That I fell into this kind of arrangement a few years ago. I was really smitten with a young provider, a student at a local university. I saw her several times and got feelings I never had with a provider before. She seemed so genuinely affectionate with me. It began to bother me that she had to do this to finance her education, and I admit that the idea of her having to see lots of strange men also bothered me -- even while recognizing that this was how we had met. We negotiated an exclusive arrangement. It was great for me, but also quite a bit more expensive than I would have paid for providers on a regular basis. She accompanied me on a weekend trip. Still, I was never quite confident of her fidelity to the arrangement (I knew she had a regular college boyfriend -- that didn't bother me). A review appeared which she denied had ever happened. And so forth. Finally, after about a year for personal reasons she had to transfer to a school on the west coast. There's lots more than happened after that -- I've seen her on a couple of trips back to this area, and we regularly communicate by e-mail but that's enough self-revelation for now...
On one of the escort directory pages I saw a link for a dating site geared towards potential sugar daddies/mommies and their sugar babies. So curiousity got the best of me and I checked it out. Lots of providers and hobbyists had profiles and pictures. But it leads me to a question.
Now, my understanding of a sugar daddy (well, my understanding from my experience with my own sugar daddies in the past) is that you can only be sugar daddy/mommy/baby to one. It's like having a girlfriend or boyfriend with the understanding that one person will be the financial beneficiary while the other the financial benefactor. Similar to escorting, but the major difference is the sugardaddy/sugarbaby relationship is more exclusive, more open with personal information and lives, and based on one or both persons having true feelings of care and love for one another. It is much less of a business arrangement and more of a friendship and romance.
So with seeing all the gentleman and ladies online making their bids for a sugar daddy/baby, I wonder, is escorting something to do until you find THE ONE? Perhaps you hope that thru hobbying or escorting you will find the "perfect" mate who will give up everyone else and just be with you?
Kisses,
Vanica
Side note: After a few e-mails with offers, I should make it know I am not looking for a sugar daddy. LOL
-- Modified on 11/9/2006 2:53:53 PM
I had one guy ask to be my sugar daddy but I find it to be very suffocating relationship for an escort. They do want (expect is a better word) a lot of your time. It is very important that this be a person you enjoy being with and not just "work". I like variety too much right now to find just one Daddy to take care of me. But that's just me. I'm sure it can be a great exit out of the biz for the right girl/Daddy combo.
One guy? I guess asking over and over doesn't count more than once :Þ
Vanica and MJ understand the advantages and disadvantages of this kind of relationship.
Sugarbabies...almost by definition, should NOT have "provider" on their resumes! They are instinctively separate creatures. Sugarbabies usually want ONE relationship for financial reasons...the finances make the financier in control, even though the sugar baby might have a boyfriend, the daddy comes first. The financial expenditure and sometimes last minute expectations (eg. emergency plane ticket to college reunion, a botox injection that "must be done", etc)usually exceeds the quantity of service, but relative exclusivity and convenience and the baby's apartment...kinda make up for it.
I've had very little experience with this...it is, in its most basic form. a "girlfriend". It is VERY satisfying, however...the dependency thing.
Personally, I think the most "hypothetically" satisfying relationship would be the one with an ATF, but with TOTC (Time Off The Clock). The possibilities are infinite, it allows for expressions of satisfaction, without time or place constraints, and does not tie the provider down with her schedule and regular clients.
In conclusion: I don't think providers would necessarily be able to morph to be successful sugar babies. My humble opinion.
Vanica, I'll be your sugarbabyboy if you'll be my sugarmomma...
I don't think my sugarbabygirl will be jealous...
You don't know how to handle a Sugar Mommy...at least that's what your wife tells me! She only repossessed yor Ferrari before...now she's gonna repossess your Fame & Fortune. Doh! Without her you have none! 
I would definitely prefer to find a sugardaddy rather than be an escort. But you are absolutely right about the combination being enjoyable on both parts. I think the two have to enjoy each others company/talking/being together etc.... or it won't work.
xoxo,
Kierstan anju'
-- Modified on 11/10/2006 8:05:29 PM
I wonder if seeking online for a sugar daddy/baby really works--I am dubious. I can see how you could go from being an escort/courtesan to a mistress, or from being a civvie to a mistress, but I think there must be some kind of pre-existing relationship for that proposition to be made. It is hard to envision a viable, lasting arrangement starting cold, from an online connection.
But I think it must be difficult to maintain this kind of support-based relationship if one or both persons were truly in love. Or if in the course of the relationship, they fell in love. How awful would that be? Maybe otherwise...if there was a degree of detachment on both sides, an understanding of the recreational nature of the relationship, maybe then it could work. But what if feelings deepened? If you are a mistress accepting financial support from your lover, wouldn't he always wonder in the back of his mind whether you love him purely for him? Or would he not care so very much about whether you loved him back? And if you fell in love with him, would you ever feel right accepting support from him? Or would you be more pragmatic about the arrangement?
Unless the love is mutual or it's exclusively business, any relationship will fail. Sadly that kind of balance doesn't come along very often...
That I fell into this kind of arrangement a few years ago. I was really smitten with a young provider, a student at a local university. I saw her several times and got feelings I never had with a provider before. She seemed so genuinely affectionate with me. It began to bother me that she had to do this to finance her education, and I admit that the idea of her having to see lots of strange men also bothered me -- even while recognizing that this was how we had met. We negotiated an exclusive arrangement. It was great for me, but also quite a bit more expensive than I would have paid for providers on a regular basis. She accompanied me on a weekend trip. Still, I was never quite confident of her fidelity to the arrangement (I knew she had a regular college boyfriend -- that didn't bother me). A review appeared which she denied had ever happened. And so forth. Finally, after about a year for personal reasons she had to transfer to a school on the west coast. There's lots more than happened after that -- I've seen her on a couple of trips back to this area, and we regularly communicate by e-mail but that's enough self-revelation for now...
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