Ladies,

In reading various TER boards I've noticed a consistent theme among providers. Specifically, only 30 to 40% of clients have good-to-very-good bedroom skills (my rough order of magnitude estimate...could be wrong).

This means 60 to 70% of client’s don’t have the right tools in our toolbox during a session. Subsequently, they aren’t performing well.

If I'm wrong, please clarify. However, if I'm correct, then please provide your top five suggestions for improving our performance.

I think this will have long-term benefits for all parties involved.

Bonus points for detailed descriptions.

Regards all,

Skydiver1985.
I could see this to be a concern if you were not paying for a service. But you are, you must remember that.  Also remember other guys are also calling her for an appointment. Just think if you had to eat your favorite ice cream 4 times a day you eventually would get sick of it.  Same thing here.  I think some guys tend to get way to personal and fail to understand and look at it for what it is. A Service that is provided.

I'll take the opposite tack for contrast.

Assuming Skydiver1985 wants to improve his skills, why not see it as a worthy goal and give some advice? It could even be self-serving for him in a way.

While it is a compensated service we are talking about, it is also one with lots of ambiguity and room for variance. There are endless little things that a lady can do or not do, depending on how she feels, with the whole spectrum considered good service. Perhaps having some effort be mutual brings the lady a sense of enjoyment that then gets further redirected into enthusiasm towards the guy. There might be "maybe or YMMV" items that are done, that otherwise wouldn't be. Perhaps it just helps the original poster enjoy the session. Rather than discouraging him, if it is what he, the customer, wants to do, he should feel free to give it a shot.

Having a positive and reciprocal attitude or vibe can probably be picked up on by the ladies. Throw in some skills and the desire to use them, and it might just be more fun. It certainly doesn't hurt anyone to try.

Another aspect is that he can use compensated sex as a training ground for himself if he chooses. Where better to learn, from ladies that have experience and the vocabulary to explain. The nature of the relationship precludes a lot of judgemental negativity. These same skills that might be optional in a paid environment could be well worth learning if he wants to go try his hand in the civvie world.

DATY

Seems to be the biggest contributor to female sexual satisfaction, from what I've found and read. Book suggestion follows.

Thanks renaissanceman, you are right on several levels. Personally, I was hoping to gain better skills for my hobby work as well as my civilian work. Perhaps help others improve their skills as well....a nobel goal no?    

Specifically, I was hoping to generate a discussion regarding what we as clients could do better - technically.

DATY is a good example; providers...are there some tongue/finger techniques that you enjoy better than others...or cant stand altogether?

Other examples might be more general like when to lead, how much talking (or not), speed, etc.

Maybe there can be no consensus on these matters; however, the discussion is thought provoking.

Regards all,

I've heard quite a bit from providers that I have some special skills on the bed...lol (I never ask them Y...So, i'm not sure) LMAO

Anyways...here is my tips.

1. U have to click with provider..
2. Lick and touch slowly and smoothly..(U will find where they like and sensitivie..
3. Take ur time on DATY! (VERY INPORTANT..Most of ladies love DATY...if u are doing it rite..lolol)
4. average size of dick and stay long when u do DOGGIE..lolol (Ladies doesn't like BIG sausage..It's just fact!! So, dont be shy if u don't have same size as porn star..As long as u can stay hard for long time (specially, DOGGIE)..they will like u..lolol)

Ohh well...I think if u follow these rules..u will be fine..

Let me know if u have any question Diver..

Peace!

I'm about to fly to Borders and grab that book..lol Hmm...have u read it yet? If so, hit me up some tips plz..lol

Life is like a box of chocolates, but so are women.  What works incredibly with one can be a disaster with another.

The most important thing to remember is to listen to the woman you're with, pay attention to non-verbal cues and above all, if something isn't working out as expected...don't be afaid to try something else!

Very well put. EOM

Interesting side note....I posted the question for providers to address; but only clients chimed in....hmmmmmmmm.

Regards all,

Part of what I look for in a GFE session is a little coaching.  If what I'm doing is just kind of "bleh" and she has to fake it, I can handle that.  The example above of eating your favorite ice cream all the time is spot on. However, if a slight adjustment would be a major improvement, I want to know.  Then I'll have a better time, time and again, and get more for my money.

My motto has always been "ladies come first" and DATY is the most reliable way to get there.

I noticed that too so I figure I'll do my part here. Although there are skilled and unskilled lovers, I find that the ones who care about pleasing the lady usually do a pretty good job at it.
Now, every lady is different, so if i tell you what I like it could be the complete opposite for another lady. The important thing for you to do is pay attention. We know that you can't read our minds so we do little things to encourage you in the right direction. If she is moaning with delight, that is good. Here are a few other tips. If she opens her legs very wide then you are doing something right. If she is closing her legs and pulling back you are doing something that is too rough. If she is pushing her hips toward you and pulling your head closer then you are too soft and she wants more pressure.

A few tips:
*Most ladies prefer over the hood, not under the hood stimulation. Especially if it is digital.
*Please wet your fingers if you are rubbing the outside area.
*A jagged finger nail or rough cuticle can ruin everything.
*The speed of your thrusts are best enjoyed if they are at the same rate as her breath. If she is breathing slow and deep then mimic that with your strokes.
*Being pounded at a high velocity is rarely the best way to get her off.
*Don't do the moves you learned while watching porn. We girls always joke about that. We say "He acted like he learned everything he knows from a porn movie."

I'll update this post when I have more time.

Heather, you are wonderful. That was exactly what I was hoping to generate. I suspect that there are a few of us who are reading this saying, ok, I guess I wont do that anymoore...and will be a little more attentive to her signals.

Any other tips are greatly appreciated.

Cheers!

I'll admit that I started the hobby with a primary goal of improving my bedroom skills.  While I'm certainly not the best, I'm sure that a little coolness and some decent skills have brought me dividends both here and in the civvie world.  

Lesson 1 is women love novelty.  If you try something new (even if it's just missionary sex by a fire on a fur rug) the girl will enjoy it much more than if it's something she's done before.  

Lesson 2 goes or DATY, the best advice I've ever gotten was write out the letters of the alphabet with your tongue, the same stroke over again stops being fun surprisingly quickly.  It's important to read your woman here, as her reactions will tell you when you're doing something she enjoys.  

Lesson 3 is to learn that the entire female body is an erogenous zone, and the wise lover uses all of it.  Don't forget to use different textures.  A tongue, finger, and nail all have different sensations, using all in different locations is a great turn on.  

Lesson 4 is to adjust your stroke.  Speed up then slow down, follow some full strokes with partial ones.  

Lesson 5 is the two r's relax and read the situation.  Throughout lovemaking women expect men to be at least competent at reading their body language to determine the next move.  Pay attention to them and grab a book on reading faces (the easy one is hair touches are good, nose touches are very bad).  Dilating pupils signals interest or excitment.