Unfortunately I am in the same boat. I had my testosterone checked (was ok). I use the little blue pills with no help. I personally think porn has desensitized me so when I get back to the real world - can't compare to the excitement porn offers. I have cut out the porn along with trying to be more healthy. One thing I would recommend checking into female condoms. I like them better than regular condoms which are too restrictive. I check providers before I book to make sure they are FC friendly.
I've been seen this provider, who to me she is extremely hot.
Lately, I've been having extreme difficulty keeping up my interest during intimacy.
It has been very depressing now for me.
I am relatively young still and don't think this is ED really.
During my last visit I could not finish and simply left. I however do not give up and
have changed my diet and tried to exercise more.
I know some can even come twice during one hour after reading reviews and I bet they may be a bit older than me.
I wonder what the secret is/are for those who can do it.
Does anyone have any thoughts as of what I could do to address this issue?
I know for providers the section is just business but honestly it must make someone feel bad too.
I hate to make a provider feel bad so it is why I want any advice on this before hitting the doctor's office, which I would hate to do.
Thank you all!
Deion J.
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the more one worries about it, the more difficult it becomes. It may be that you're going through a tough time at work or home or life, and the stress is getting to you. It may be that it is time for a break. It may be that cialis or viagra would help. I went through a 6 month period where things "did not work so well" but then stuff in my life (real life) changed and got better and all of sudden sex was much easier. Don't freak out about it - and I say that knowing how easy it is to freak out about it! Probably everything is fine and you are just going through a rough patch
It is in your mind. Guilt, stress, overthinking.. The majority of the time it is always in a mans head. Just like a golf swing. Lol Getting a checkup always is a good thing. If you step back, you will probably figure it out. Maybe its how you feel about her or work or anything happening in your life. Best of luck to you.
google "pelvic floor exercise" and focus on the yoga versions thereof. If there is such a thing as a natural cure for ED - not complete inability to achieve an erection but problems getting completely hard or staying that way - this is one of them - do 20 repetitions twice a day and try again in a month....
stay hydrated -
avoid medications that reduce erection if possible
and clear your headspace - don't let it become a mental block
also might want to see if the problem is the condom! even if you are not large a larger diameter condom sometimes makes the difference - or sometimes the reduction in sensitivity or just the mental hangup of it will get to you - you might even want to practice maintaining an erection with a condom on at home
just a handful of ideas - hope something is helpfu
I am 51 and get an erection every morning. If the wife does not take care me I sneak and get some pussy on the side. I make sure that I eat a sweet potato a night before going to bed. I also take Whey Protein at least once a day, 2 times if I am doing weights or swimming.
Make sure that you have cardo such as walking or swimming in 3 of your workouts a week. Walking is good because it works the Perineum muscles.
Another trick you can do an is see an ugly provider for a few time, then see an attractive one. Focus on the initmacy (without a blow job or a kissing the lips). Kiss her neck and her tits. Have her put her hands on your balls.
...For a couple of weeks end see if it improves. Fixes slight curves and curves from injury... and increases blood flow hence increasing size.
I think there has been good advice given here already.
I've focused on some of these too.
I'll add, try to just be in the moment EACH moment.
Think of what a lucky guy you are to be with such a lovely lady.
Have the attitude that if it happens,it happens, but if not you are still going to enjoy the experience.
This is MUCH easier said than done, but do try to keep that in mind.
Hard to not let other thoughts creep in there, like, "here we go again," or "I wonder how much time is left", or "I hope she's not getting too tired" lol, but you should try!
Also, try to be well-rested, I think lack of sleep has impacted me at times.
1) have your testosterone levels checked
2) Have your Cholesterol and Triglycerides checked
3) adjust your diet accordingly
4) Cardio and Plyometrics
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If the problems continue
5) The Blue, Yellow and White Pills all work but they do have sideeffects.
6) DO not under any circumstances go to the Boston Clinic
7) DO not take these woodie pills that they sell at the gas stations
8) Work with various providers. One is bound to hit the spot.
PM me if you havequestions
I will keep them all in mind
Unfortunately I am in the same boat. I had my testosterone checked (was ok). I use the little blue pills with no help. I personally think porn has desensitized me so when I get back to the real world - can't compare to the excitement porn offers. I have cut out the porn along with trying to be more healthy. One thing I would recommend checking into female condoms. I like them better than regular condoms which are too restrictive. I check providers before I book to make sure they are FC friendly.
Seems like we got quite some things in common.
I have a lot of videos in my computer. I am going to delete them tonight and just focus my attention on my ATF. I have purchased a bunch of vitamins and even Gensing the Korean one. It has helped a bit. I have to start jogging more from now on. I'm just glad she hasn't given up on me. I'm sure some providers would get upset and stop seeing me as they assume one thinks they are ugly. I try to tell them it is just my body and I always reinforce how beautiful and attractive she is.
Let's do this!!!
Regards
Deio
To stop looking at porn. Porn and they hobby don't mix. Also stop jacking off.
Since you say your relatively young I doubt it's anything physical. I will strongly agree that if you're a big consumer of porn and you jerk off a lot, let it go!!! But that's secondary to your real issue, IMHO.
I suspect the real issue is PA. You note in your OP how sexy and attractive the ATF is and you note here how you "reinforce" to the lady how beautiful and attractive she is. This happened to me once. I had an ATF that was absolutely an 11 to me. Per my standards she was perfect. Hence, doing the deed was often times problematic for me. This was the first time this had happen to me with a lady I wanted to be with. Sure it's happened before with ladies who, in the end and once we hit the sheets, just didn't do it for me so that was understandable. But never with a women that had the total package and/or I was completely attracted to.
Bottom line, I was intimidated by her beauty, intelligence, her total package and it fucked with my mind. I even did experiments where on the very next day after seeing her I would see another ATF on the list and all would work well. So it was not physical it was allll mental.
I'm probably older than you as I will be 54 VERY SOON. I will admit my dick does not get hard just when the wind blows like it use too, nor can I blow out two shots in an hour on a regular basis like the old days. The refractory period is simply longer now. NOTE: they are testing a drug now that may eliminate the refractory period. Now that's the drug I'm waiting for. I have outgrown the need to cum for the sake of cumming. I now prefer the journey over the destination. Hence, I now tend to book longer sessions 90 min to 3 hours, if there is a vibe with the provider, then MSOG is not a problem. But I digress.
I would add to the suggestions made that you not place your ATF on a physical or whatever other "pedestal" you may be placing her. This inhibits performance in some cases. Relax, enjoy her beauty and presence. What helped me was honest communication with the lady and she even initiated it. Apparently dudes before me had experienced PA with her and she recognized the symptoms. During one session she simply said, "...relax and enjoy the ride.." She proceeded to apply her anti PA routines and over time all was good again.
The mind is the best Viagra or, ED we have.
Maybe she's not the right one for you. Maybe if you are the passive one, try being more of the aggressive one when she is with you or vice versa. Do some nuru gel or something out of your comfort zone. Maybe read her reviews with other clients. I know when I read my favorite provider's (VIP Declan) reviews it drives me into a lust filled craze to be with her.
have thought about her not being the right provider for me but the truth is everytime she ads new pictures she looks amazing and drives me crazy I end up picking up the phone. Her body is actually one of the best I have ever seen. I think I need to be less passive next time I visit.
Regard
Perhaps the PA suggestion is correct and perhaps it's related to what I'm about to suggest. You're attraction to this provider is one that you want to take to a level you know is not available so you're dealing with a form of cognitive dissonance.
Just a thought.
There are a host of providers that the OP has not tried that could maybe flip his switch. OK, I can see the one shout out you made for Declan under LC's weekly verification post, but to keep doing it now makes me NOT want to see her!!
Are you her pimp or something? Gotta get your cash up for the summer?
Give it a rest.
I am up front with providers and tell them I am working on issues and from my prospective what ever happens I am OK and I enjoy myself. So far the providers have been understanding. Since she is your ATF, looks amazing, and drives you crazy is a good thing and sounds like the right choice for you. I would talk to her and make sure she is OK with the situation and press on (literally). When I first started I was a total dweeb, but over time have increased my comfort level and have came out of my shell and am closer to where I want to be. It is a process and will take some time.