I came across a strange site yesterday: an SP who did not offer FS. She offered fantasies. Judging from her website, she was a pro at costumes and RP. Releases? CBJ and HJ: a far cry from the no-holes barred experience. And still, I was tempted.

I go for FS in less than half my encounters because - it has started to dawn on me - that's not why I hobby. I'm lucky in that I get FS and kindness from my adorable gf. But still I hobby, to get a glimpse into another world, to see new ladies wearing sexy outfit. And really, I hobby because I like the "dirty" side of it - the amoral, anonymous, quick, transactional.

I was surprised to discover, in the review section of that SP's site, that *several* suitors have asked her to play the role of a prostitute (we really gotta be living in a post-modern age for that to happen, but I disgress). The descriptions of such fantasies seem to zoom in on three things. First is the outfit - because of the visual impact and because that is something we in this community talk about. Second was sex & cash. Or rather, sex for cash: the big taboo. Third were locations and positions that speak to a deed urgently done: in a car, back alleys.

When I think back to the ladies I've met over time, one situation stands out. She had forgotten our meeting, seemed utterly unreliable, she arrived late and was eager to go. She was wearing an unsophisticated pair of jeans, a shirt too small, and vertigo-inducing shoes. She tried to upsell me on everything, wasn't really into it - and I exploded right away, after which she left. By most standards, that was a terrible experience, and I did feel kind of robed on the spot. But in hindsight, the situation still turns me on like crazy. I mean, a lot more than most of my other encounters.

What I'm getting at is this: there appears to be niche for an experience that is not GFE (because there is no kindness, or intimacy, or comfort involved), and not really PSE (because the goal is not on doing gymnastics like a movie). As I was describing above, it is seedy, impersonal, transactional, anonymous. I would call it the LHE - the loveless hooker experience. And I submit that ladies interested in such an experience should advertise as such.

By its very nature, LHE is hard to discuss, for two reasons. First, it comes across as rude, perhaps even threatening to ladies. I've yet to win someone over by saying "here's my fantasy: you act like a cold and distant bitch who's here for the money. I'm not going to talk to you, except to order you around; there won't be cuddling and I'll expect you to behave like a whore". Second, it makes all involved vulnerable to LE, because it cuts right through the usual alibis.

Still, it seems to me that this is not fundamentally different from the bread and butter of what we do - in fact, it throes both protagonists back to their most basic roles, doesn't it? And that, to me, is really exciting.

I'd be curious to hear from mates who have had the same fantasy, and from ladies who played it.

UK

PS - I'm a really nice guy in reality.