After 22 years of build up he won't be in long enough to even know what it felt like. At least a condom will give him a fighting chance.
Hey guys I'm a 22 y/o virgin. I'd really like to change that this way and wanted some advice. I'm a college student so this is a big investment for me and I wanted to find the right girl. I'd settled on Nikki (see link) do to fact that HOLY SHIT SHE'S HOT but I see on this boards that she's a fake. Damn.
At any rate, I'm looking for the right girl and wondered if you guys had any recommendations. Preferably around my age (under 30 but this isn't set in stone).
I'd like a pretty chick moreso than a fake "implants & plastic surgery" type. Consider Nikki (or whoever she really is) my ideal.
Also, since this is my first time a friendly (and probably patient) girl would be nice (maybe a GFE).
I know this is a lot to ask for in a girl, but off the top of your head can you think of anyone who matches that or who you think would be an especially good choice?
I appreciate it.
And talk to all the young ladies on campus. Join a club or go to a sporting events on campus. Don't start something here you can't afford..
"I'm a college student so this is a big investment for me"
To young for this man..Just my.02
Don't get me wrong, I'm not about to make a habit of this. It's a one time thing. It's an investment for me but it's not like I'm gonna have to eat dog food for the next month. At 22 I should have some kinda experience with sex even if it's once so I have half a clue what I'm doing.
. . . you'll know what to do. If you think you don't, watch some porn like every other young man your age.
I didn't watch porn when I was your age and I knew exactly what to do. It comes natural to men.
By the way, most providers don't do much foreplay; with a one-hour session they go right to sex. What you should learn is foreplay.
http://www.minou.com/aboutsex/
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Virgins don't do foreplay. You fumble around until it falls into the right hole, around thirty seconds later your done.
Go to an amp. They'll take care of you.
. . . he should learn foreplay in order to please his future real GFs.
If all he wants is ejaculation, masturbation does the job. 
Go to an AMP? When he gets back he'll be asking young women for handjobs. 
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. . . over a BJ; I've told my regular that. But in civvie sex, for which mpt likes to be prepared, I would ask for more than just a HJ.
Perhaps you should start with dating.
If you are somewhat flexible as to age, a swingers club might be an alternative for you. I'm not sure that seeking to lose your virginity to an escort is the best approach. As you can see from this board, making arrangements with an escort can be an uncertain proposition even for experienced hobbyists. I'm just worried you'd be eaten alive by some of the sharks who are providers - espefially if they know the angle form which you are approaching this endeavor. I don't want to see you TOFTT.
is there any swinger club allow single?
. . . on the club to which you are going. The answer is counterintuitive. If you are going to an on-premise club (where sexual activity is allowed at the club), then the answer is generally no, although they do try to keep a gender balance. The closest on-premise clubs are either in Pennsylvania or near Balitmore. While there are off-premise clubs (where you meet someone and have sex elsewhere) in this area, e.g. Entre Nous, they do not allow single men. Please note that the entry fees for an on-premise club for a single male are not cheap - you can easily pay $150 for one night.
What is most important is to note the different dynamic between a swingers club and a session with a provider. At a swingers club most people there will be middle age. You won't see a lot of the hotties that you may see as providers. Also nothing is guaranteed at a swingers club - you may score but you may also be pounding the puppy at the end of the night. I scored about half of my trips to the clubs - although I don't have the most outgoing personality that might have led to a higher success ratio.
Furthermore, don't assume that because people are having sex in front of you that you can join in. On the other hand if you are invited to join the pile of people in front of you, then looks aren't so important anymore.
On the other hand if you do hook up with someone, she has the same objective as you - you want GFE and she wants BFE. In other words you won't have the same attitude problems that you might with a new provider (e.g. clockwatching, restrictions, etc.). Much activity at the clubs is still bareback, although certianly not as much as several years ago when that was the norm.
Finally, please note that the woman with whom you are engaged in sexual activity may have a bisexual husband. I was never approached by a man at any of the clubs even when I was with someone's wife, but bisexuality among male swingers is far more widespread than those in the lifestyle will admit.
Swinging may eliminate some of the problems that men encounter in the hobby, but it brings its own set of complications. Each individual needs to decide whether the trade-off is worth it.
There are a lot of dishonest people in this business who have no problem with messing with your head, wallet, or both, mpt.
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If you truly are a virgin, then going to see a provider is only going to start you off on a habit that you have already admitted that you can not afford.
I am not sure which University you attend, but I eat lunch just off U of MD campus about twice a week, and can tell you first hand that I have seen several hot chicks with homely dudes. I am not trying to say that you are homely, obviously I don't even know you; however, I am trying to say that the evidence is there to prove that hot chicks are there to be had, and you don't have to be a Casanova to get one.
This is actually how I lost my virginity too. I had a couple of bumps though that were costly and it wasn't until I found this site that helped me out & find the right girls. I really have no suggestions for you though, I'd just say keep looking and reading the reviews and pick a girl that has been seen by others who have a good number of reviews.
But some of the guys here are right. Once you get a taste of that candy, its very hard to let it go. It'll drive you downright mad.
Before hand, promise yourself this will be a one time thing because if you don't, you'll find yourself in some serious quicksand.
If you're a 22 year old cherry you're already a head case and doing this isn't going to make it worse. If anything, what will make things worse is not doing anything about it at all. That's how it is.
A lot of chicks don't like to de-flower young boys. A lot of times the young boys get a little stupid when some chick breaks them off a little something.
My advice is to go to an amp. Tell mamasan you're a cherry. She'll get a kick out of it. And then she'll probably hook you up with either the craziest girl they have or one who has little experience.
For the full affect wear some tighty whities. All virgins wear them for some reason.
Most importantly, don't get stupid. She's not going to fall in love with you, so don't fall for her. And hurry up and get this shit done. You're at a point now where you're probably acting like a complete moron around chicks anyway. You need to get this out of the way so you can start to relate to women in a normal manner. Have fun.
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Great advice from different people, this is an interesting post.
Dude College Park is Nirvana for chics. I often just have lunch on Rt 1 just to take in the sites. Im sure there is someone you can meet in CP. If you found this site you are probably wasting too much time on the computer and not enough time meeting people face to face. Man when i was in college there wasnt even an internet.
I was very shy in high school and then I went to college and got way over my head in sleeping with litereally hundreds of girls.
You will find someone in CP and Id keep trying to meet people!!
Good luck man
There are many virgins at age 22, they just don't talk about it. I was a virgin well past your age. I have known virgins past the age of 40. You'll have plenty of time to do this type of thing later. Do it with a nice girl (maybe a virgin) that you have feeling for, preferable one where you won't need a condom (kills the sensation). You have plenty of time....
After 22 years of build up he won't be in long enough to even know what it felt like. At least a condom will give him a fighting chance.
Plus he might get lucky and end up married at the end of a shotgun by 23 and have to rely on providers to get any for a long time. An eighteen year commitment for eightee seconds of fun isn't worth it.
I agree that you're probably so crazy by now you should go ahead, and with BBrain that you should find somebody who will focus on foreplay as well as taking your cherry. You should know that many providers, particularly some of the older ones, won't see men your age. But if they're not too far out of your sweet spot, I would consider some older women who have a real interest in exploring sensuality and sexuality. Lizzie the LowProfileGirl (whose website you should look at anyway), and Christine Paladina, who will be back in DC in about a month, certainly come to mind. Maybe others can suggest other women who are younger and more your type with the same attributes.
I would go for it too. But keep in mind that the provider -no matter how much she moans, screams, tells you how great you are - is fucking you for money, so don't fall in love with her. Also, search reviews and find someone who allows multiple pops. While I am no longer capable - when I was 22 (I lost my virginity at 21) I could go five or six times a day. It is not unusual to mistake the excitement of your first piece as being passionately in love, so getting your first out of the way with a provider will keep you away from some psycho who will fuck with your head and wallet in a major way (personal experience here lol). Also, you will have some confidence that you know what you are doing when you start dating.
Also, when you start dating - jerk off in the morning on the day of your date - if you get laid, you won't come as fast and you'll be less likely to go home with blue balls if you don't.
Have fun
Talk to Samantha at beseducedbyme.com. Don't be put off by her tattoos, she's a real sweetheart. She's under 30, smooth skin natural breasts, likes to kiss and is not mechanical at all. Tell her your situation, how you'd like more experience (don't be explicit), and that you checked TER and she came recommended. She's usually in the Gaithersburg area.
I'd also recommend Brittany Blaze. Although she's older than you might like, she's a really nice girl. Brittanyblaze.net
3rd, Lindsay Love and her www.indyfriends.biz
Thay are all sweet girls, Iris and Katia are pretty young and sweet looking. The girls I've met through her are all sweethearts.
Look through the FAQ for Newbies her on TER for more advice.
Don't haggle with the girls or mention money at all.
Don't get too graphic with what you're looking for. Do that with your search here on TER.
Any girl with a page or two of solid reviews should be reliable.
Eros and Cityvibe make money from girls advertising, NOT by being truthful about what or who they are. So finding a cute young thing on THERE without any reviews on HERE is probably going to be a bait and switch or ripoff. Especially for you, not knocking you, you could be taken easily, we all were early on. We don't want to see you with a bad experience for your first.
Ultimately though, many of these guys are right when they say your first taste is NOT going to be your last.
I hope we can help you make it a good memory.
My first provider experience, was NOT enjoyable, but since then I've had many enjoyable times.
I hope this helps.
Balto
about Samantha. I almost suggested her myself. A real sweetheart, and very good. Body type closer to Nikki.
I'm not sure why Karol Lynn of TGND has not come up. I believe she is 22 now. In the past, she has expressed a desire NOT to see guys over 40 (with some notable exceptions). I have never seen mention of a minimum age (other than the age of consent of course) by her.
You might consider giving TGND a call. Don't expect to get through on the first try. They can also be sporadic about answering voice mails. They are very busy these days. When you do get through, see if your age would disqualify you from that agency. If not, I believe they do have a reference requirement and hence could not be your "first port of call" in the hobby. Remember that Karol Lynn (and most of the girls) book well ahead these days and be prepared for that.
Also as noted above, be prepared for the fact that many of the gals (in general) will NOT see guys under 30.
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Karol Lynn is also around your age and you may bump into her in the campus if coincidentally you are also a student in the same university.
I (and many others) know ANOTHER gal with incall in College Park (delisted from TER) who is also a student. Hence, she flat out does NOT do the younger guys for just that reason (and never did).