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About cancellations....anyone ever notice a certain irony?
lone wolf 250 Reviews 1290 reads
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So, here's an observation: it seems like all too many of the last minute cancellations that various providers have let me know about involve the very providers that have the most stringent cancellation policies themselves! Now, here's the thing, I admit I too have had (on occasion) to cancel appointments. Sometimes with little notice; but always with as much notice as possible, and only when truly justifiable circumstances intervened. Let's be honest: life happens, and sometimes you can't control your own schedule. At least I cant. But I am always respectful of peoples time. And if I do cancel, a) I apologize, and b) I try to reschedule; and c) if I can reschedule I tip for the inconvenience I caused and as a way of saying thanks for understanding.
But the ironic experience that I've had is that its the very providers who have the most draconian cancellation policies that most often seem to cancel on me; often same day or even last minute. Sometimes with no apology, and no offer to reschedule. Anyone else experience this? I swear its happed to me at least a half dozen times. I won't mention names, but I will note that when that happens, those ladies drop off my list permanently.
Thoughts?

Alyssa Marie293 reads

i have a cancellation policy, mine is a two way street.

between october and december i did a lot of cancelling. i had a tragic event happen. every time i thought i was "good to go" another "no your not" hit me in the face. while most people that i see are people that i have seen before and were aware of what happened... they still shouldnt be punished, etc. if i cancel i always ask the guy, "would you prefer extra time or a discount on our next date?"

i also try to reach out to a lady that i am familiar with (with his permission, of course) to see if shes available and to expedite the process.  

i dont think what you write about is too far off though, on either side. you have to remember - we live in a selfish world. of course people are going to be more concerned about themselves.  
xx

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lone wolf185 reads

Well said, and I like your approach. Interestingly enough not one of the ladies I referred to offered anything along the lines of what you mention. One had her assistant write me two hours before our appointment, stating "she has to cancel." That was it. This after an arduous screening process that went on for two days due to all kinds of arcane procedures. When I'd passed that screening, I celebrated with a drink. Then, the next day came the cancellation email: "she has to cancel."  How hard would it have been for the assistant to have written "Sorry but she has to cancel"?  One word ('sorry') would have cost nothing.
Anyway, not to whine on, but I do appreciate your attitude.

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ElinaMorgan218 reads

i have had to do this when I get cancels on my end and the room is outrageous and does not cover expenses and a hour or more travel.. its sucks on both ends.

i do have a cancel guideline but I do not enforce it in cases unless its over an hour.. and only if the room is already prepaid..  

frustration on both ends..  

Just my 2 cents..

PS- when i do have to cancel i have almost always offered discounts..

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ANiceGuyToHookUp129 reads

If a lady does cancel, then does she refer you to someone else?  How would you look at that?

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lone wolf170 reads

Posted By: ANiceGuyToHookUp
If a lady does cancel, then does she refer you to someone else?  How would you look at that?
In the instances where the providers I allude to have cancelled, no effort was made to make any referral. If they had, that would have been appreciated, and would have cost them nothing. The annoyance was that this sequence happened (several times) to me:
1) high-end, sought after provider with rigid cancellation policy and arduous screening accepts appointment (we'll call her Princess Lay-ya);
2) right before the appointment (less than 24 hours), she or her assistant cancel the appointment;
3) no offer to reschedule at a discount, sometimes no effort to reschedule at all, no real apology for wasted time, no active referral, no intervention or effortnto get me set up. Sometimestimes not even an explanation;
4) end result: after a lot of time and effort spent, and thinking that I was all set to see Princess Lay-ya, I end up watching TV or reading a book
5) Due to the fact that if I had cancelled the way she did, I would have been expected to pay a substantial fee, Princess Lay-ya goes on my "don't ever even bother" list.

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DJ1197 reads

It does not seem like a two way street. Last month had a cancellation when I was in the lobby! Nothing offered.
Later I was on 495 and called to ask if I could push time back or reschedule so I had full time. Told never call again! These we both well known providers. #Goldenruleisnotalwaysgolden

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lone wolf256 reads

Yes! Two-way streets....those are the ones I prefer to steer toward when it comes time to play.
Right on man.
And kinda shitty that there's really no place to call out these one-way streeters. We live and learn I suppose, but I'm very leery now any time I see ultra-demanding cancellation policies. My experience just hasn't been good when I've encountered that.

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