I'm starting to be a toy FAN  
what kind of toys do men/women prefer??

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Anal plug before the show even gets started, like a surprise. And squirters! Cold weather frozen pipes!

Lol of course u don't use toys but do you like toy play ? What kind of toys would u play with with a females

The Hitachi magic wand is in fact magic. It is a classic that has provided intense orgasms to folks for decades. It is designed for clit stimulation but has g spot attachments as well as sleeve attachments for the boys. Super versatile and highly recommended for kinky or sensual play...

I am with you Mya! Love my Hitachi more than any other toy I have ever had...seconds would enter into a cock strap for a man and ropes.

In an earlier encounter with one of my faves, she pulled out a vibrator and applied it to my balls. I asked her, "Do you clean it between clients?" Awkward silence.

No, thanks

You can always put a condom on your toys as I do (or ask for a condom to be put on), there's also many safe varieties of all natural toy cleaners that fit ever so nicely into your bag of tricks

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No plastic, no metal, just a lot of warm flesh.

(though regarding toys in general, I'll admit, I've used a Fleshlight before, and it actually feels much more like bareback than sex with a condom).

I am something of a toys for boys aficionado!  My favorites (and the best crowdpleasers) are the Njoy line of stainless steel toys, especially the curved Njoy "pure wand" which is designed for targeted prostate stimulation.  Many women also use it for g-spot stimulation and squirting (although I am not a squirter myself).  Also, the Aneros line of prostate stimulators for men can be worn during intercourse or masturbation for a little extra "kick", and I highly recommend them for gentlemen.

I loooove introducing versatile gentlemen to my favorite toys and the wonders of prostate stimulation.  I have them in all shapes and sizes for different experience levels and interests.  I don't need my toys to stimulate the prostate necessarily, as fingers also usually work well, but having a variety of options available is always fun as everyone tends to like something a little different.  But my Njoy "pure wand" is definitely my major magic-worker!!

My newest video actually features my favorite toys!!   It just went up on my website this past week.  I am very conscious about sterilizing my toys and it's one reason why I like to work with stainless steel (besides the temperature play possibilities)- my steel & glass toys are easy to sterilize with soap & hot water, although I also use a professional-grade toy cleaner for good measure.  My video start and ends with me washing my favorite toys, and you can see me have a little fun with them in between!  

I like using the gigi 2 dildo on ladies.
I think that is really hot!

This is the link for that one:

http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/advice/g3800/sex-toys/?slide=1

if soap and water work, why do hospitals have autoclaves?   Just asking, not trying to rock any boat.  And can folk put condoms on boy toys?

Well, that's not an uncommon reaction either.  Men in our society are taught to feel fear/panic/rage at the idea of being penetrated.  Some gentlemen have just worked through that or are so overcome by desires that they've been forced to.  Or some men are excited by fear.  But the realm of fear is not my realm.  For comfortable play and truly powerful orgasms, trust & a feeling of safety is required~ hence my sweet & seductive approach to sensuality.  And prostate stimulation IS a highly sensual sport!  Men report feeling waves of pleasure from the top of their heads to the tip of their toes.  It can be scary for many to feel such intense pleasure so deep inside of onesself.  Most men have been having sex for decades yet have never felt such intense pleasure, and pleasure has always been located outside the body (in the cock) rather than inside the body, in the center of the root chakra (vortex of the body's sexual energy).

I will admit though, that the steel toys do SOUND scary!  I thought they were scary before I started using them.  Steel sounds cold and sterile and hard and scary and really just not sexy.  But I discovered two things about steel that make it wonderful for the bedroom- 1) its temperature is fully customizable, and can be altered quickly, so for example, I can heat the steel to just warm enough that it will feel amazing inside the body, warm enough to make ones insides relax and melt around it as though it were flesh (much better than silicone!), and 2) warm metal is incredibly slick and smooth, so it practically requires less lube, but also functionally, causes less friction on the body, so what the receiver of the play feels is actually the stimulation/pleasure primarily and much less so the sensation of a toy moving back and forth or whatever.  It's all about the pleasure.  I've come to believe that this is specifically the reason why the "Pure Wand" has its name- because the stimulation it's designed to target, whether G-spot or Prostate, is pretty much all the receiver will feel due to the warmth and smoothness of the metal toy, which feels natural inside the body.  The steel toys do LOOK scarier than they are especially because they seem twice as large as they end up effectively being since half the toy is used as a handle and they are all double-sided.

You see this request often because the experience is powerful compared to ordinary orgasms.  It's the sort of thing that~ once you've had a taste, you remember what your own body is capable of, and most gentlemen are inclined to seek that out again once they know what is possible.  

You've never felt like taking a dump was actually the best feeling in the world (your prostate is stimulated via proximity)?  Never put a finger in your own ass and tried to find it?  It's just in and up toward your cock... not very far at all.  Like a little plum.  

Obviously prostate stimulation is not for everyone, but I think that the smartest gentlemen are the ones who are open-minded enough to try it.  I very rarely have someone try it and think it is not a worthwhile experience.  But it does require true comfort and open-mindedness, which is not something you can fake, so if you're truly uncomfortable with the idea it's not worth trying to force yourself, and I would never try to force anyone either who was afraid to try.  Deep-seeded fear~ I can't really work with.  Nervousness~ now that's something I can work with and assuage.  A really great blowjob and/or rimjob usually really helps!  

No you're right~ sterilization is actually a poor choice of wording on my part.  Sterilization is highly technical and hospital standards of sterilization involve taking objects with more complex surface areas- such as syringes and tiny surgical instruments- and preparing them to cut open a human body and be inside the bloodstream, muscles, organs, etc.  So in that case they need to be 100% sterile, including any type of bacteria that might be naturally present in the air, on the fingers, etc.  That's why hospitals go thru incredible lengths to create sterile conditions that would be ridiculous to try to recreate for the purposes of sex, unless that's your kink.  

Autoclaves can also sterilize liquids, and other types of objects that can't be cleaned properly with soap and water for practical reasons.

For the purposes of safer sex and not spreading STI's, though, soap and water (cold with soap to remove organic matter without coagulating it, then hot with soap to be sure to remove all traces of soap & oils) is enough for NON-POROUS toys, which include glass, stainless steel (no scratches that go thru the protective coating), and medical-grade silicone.  Providers need to be careful to procure medical-grade silicone from reputable companies only or boil silicone toys to be safe if they're not sure whether they are porous or non-porous, since silicone comes in both varieties and porous silicone cannot be cleaned appropriately with just soap & water.

You can totally put condoms on your toys for boys.  They do cause friction.  Lube helps with that.  I prefer to use toys that are easy to clean properly between meetings and avoid the friction of condoms.  I do use gloves on my hands when I penetrate someone with my fingers because I am a chef and often have tiny cuts or burns on my fingers that are often not even noticeable, but could be a body fluid contact point, so I don't risk it.  But with the steel toys, I don't see a point, since they are easily cleanable and feel much better without a condom since they are so smooth.  But if a gentleman asks me to put a condom on a toy, of course I will and do.  

but it can be HOTT to throw in toys on occasion.  

My favorite was a sort of "bent barbell" g-spot toy a lady brought. Talk about a gushing O!!!

I also enjoyed using a glass dildo (she made it by hand!) on a lady while in 69.  

The Hitachi has always been a pretty "sure thing" as well, but I prefer the penetration toys for the feel and visual. Just what works best to increase my own stimulation/excitement.

Toys on me? I'm neutral. They really seem to do nothing. Would much rather have a finger on my prostate than a piece of plastic or (yikes!!) stainless steel! Again, not very often and she has to have SKILLS... prostate play is NOT something I could trust to a newbie!!

Seems to me, it is mostly just a preference thing.  I've tried a couple prostate massages.  Not horrible, but nothing special for me.  But I'm game to try most things.  Now a freely given rim job where the lady is not holding back at all?  Oh my, when I experienced that... beyond words, pure bliss!  Just different strokes for different folks.

gloves might be uncomfortable on the receiving end!

!!!!! indeed!!!!!

...although sometimes I do encounter them.  Some guys with lots of fear about prostate play & penetration book me because they are interested in meeting me for other reasons, and we simply don't go there.  Some guys with lots of fear book me because they expect me to force them thru their fear like a dominatrix.  Well that's simply not how I operate.  Soothing nervousness, making you comfy, explaining everything, doing everything with finesse so there is no discomfort... all my jam!  But there is nothing I can do to force anyone to confront deeply-seeded fears around penetration.  It's intensely psychological and impacts one's ability to accept anal play comfortably!  The asshole is a deeply emotional/psychological place with subconscious controls!

A passionate rimming truly is pure bliss.    Nothing like it!  And that's why it's such a perfect precursor to prostate exploration.  

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The gloves we use in kitchens are actually no good for penetration either.  Too loose, to many wrinkles and folds~ fine for handling food but not sexy to put inside of someone.  I prefer XS (I've got tiny hands) smooth black nitrile gloves, safe for use with any type of lubricant.  I always give the person who I am penetrating their choice of lubrication type, for their comfort.  

I special order my sexy gloves from Zoro.com.  They are the same kind used by tattoo artists.  

Interesting, like most I imagine, I was cautious about anything going up there -  but definitely not fearful (hell, maybe I'm just too naturally trusting lol!).  Funny thing with the rim jobs is that I've been so damn appreciative when I've reveived them that I've reciprocated (even though this was not something I'd otherwise think about at all).  And bringing the same kind of "naughty" type pleasure to another, sharing that experience with them, wow, does that just make for a very very hot erotic experience!

Santa wouldn't be Santa without toys, and he usually brings his very full bag with him on dates.   He's found ladies both naughty and nice enjoy them, but each in their own way.  Some prefer external, some internal, some want to sample them all, some have definite favorites.  In general expensive toys, such as Lelo's, produce superior results and are worth the prices.  Toys work best for multi- orgasmic ladies and for guys like Santa who are givers.  Toys are no substitute for other skills, but they add an extra dimension of fun and pleasure to many of Santa's favorite dates.

I'm not a fan of vibrators but I'm a HUGE fan of anal toys now. I have the aria silicone anal plug in black (My Favorite) and metal anal beads I have a few vibrations but not a fan really  
I'm a natural person to I love the real thing better but I but say... I love my plug lol

isn't technology great? It used to be we had to tie up a hand to hold a vibrator against the plug, but now the plug does the job for us. Now we can find something else to do with that extra free hand!  

I have so many toys, it is hard to name just one.

For personal use my Butterfly Kiss vibrator is probably my favorite! It just feels so good and has varying speeds that are fun to play with.

I also have an awesome glass butt plug that I use for my gents. It is textured and also has a little handle so I can really control how I move it. They love it too.  

Great thread! =)

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I have got to get one of these! I only hear great things about it.

by this discussion and thinking that when I return to the hobby I will have to find out what a prostate massage is. I have enjoyed anal stimulation but never had a prostate massage. Would any ladies like to make a shy sailor squirm?

Beautifully put Zoey! I agree that prostate stimulation is not for everyone, but the visceral aversion to the thought of penetration obviously has societal implications and stigma written all over it.  

Our desires are rich and complex, sometimes you have to go a bit deeper (pun definitely intended) to explore them.

Safe travels...

gI Joes and Tonka trucks

don't forget Barbie

She should be using GI Joe instead