You're going to get a rash of shit about this dude..

I've had mixed experiences. I've seen great girls who have kids,and i've seen girls with kids/bf's who were very disorganized or distracted.


I've had more problems with the 'organization' of girls with kids/bf's than with their 'fantasy' value.

Sounds like a mental block you need to overcome. However,we do have the luxery of being able to purchase/not purchase relative to our own desires/needs.

when it comes to kids and SOs, i can keep fantasy and reality quite separate so it never bothers me. as long as the kids and SO aren't there watching i'm OK.

but i do have a ~50% failure rate at first meeting. i'll share one of my turn off stories.....

if she walks across the room gracelessly like her legs are pile drivers so that i feel the earth moving under my feet in a not so nice way.... that's a turn off. no i'm not talking about weight, i'm talking about movement as if she is angry at the world.

As long as I am happy with the *service* and the visuals are entertainiing I could care less

I do not need nor do I desire a "fantasy" when I'm with a provider.

If she is into GFE/BFE that's nice - I'll play!

but that's what it is - play.

Your thinking too much... Just do It! LOL...J/K

Re: PYT and Kids

The fact that a lady I've just met discloses that she has kids does not detract for me one bit. During my time with her, I'm not going to see them, worry about paying for their college tuition, or think overly much about them. Without being (too) insensitive, they aren't my problem.

Extended odd conversations about kids, boyfriends, spouses are generally inappropriate. But so are droning on about how drunk she was the night before, giving any info on other clients or being catty about other ladies. If a lady is professional, she'll have some sense of how to navigate the conversation without making things awkward, regardless of the topic.

There are some ladies I know a fair bit about, and I don't mind that. That includes knowledge of children, etc., but they weren't discussed immediately upon meeting, and the discussions were never uncomfortable. As a level of comfort and trust develops, these bits of info can add up and contribute to friendship. The better the relationship with the lady, the more leeway there is on the breadth and depth of personal info. Whatever is mutually comfortable.

what difference does it make. Use your imagination, my friend. That's what it's there for. If she can leave her other world behind, for the time that you're together, you should be able to do the same. Neither of you are who you say you are, so let the good times roll.

geojohn,

If these things are important to you, I would recommend telling the lady beforehand.  You can politely mention these things in an email.  Most ladies would prefer knowing your preferences prior to seeing you.  Then you will get what you want.  

If you don't express your desires, let's face it, if you can convince yourself she is "ripe and tight" for one hour, I'll bet you can overcome the little things you mentioned too.  ha!

Best, Betty

Not to the point where it's a deal breaker, but it does have an effect. I think most guys tread lightly on this topic for fear of being bashed by the women they want something from!

I don't have a problem with what the provider does in their real life as long as they are into it with me for the time we spend. What I do have a problem with is if they try and hide the truth or deny it. I was with someone, who I have not reviewed BTW, who clearly had stretch marks and a C section scar and insisted that they never had kids.