else, boyfriend, husband, another "special" client.
Beyond the STD risks (have you asked to see a copy of her latest test results that should have been done in the last 3 months or less) you also have pregnancy to worry about, she may claim to be on the pill but do you know?
I hate to be the voice of doom and gloom but I recently met with a client in a similar situation who was doing BB with his ATF she showed up pregnant even though she was "on the pill" and he "usually pulled out" she said it was his and he was considering leaving his family but when he asked for a DNA test she fessed up that it was probably someone else's.
I am sure she is a lovely girl and it is great you have a deeper "connection" but I can't imagine the difference in pleasure going BB is that significant to risk the rest of your real/outside life...
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She's ok with bare. Back. What would you do, if you have a family? Go for it?
I've known her for about two years, she has always been safety conscious but something changed t he other night. We were in a situation where I could have done it off the clock, but I had to leave and get home at a reasonable time.
We've been spending some time off the clock, being more of a friend now... If that has anything to do with it. I feel there's strong chemistry between us and she stated the same, even though we stopped short of mentioning anything else more serious.
I'm tempted actually. Has anyone had a provider who turned into something like friends with benefit? offered bareback?
I'm guessing she must like me enough for something like this.
Couldn't have said it better myself. Hell no is right.
I had a regular for about a year that was really comfortable with me. She would go from FBSM to full service with cover. Normally after the flip on my FBSM, she would massage the front of my body, then place the cover on me and go CG. Often I would close my eyes and relax during the massage. One time while I had my eyes closed she mounted me without the cover. It took only a few seconds to realize something was different. I jumped up quickly and all I could think of was my wife and what might I be bringing home to her. My hobby is for me and I accept the risks that come with it but I refuse to willingly subject my wife to any physical harm from my indiscretions. Needless to say I went to the testing center and paid the higher $500 rate for the early detection HIV test and went back for an STD test a week later. All the while having to avoid sex with my wife.
Don't do it
I too have had many opportunities for BB but the risks far outweigh the "reward." Hell, when I first got in the hobby I did some research and learned that even BBBJCIM is a risky endeavor as STDs lurk in the back of the throat. Hence, for all you DT lovers your risks of catching an STD via DT is high. When I learned this I now have no problem with CBJ. I prefer BBBJ and when I do engage in it I don't allow DT.
With that said, I will not front, the BB opportunities were VERY tempting and even on one occasion I attempted to go ahead with the offer. However, I'm above average size so as I was trying to penetrate it did not just "slip in." As such, I took that as a sign. Stopped. Applied cover and the astroglide and then proceeded to a fulfilling MISH ride with body shaking orgasm.
The moral of the story is STRAP UP cowboy!!! And to Curvy's point, STDs notwithstanding, the whole pregnancy thing would be a whole other nightmare. Shit, in my younger days I was seeing this girl who was a "bunny boiler." Every time we had sex about two weeks or so later she would ALWAYS say she thinks she's pregnant and we went through that drama for about a month. After her 3rd cry pregnant trick I bounced and bounced far away. She was fucking crazy.
If you want the feel of bareback just save that for the rare occasion/s you have sex with your SO.
Other than that, short of a provider and I establishing an exclusive relationship (with STD test in hand) I'm gonna strap up.
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She's ok with bare. Back. What would you do, if you have a family? Go for it?
I've known her for about two years, she has always been safety conscious but something changed t he other night. We were in a situation where I could have done it off the clock, but I had to leave and get home at a reasonable time.
We've been spending some time off the clock, being more of a friend now... If that has anything to do with it. I feel there's strong chemistry between us and she stated the same, even though we stopped short of mentioning anything else more serious.
I'm tempted actually. Has anyone had a provider who turned into something like friends with benefit? offered bareback?
I'm guessing she must like me enough for something like this.
Considering you have a wife as you so eloquently mentioned in the thread below.
That's a fantastic idea...have some BBFS with a hooker and hope for the best!
If you don't mind me asking, do you happen to be retarded?
Who knows how long this deep relationship will last. Everything comes to end sooner or later. And just because she lets you stay an extra hour or so off the clock does not really mean or show anything. I hope you aren't paying her bills or giving her money outside of what you would pay her for an appointment.
The other thing is... You ARE married. I don't judge at all when married men play with providers. Everyone has their reasons and hey I am a provider. I don't discriminate but don't do that to your wife. Always wear protection when you are sleeping with anyone other then your wife. Everyone always thinks" oh it won't happen to me", until it does. And then what?
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never said I'd do it.. But any guy would be tempted when given the opportunity
Yep. That was exactly what happened with a girl I was seeing. But NEVER BB. NEVER, EVER, EVER! Even if you could rationalize the risk the consequences are profoundly unfathomable. She broke it off and I was very sad but time heals all wounds. So does another POA and a good BBBJ.
Comprehensive panel, all negative.
Would it change your mind?
I think that it is much more important that you cover up for your safety. We are all responsible for our own safety.
There are a lot of providers that are doing BBFS, if not with clients, with civvies. Most of the time you won't even know, so I always assume that at least 60% of providers are doing BBFS with someone.
There is an agency in Atlanta who has 3 or 4 knocked up providers right now. They didn't get that way by each one having BBFS just one time either.
Bottom line is that it is much more prevalent then most want to admit. Much more.
If you like her, keep her. You don't have to accept BBFS just because it is offered.
It does feel so much better, and it is so much more intimate. However, the intimacy comes with possible babies and STDs. You need to trust her and know what you are both getting into. I don't think it turns into friends with benefits that often, but it might turn into mistress mode - you still pay her (probably more) for a more exclusive, intimate, and entangling sexual relationship.
1. Have you talked about each others' sexual history and has she made the offer conditional on exclusivity at least for unprotected sex? If not, red flag.
2. Is she interested in babies and marriage? If so, are you willing to risk divorce and or long-term child support payments if she gets pregnant? If the first answer is yes, the second one had better be too.
3. If she isn't looking for a baby daddy or a life partner, is she someone phasing out of the profession who has a credible plan to transition to a non-escort income model? If so, maybe she wants to bridge the gap by being a mistress to one or more long-term clients. This could be good, but it isn't credible if she is still advertising. Are you game for this
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She's ok with bare. Back. What would you do, if you have a family? Go for it?
I've known her for about two years, she has always been safety conscious but something changed t he other night. We were in a situation where I could have done it off the clock, but I had to leave and get home at a reasonable time.
We've been spending some time off the clock, being more of a friend now... If that has anything to do with it. I feel there's strong chemistry between us and she stated the same, even though we stopped short of mentioning anything else more serious.
I'm tempted actually. Has anyone had a provider who turned into something like friends with benefit? offered bareback?
I'm guessing she must like me enough for something like this.
Was this an Indy or agency girl?
It doesn't take a rocket surgeon to figure out Mr. Flatline is a troll with a serious need of attention. Just look at all his posts in the past few days. Stop feeding his trollish tendencies.
ought to name her so people can make judgments about risk and seeing her. more maybe later or maybe not
