I saw a provider on Thursday who was from out of town. She had decent reviews and looked hot. So I made the calls and arranged for a date. I usually go to the ATM for cash. The ATM gave me a wad of $20s. I counted it before placing it in the envelope and she counted the donation while I was there too. I received a nastygram on Sunday morning from her stating I was $20 short and that she is going to blacklist me for cheating her - 2 days after I saw her. I may have had her donation wrong in my head but she said nothing when she counted it. I wrote her back offering to send her the $20. It was an honest mistake. Had it been say $50, or $100, then she would have a case but one $20 bill is a micount. I had intended to write her a good review but her attitude has soured my opinion of her. It is better not to say anything than to write something in the heat of anger. But come on, to complain 2 days later and to have such an attitude is very unprofessional and down right mean.
If the events are as you describe I would avoid writing a review right away, as it is hard to delete the anger. I think that possibly a couple 20's were stuck together (which happens with ATM's). By all means handle it professionally. If you find you are black listed (DNS) over $20 then by all means fire back with your side of the story in a review, but keep it objective, instead of vindictive. I am supposing that the date went well otherwise?
If she counted the money in front of you and she miscounted, then put her ass out there. We need to know about these unprofessional ho's.
Why the threat of blacklist for 20 dollars, its sounds like a pimp is involved to me. Just saying
The key here in my opinion is that she counted it in front of you so she agreed to the amount at the time.
I would skip the review for a while and see what she does. If she does blacklist you, I would let everyone know who she is and what she is!!!
JMHO
You say she counted the money in front of you , and seemly had no problen at that time.
Then 2 days later she says you shorted her $20.00
either she is making a mistake and is confusing you with some one else or there is
SOMETHING - FISHY - HERE.
I had the same thing happen to me about a year ago with a lady who was recently in the DC area and advertising on Date Check. I just looked and her ad is no longer there. I was pretty sure my donation was correct, but everyone makes mistakes. She contacted me about one half hour after I left and raised hell, threatening the same things as you were threatened with. I apologized for any oversight on my part and offered to put $20 in an envelope and send it to wherever she wanted. She never provided an address. Wonder if it's the same woman.
geojohn:
Good day to you and yours.
As a rule those with xy chromosomes (males) have a tendency to as a "statistical group" to be logic based mental processors. Where are those as a group with XX Chromosomes tend to be emotional based processors. What you received from her was (based on the information you provided) an emotional response to her past experiences. In the Dreams / Fantasys! organization we refer to it as one's "model of the world". In her model of the world it isn't possible for a client to miscount. Instead, such occurrences are a deliberate attempt to rip her off.
Not knowing whom you speak of we can't surmise why she may or may not believe this, however I can say, she probably has good reason in her mind.
To "me" $20.00 short on a 300.00 or 400.00 count of all twenties is "most likely a miscount".
Now having said all that, here is the bottom line.
It was "HER responsibility" to count the funds at the beginning of the encounter as we train all our people to do. "The time to take care of problem is before you have one."
Lee Dreams
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$20 is most likely a simple error. We can't know whose for sure.
It seems unlikely she is trying to hold you up for an additional $20 after the fact, but it also seems unlikely that you would deliberately short her by less than 10% of the donation.
Based on the story, it seems that she has over-reacted. You should not over-react yourself.
IMHO, this should not be a part of the review. The review should reflect your session experience, and not this sour note that came later.
I see nothing wrong with including a "sour note that came later" in a review, since reviewers frequently include both positive and negative details that come before the meeting. We mention how relatively easy or difficult it is to set up the appointment, and to find the incall location. We sometimes mention if the lady or her representatives require us to reschedule. Some ladies and gents enjoy flirtatious correspondence before the session and the gents mention that in the review.
Why not mention such an unprofessional message from the lady after the session?
some of these girls have different prices at different ad locations unless they put your name on the donation how in the heck do they know who gave them what. Hell i met one who didnt know what day it was. i have met very few that are orgainised i had this happen to me last night the girl had one price on the profile and a different price when i called so i didn't jump. i like things simple. plus i hate lairs if your going to screw me at least be upfront about. Most cost themselves more business instead of generating regulars i very rarely see a girl twice after my ATF stopped FS She kept it simple i really miss her she knows who she is . Hell i would give up $20 to walk away with $280 and keep my mouth shut. I think some of these girls can't see the big picture. Is $20 worth all this crap? just think about how many thousands it will cost her if her name gets out. which it should if she is that greedy who needs it i also hate greed. in the big picture of things they waste much more than this every day. i fail to see why these girls cant update their profiles to help their business and keep their story straight. it is not like they have to work 8-10 of hard work everyday like i do when business is good. Just my stupid opinion
It's kinda like if a cleaning person would steal from the place they are cleaning.
I have had this happen to me several times before. I politely mention it in casual converstation.
The first time I communicated with the gent afterwards, he said he was so nervous at first. Then he thanked me for making him feel more comfortable and at ease. My reply was something like this: Anytime my dear. I truly enjoyed meeting you. I thought you may have been nervous since the donation was a bit short. Please do not fret over it though. It was only $20 off. I hope to see you again sometime. I know we will continue to have even more fun each time we meet.
Then I had another gent do the same thing. I figured it must have been an oversight and did not mention it. The next time we met, he did it again. I spoke up this time. (politely of course) It turns out, when he was "shopping" on the internet, he got confused and thought it was the correct donation. Since I was polite and did not make a big deal about it, he tipped me extra and gave me the correct amount for the two sessions.
I see these two gents regularly now. It pays to be polite. Treat people as you would want them to treat you.
There is no need for her to threaten you for a $20 mistake. She needs to find some manners and use them! Sorry you are going through this.
Hugs, Betty xoxo
I think that would make you look small. You have done many more than I ever will, so you already know your own anwser. The review must be honest about the session.
just on misunderstanding like this makes it worth the effort.
I typically start getting money from the ATM immediately after my latest Hobby experience and that way it gives me time to get the money and get the bills upgraded.
I ask for big bills at the Grocery Store, Restaurants, and other businesses you tend to see travelers or clientele with larger bills. Some will trade them, some won't, but again, a little effort saves a lot of discomfort down the road.
As to your specific situation, her opportunity to say something came when she counted the money in front of you. If there was a problem, that was the time to say something...period.
I always drop the envelope and then hit the bathroom to get ready for the session. This gives the lady time to call in, check the gift, and do whatever else she needs to do. That is a practice that has worked very well for me over the years.
Sometimes there is a burst of passion as I enter and we start having fun, but a breaking point always presents itself for me to excuse myself and let her "do her business" and yes it is a business, and she should treat it like that.
Imagine going to the store and buying something and the clerk counts the money in front of you and takes it as payment in full and then at the end of the day, he comes up short, so he calls you and accuses you of stealing from him. How often does that happen in "Business"?
JMTC