I have written honest reviews that were not accepted well by either the provider or her agency.  In those cases I have received PMs asking why my review was "bad" and I told them my thoughts about my scores.  If you are honest about what happened then you are not giving a "bad" review, you are giving a review that reflects the time you spent with that particular lady.  If the scores are not what the lady or her agency would like, well, that isn't really your issue.  As you stated, sometimes there just isn't a connection.  It's no ones fault, it just happens.  If you say so in the review what's the harm?  Sometimes something went wrong or someone did something that spoils the moment.  In those cases one cannot learn if they don't know what to do or not to do.  The review can be a learning experience for the hobbyist as well as the provider.  As a hobbyist I learn more about what I am looking for to have a great time.  I hope providers learn more about how to have a great time and help the hobbyist have a great time.  

I have had agencies email or call me and say, "she isn't a __(number) she is at least a ___(number).  I politely tell them that for them the number might be 9 but for me she is a 7 and I am not changing it.  I have never changed a review as a result of an agency or provider complaining about the score.  I sometimes even take my time to think about the time so that I am comfortable with the scores, and words, I put in my reviews.  I don't make a lot of friends with some reviews, but for the most part I choose well and I have a good time with ladies who get good reviews, including from me.  

Don't sweat it, just be honest with your reviews and help us all out.  That's what we are doing for you so do it for us.

In another forum I posted a generally positive review of a lady but I mentioned a couple of negatives. One thing I mentioned was something she did during the session that irritated me. After the review went up, I heard from her by email. She was not happy about my mention of the thing that irritated me. She felt that I had taken something very minor and blown it out of proportion. Her tone was argumentative, but certainly not hostile, and the review stands as written. Our exchange was quite civil if testy. Later I heard from someone who said that he agreed about the irritant, but that she had since taken the criticism to heart and changed her behavior for the better.

Most of my reviews are on the good side too, but for many reasons the experience is not a good one, ie she has too many appts. that day(you see this more with agency girls) shes having a bad day,her cat is sick(this really happened to me) WTF, there is no chemistry. but in the end you have got to tell it like it is. So dont be intimidated or influenced even if she may have  several good reviews.

It did not happen here but on another forum I wrote a review that was not really negative but did not praise the lady as much As she thought she deserved.   She threatened me with exposure (all she knew was the number of a throw away cellphone and the identities of my references).  I smelled BS and did absolutely nothing.  After more than two years nothing has happened to me.  


I suspect though that in many scenarios where more complete screening info has been provided guys do cave and I am not prepared to judge them.

Withdrawing it was the biggest mistake I made in the hobby.

The lady involved was trying to exploit some drama I had experienced elsewhere and my review fairly and accurately reflected the poor performance and theatrical behavior of the reviewee. The provider complained, wanted another chance or to meet and discuss but I was disinclined. I was certainly not going to pay again.

Some reviewers asked. It was an ALMOST isolated poor review. I said there was bad mojo at work. My review was as objective as could be. Others liked her so it might be YMMV. Then other poorish reviews followed for her. Some noting similar difficulties.

Several reviewers recommended that I ask that I pull the review. Because I was objective and did not show myself in the best light either they felt I should withdraw the review as it might hurt my reputation.

So I did ask TER to withdraw it.

The provider I reviewed then exhibited her gratitude by making up false stories about my behavior and telling them to providers. When other providers asked me about it I knew they were telling the truth because the content of the story was the same as what this provider was telling me in the session. I had never written what she was saying that was so outrageous in the review. It was extremely serious. (Hint: I have never threatened anyone with outing or with firearms. I have not had a gun in my hands in over 45 years.)

Never again will I back off a review.

Several years ago I saw a San Diego legend, now retired.  Her reveiws were awesome, 8 - 9 in looks and 8-10 in performance.  Her ads admitted to an early 40's MILF and the pics showed a toned lady who could pass for about 15 years younger.

Turns out the pics were probably 15 years old.  The lady I saw looked great for her early 40's but was not anywhere as toned, thin, or gorgeous as her pics or the reveiws said.  I had a great time and wrote a review that reflected both the great time and the dated pics.  I think I gave her a 6 for appearance.  The backlash was bad - the provider wrote on the San Diego TER board that I had never seen her and she could prove it.  She had numerous replies of support, and even though I never replied I was made out to be a lying dog who wrote a false review for the VIP membership.  I was electronically lynced on the board.  One brave sole came to my defense claiming he had virtually the exact same experience.  I now do not write reveiws if the experience is good but the appearance is bad.  Later that same year I saw another local legend with very high marks.  She was about a 3 (yes, I was scared) in appearance but I stayed because I had to experience the BJ described in her reviews.  Glad I did because the experience was a 10.  That lady did things with her tongue that I still dream about.  But I did not write a review.

Also, watch out.  The ladies have boards to idenify creeps, rip-offs, and other men they did not have a pleasent visit with.  I worry that if the review is too bad and she can identify the writer then she may claim he is a creep, rip-off,etc., and  he may end up on some blacklist.  Now if I write a negative review I'll wait a few days and change some meaningless details (time of day, day of week, etc) of the visit to make it harder to be identiy.

I saw a lady with 8-10s across the board and gave her a 9/5, and she PMed me a few times. I gave my concerns to the agency and when she PMed me directly I offered her feedback, which she didn't want to hear. End of story for me.

Depending on you (your board & review) and her individual histories, it might or might not be an issue for either of you.

If you want a shocker, do a search for ladies with multiple reviews and low scores. As an example...

945 ladies with more than 5 reviews and performance 1-5
429 ladies with more than 5 reviews and whose overall average was 1-5

With numbers like that, nobody is taking a serious hot for an occasional poor review, but a few ladies take it very badly, and VERY badly for some.

If you expect problems keep the following in mind:
 - always describe negatives things without emotional judgement (she was the ugliest). be detached, unemotional and objective - matter-of-fact
 - if necessary, use euphemisms or PC speak such as your statement, "I'd rather not give bad reviews." If you say list all the good stuff, if there was, and then at the end of the review say, "and I'd rather not say anything negative" folks will get the idea.

While I have not had a poor experience and have not needed to post a poor review, I did have one experience that is relevant.  In another city, I had made "arrangements" a week before to see a lady.  She didn't have a website, nor many reviews, but was in P411, so I thought it might be OK.  On the day before our meeting, I tried to contact her.  She responded, "who are you", which was a red flag to me.  Since she didn't remember our arrangements, I decided not to see her.  Have heard since that she has me listed on a provider website as a "no show".  Since I don't have access to that site, there is no way I can refute the allegation.
So, just know that providers have other resources if they don't like your review.  Better to damn with faint praise, than to explicitly describe poor performance.  Most of us are smart enough to compare reviews and know which are the better providers.  Its all in the research.

While my general approach is along the lines of "if you don't have something nice to say don't say anything", I feel a bit differently about reviews because 1) this is a relatively expensive hobby and we can learn from each other's experience and 2) reviews are one way to keep the cost of TER membership down.  I have written one review describing a less than enjoyable experience which turned into a pissing contest with the provider and I decided eventually to have it removed.

I expected something pretty good based on past reviews, but she turned out to be a bit of a head case who had all sorts of hangups that made the experience pretty miserable.  One example...she advertised Greek and nearly every review mentioned how great it was, but when I suggested it the response was like "I guess if you really want to..." and when it was clear that she was not into it I stopped.

Since then I ask if it is OK to write a review and share my general thoughts so that there are no surprises.