Thoughts and observations from a long-time hobbyist

1. Be safe. Use safe sex. ‘nuff said.
2. How much a provider charges does not equate to quality of experience. There are probably both providers and hobbyists who will disagree with me, but to a degree this has proven to be true for me. It really comes down to what type of chemistry do I, (or did I) have with a provider.
3. What a provider looks like has nothing to do with how good they are at their job. I know there are people who prefer being with attractive people, that’s totally cool. However, as I’ve aged the sexual prowess, talent and chemistry I have with a provider are far more important to me. I have been with providers who blew my mind but would go unnoticed on the street, and I’ve been with providers who could be stars on social media, magazines and TV, and were total disappointments in bed. The only thing that’s true is that if you’re paying for it, you’re paying for it.
4. Is a mature provider/hobbyist better? For me, yes, I prefer a provider with some history. I cannot pretend what providers prefer…probably someone nice, polite, well behaved with cash, (smile).
5. If a provider smokes, drinks before my appointment or I get hint that drugs have been consumed, I’m out. No judgement, it’s just not my thing AND this just seems like a recipe for a bad outcome.
6. The art of the FBSM is disappearing. I hope someone can prove me wrong.
7. Rates for sex work are directly in line with what people will pay. It’s all about the ritual, illusion and fantasy in one’s mind. The reality of paying more is really just about how much you can afford, or perhaps with some, what you cannot afford.
8. Reviews are pretty much obsolete and I use them more to make sure the photo is accurate whether the mood is appealing to me and I’m not going to get ripped off or robbed. As for details of what happened, I don’t really need to know, YMMV.

A provider with experience without so much age. My k-girl ATF has been in the game for at least 10 years and is about 30 years old. Amazing body, personality, and skills. Nothing against mature providers, but I wanted to add that the “mature” classification does not always go hand-in-hand with experience as the previous post implies. As a matter of fact, at least in my experience, a provider who has been in the game for 20 or even 30 years tends to be a little nutty or is full blown BSC. It also seemed to be more common when it came to those who’ve had tons of work done over the decades. Of course it’s not always the case, but it’s seemingly all too common. Its also why I don’t shop in that section anymore.

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Some of your points I agree with, but on other points I don't think we're on the same page -- which is fine because much of this is simply a matter of tastes.

With that said, I strongly agree with your point #8.  The primary reasons I check TER is to make sure the photos are accurate and to ensure that I'm not going to be ripped off or caught in an LE sting.  I also sometimes look at other details outside of the graphic sexual descriptions, like the difficulty in finding the location, the provider's proficiency with English, whether they charge extra for certain acts, etc.

The blow-by-blow details of encounters are not interesting to me (other than letting me know what's on the menu).  Also, as you explained in your second point, the quality of performance really comes down to chemistry, which is a very personal thing.  Just because one monger thinks a provider is great or terrible, that doesn't mean I'll feel the same.

Some mongers' reviews read like they were written for Penthouse Forum, bragging about how good they pounded away at the provider.  To be fair, perhaps for some people writing detailed descriptions helps them relive the experience and is part of the thrill.

Agree with all of these points! Re FBSM, it's been a while since I have seen her but there's a sexy Spanish lady named Nadia in NOVA who is still getting fantastic reviews and gave me the the best FBSM experience ever. Check her out -- she has reviews dating backed to 2014 and this is the only thing she does. But it's amazing.