Well, I thought I did everything correctly.  I knew I was coming to DC a couple of weeks ago, and I don't have experience with providers, so I made sure I did my homework.  Got VIP here on TER, read all the reviews, narrowed it down and picked the one I wanted to see, who was incredibly well reviewed.  Called a few days in advance, appointment was made, references checked, and came do DC with instructions to e-mail when I arrived to confirm.  I did, and then called later, talked to her, and we confirmed time and place.  Nine O'clock rolls around, 9:15, and eventually 9:30.  I e-mailed at that time and also texted "are we still on?"  Nothing.  At 9:45 I texted that I was cancelling.  I e-mailed the next day to ask for an explanation because the provider world tends to have more "drama" and things that come up out of nowhere.  I didn't hear anything back, and as of this writing, still have not.
Now, I know there are going to be a lot of people stepping up and defending her with "you never know what can happen, maybe there was an emergency, blah, blah, blah"  Save it.  There is no defense. She has had ample time to e-mail back.
I'm thinking about putting her name out here but haven't decided yet.  Can't really think of a good reason not to.

Give up the name

Prior to learning about TER. I had a similar experience where I was traveling and made all the right emails, phone calls, texts and was good up unitl the appt.  She never told me the exact address only an approx location for her incall that I waited and texted and called for 2 hours. I got back to my hotel (an hour away), and emailed her asking why she did not respond. The next day (24 hours later), I get an email response that I was a no show.  I emailed her back saying that I had called her many times and her phone should show how many times I called and texted, as mine did. An hour later, I got an apollogy email saying her phone must have died and she did not get any of those messages. I was like WTF?  Someone who relies on there phone for buisness should not allow the battery to run low, when she is expecting an appt. Hello?!!!  

I guess not seeing her was probably in my best interest anyway. When I finally got TER and read her reviews, I would have been disappointed in her lack of service.  

I would if I were the OP, continue to email and text her and ask her to explain why she NCNS on you.  Maybe it will be a lesson for her that some other guy will not have to experience. And yes shit happens. Escorts are people too and have family emergencies, get sick, sometimes have to take care of family instead of working.

Why put up the thread if you're not going to reveal the lady?  If she has done you wrong, then put up the name.  You're right, there is no excuse, have you seen posts from her since the incident?  If so, she is alive and well and should've contacted you by now with an explantion, an apology and if possible, a plan to make this up to you.

Sunny

Post the name. Otherwise its not much use to anyone, just another tale of disappointment.

There could be lots of legitimate reasons for the NSNC. My guess is she doesnt have one(just my aquired DC cynical nature for which I apologize in) advance and hope Im wrong. I mean I hope she does contact you with a legitimate reason but dosent have any sort of real problem of course.

BTW this sort of thing dosent happen much with highly rated providers unless they have the reputation. Pretty unusual.

put her name out there for all to see but in the end you still have your $#@% in your hand. You really are no further along in having a good time by throwing her to the wolves. (FYI happend to me monday)  My suggestion would be see if you can agree to more favorable terms the next time around and if not than just let it go.

Unless she is dead and that is the reason you still haven't heard from her even up to today.  She has shown you total disrespect by not even giving you the courtesy of a reply or excuse.

If it were the other way around, you can sure bet your name would be dragged through the mud and you would be blacklisted.

Your post doesn't help anyone if you withhold her identity from the rest of us.  Exposing her might even encourage her to change her business practices.

then you should by all means give the info to anyone that PMs you and asks.

While you didn't lose any $$, I know the disappointment of researching, picking, and then anticipating your date with the lady must be frustrating.

Here's hoping you next planned date with a lady is everything it should be and MORE

xoxo,

Steph

Happened to me last month and then a string appeared on this provider's sloppy follow-through and tendency to vanish around gametime. Her reaction was off the charts and she didn't even have the decency to be apologetic about wasting my time and leaving me in the lurch.

An independent provider (although there is speculation whether she was with a group that has now disbanded apparently) who had many good reviews, who used to post here often, and had everybody here kissing her ass, pulled this same no-show stunt on me a while ago without even the courtesy of a reply or any correspondence thereafter.  Given her stellar reputation at the time, I expected better business manners from Stevie Foxx.
Rumor has it that she was forced out of this business....sweet karma.

Wait 24 hours.  Had a situation couple of months ago and there was a reasonable explanation after contacting her the next evening.  The provider was happy to make it up to me.  If you don't get contact after 24 hours then give up the name on the board.

Now I know why you post under an alias no one would see "moethebully"

Poor thing. If you don't get any response whatsoever that is not acceptable. However things do come up, this isn't always the primary focus in a providers life. Some have children & spouse/kids. I don't but some do. I have missed an appointment or 2 in the past year due to having to cancel but I suck it up and call as soon as I know and offer an extra 1/2 hour on me to make up for it. But as far as no response or apology is shitty and I hope you feel better after venting.

I'm no more of an alias than you are.  Where do you see the hate in the story I told?  I said nothing disparaging.  Or is it that I produced a name that got you bent out of shape?  You need to defend and protect your provider friends?
Don't be an apologist for bad behavior.  Or are you what they refer to as a "mangina"?  I think so.

Happened to me yesterday.  Made an appointment with a provider working in the BWI area (Monica from argentina) and made the 40ish minute drive up, with traffic, only to have her not answer the phone when I got there.  Waited around for 25-30 minutes before I proceeded to drive home.  Also had this happen with Vanity but luckily she was only ten minutes from my house.  I mean I have had other providers be running late but the communication was always there with these 2 there was nothing.  I dont care how good their reviews are I will not try and see them again.

You might also send her one more e-mail and let her know since you have not heard back the only course of action you feel left is to warn others of her apparent lack of respect for your time and for you as a person.

Funny how sometimes the second e-mail, the one spelling out your intent, seems to have a reaction.

People are always going to step up and comment on a provider and their intentions range from trying to be fair to the situation to their own experiences to  a few who think it gives them a leg up so to speak with the provider.

If you comment then expect it but realize you also are the one who knows what happened and how much you have been put out.

Be generous with praise when warranted, but be honest when criticism is due.

Share both.

...then put her on blast if she does not reply.

you can chill while waiting... Maybe search the boards for other comments about her... Then, after having had time to think about what you want to do, go for it.

If you name her, I would keep any emotion or vitriol out of it. Just state the facts and keep it simple.

She could have had a family member die, God forbid
She could have been arrested
She could have had a bad client

ANything could have happened. Providers are human and SHIT happens. You said she has a good reputation, right?
So obviously this is out of character and she deserves for you to chill and wait a sec before outting her

I hope who ever she is, is okay.

Should not be excuses:
 She could have had a family member die
 She could have had a bad client

This is a job right?  If that were to happen to me I still have to tell people at work I will not show up for a couple of days?  I think it is lack of respect.

I think I would understand if she got arrested so maybe she not longer wants to work in the biz.  I think he should give up her name since she might not care and it would be a service to us all.

So to sum up give up the name no matter what the excuse!

One the other hand if he does out her and it turns out she has a great reason for NCNS  he would feel like a real jerk.
48 hours is reasonable

One of the reasons I asked if he'd seen a post from her after the time of the date.  I have never done a NCNS, no excuse unless you're in the hopsital or dead.  Within 24 hours a call should've been made!!! End of story.

if you hear nothing post a NC/NS.

Why wait a week?  Because the dammage has been done and posting a NC/NS is a far cry from posting a dangerous rip-of, robber, LE, etc.  Yes this is unfortunate but the world will not end if the NC/NS isn't posted immediately.

Assuming she had no good reason for the NS & silence then posting now would be just as good as posting in a week.  But if there is a valid reason how do you know "she had ample time to e-mail back".  You have never been e-mail-less for a few days?  Computer die.  In hospital where they don't approve using the nurse's station to log into TER?  If she got picked up by LE for something hobby related or not, do you want her to use say, "hey, I've got to call the client I was going to see and tell him I won't make it tonight?"  Not saying something like that did happen, I'm saying if something serious enough to cause a good provider to NCNS it may take more than 24 or 48 hrs to sort out and the problem won't get worse waiting a week.

Take a deep breath.  As ititated as you are, force yourself to be excessively calm in reporting the NC/NS.  Any emotionalism decreases the credibility.  The Just-the-Facts alomost dull report is much more damning because it comes across as more honest.

Again, not defending her in any way.

I would give her 24 hours for a complete explanation which should included an offer to "make it up to you".  If this doesnt occur, I would put her name out there.  It happened to me with a relatively well known and reviewed pornstar.  She blew off my first meeting, I posted accordingly, she profusely apologized and scheduled a second meeting and then blew that one off too.  Needless to say I really let her have it on the boards...she deserved every comment I put out there.  If we dont share this kind of info..the whole purpose of these boards is nullified.

"Give up the name no matter what the excuse"

So you have already held her trial and found her guilty?  You have already decided it's an "excuse", that whatever she eventually may say is a lie without hearing what it might be.  Hope I never show up in your courtroom.

This is not a life and death kind of business.  It's entertainment.  There are more serious things and sometimes things do happen.  She may well have no good explaination, she may well not contact him, but how about a modicum of patience?

I wonder if you are such a hanging judge when a guy NC/NSs, "No excuses! Out him now!"

-- Modified on 6/15/2010 6:10:42 PM

Funny, I was just thinking about her the other day and was wondering what happened to her and her band of college co-eds. Thanks for the update.

First some advice. Though you had your heart set on seeing this provider. From a little bit of experience I'll tell you especially when travelling have a 2nd and a 3rd just in case SHIT happens, like it did.

Now, for your situation the proper thing to do in this case is to give adequate time to respond (completely your discretion). If you feel you've given her enough time then it is only fair since you brought the issue to the board that you provide your fellow hobbyist info that is helpful. Does not mean we will not see her, or she'll lose business. It simply lets us know how to better approach this provider when making arrangements.

Additionally, you joined TER just for this purpose. Research, reviews and the board. The provider you sought out obviously has reviews on this site (unless I missed something). So it is safe to assume that she is well aware of this site and it's fanatical board members. Which raises a question and may provide a solution. If she is aware of the site and this board then she should know that we have members that do not hesitate to oust a flaky provider, so why wouldn't she have responded to your calls or your emails?

Solution: as we have seen this time and time again, the moment you post her name is the moment she'll respond. Providers and agencies do not take a liking to negative comments about them on the boards. Happens all the time. So, when your ready.....post the name. Word will get back to her, that I am sure of.

In the mean time.....Hobby Nicely