Sometimes i am so perplexed by the providers. I understand for some, especially if it's been a rough or long week/day/year/life - that going through the motions is the best they can do.

However, there are also the ones that do things that make no sense, and do not realize that simply kissing and petting would've been 100000% more erotic than an aggressive BJ and rimming/explorative fingers.....  

The worst part is I have to cut them short of their act and tell them i don't really want my butt played with, which seems to further dampen the mood!!!  

 
Is there some sort of better etiquette for this? What are y'alls thoughts?

 
Or worse yet, i'm really into light kissing and nibbling up and down the nape/ears - i'm especially fond of a well shaped clavicle, (maybe i have a fetish, i dunno) - but why do some girls feign ticklishness, i mean to the point where it's like....wtf? I'm not saying girls can't be ticklish there, but sometimes it feels like they don't want it because it may turn them on, and sometimes it feels like it's just a "no go" zone but meanwhile DATY is totally fine.

 
As i get older, i feel more and more perplexed by the business, because it seems to inevitably turn into a robotic repeated song and dance and it's less exciting than when i had first started out fresh and stupid