As usual, Yoko is spot on. You should ask yourself what do you want out of this hobby. Do you want variety? Do you want a hot, passionate porn-like experience? Do you want a few hours with a girlfriend that will make you feel like a prince? Do you want someone with whom you share common interests?
Once you answer these questions, then do your research and find ladies who meet some of your criteria in age, experience, body type, etc. Don't be afraid to try different ladies. Variety is the spice of life, and don't be afraid to try new things. But, the key is to do extensive research on TER and other sites to find ladies that you would like to see. Repeats are great, because you already know each other and are more comfortable. However, look for ways to change it up so that the experience remains exciting and some newness to it. One warning. This hobby is very addicting. There are just too many ladies and not enough time. Lastly, enjoy yourself. This hobby can be richly rewarding for all involved.I've been doing this for about three months now. I am 54. I have had the "kind in the candy shop" feeling throughout --OMG there are a lot of cute babes out there -- and hence have been going after one off encounters with lots of 25 YO or younger babes that are relatively new to the hobby -- basically, just looking for hot girls with good reviews.
I am getting the feeling that I am missing out on a different aspect of the business, namely repeat business with ATF-types and more-likely-to-be-here-often types that are a bit older and with which I can form more lasting relationships. Part of the issue is that I feel some of the young girls don't really know what they are doing (or at least don't know how best to handle older men that need some special attention and for whom everything is not automatic every time, which -- alas -- I consider myself). Part of the issue is that I get nervous the first time I see someone and if every time is the first time, then I spend a lot of time getting nervous.
I intend, over the next few months, to try a new strategy and look for residents or more-frequent visitors to DC who are perhaps older and whom I can see numerous times on a regular basis.
My questions -- have other people had this kind of reaction to the business and adjustment in behavior? Does it work in general? Does this strategy work in DC? ( I put the question on the DC board rather than the General DB because the answer in part depends on who is here on a full-time basis.) Any other thoughts, advice people have on this?
Like everyone, I'd welcome suggestions of particular providers that meet the bill here, but of course I use the search engine too.
Thanks very much.
This is a serious question. I know there's a lot of wisdom and experience out there on the DBs, so hope I can get some of it (although the flaming responses are usualyl pretty funny too --so go at it!)
I've been doing this for about three months now. I am 54. I have had the "kind in the candy shop" feeling throughout --OMG there are a lot of cute babes out there -- and hence have been going after one off encounters with lots of 25 YO or younger babes that are relatively new to the hobby -- basically, just looking for hot girls with good reviews.
I am getting the feeling that I am missing out on a different aspect of the business, namely repeat business with ATF-types and more-likely-to-be-here-often types that are a bit older and with which I can form more lasting relationships. Part of the issue is that I feel some of the young girls don't really know what they are doing (or at least don't know how best to handle older men that need some special attention and for whom everything is not automatic every time, which -- alas -- I consider myself). Part of the issue is that I get nervous the first time I see someone and if every time is the first time, then I spend a lot of time getting nervous.
I intend, over the next few months, to try a new strategy and look for residents or more-frequent visitors to DC who are perhaps older and whom I can see numerous times on a regular basis.
My questions -- have other people had this kind of reaction to the business and adjustment in behavior? Does it work in general? Does this strategy work in DC? ( I put the question on the DC board rather than the General DB because the answer in part depends on who is here on a full-time basis.) Any other thoughts, advice people have on this?
Like everyone, I'd welcome suggestions of particular providers that meet the bill here, but of course I use the search engine too.
Thanks very much.
As usual, Yoko is spot on. You should ask yourself what do you want out of this hobby. Do you want variety? Do you want a hot, passionate porn-like experience? Do you want a few hours with a girlfriend that will make you feel like a prince? Do you want someone with whom you share common interests?
Once you answer these questions, then do your research and find ladies who meet some of your criteria in age, experience, body type, etc. Don't be afraid to try different ladies. Variety is the spice of life, and don't be afraid to try new things. But, the key is to do extensive research on TER and other sites to find ladies that you would like to see.
Repeats are great, because you already know each other and are more comfortable. However, look for ways to change it up so that the experience remains exciting and some newness to it.
One warning. This hobby is very addicting. There are just too many ladies and not enough time.
Lastly, enjoy yourself. This hobby can be richly rewarding for all involved.
I've been doing this for about three months now. I am 54. I have had the "kind in the candy shop" feeling throughout --OMG there are a lot of cute babes out there -- and hence have been going after one off encounters with lots of 25 YO or younger babes that are relatively new to the hobby -- basically, just looking for hot girls with good reviews.
I am getting the feeling that I am missing out on a different aspect of the business, namely repeat business with ATF-types and more-likely-to-be-here-often types that are a bit older and with which I can form more lasting relationships. Part of the issue is that I feel some of the young girls don't really know what they are doing (or at least don't know how best to handle older men that need some special attention and for whom everything is not automatic every time, which -- alas -- I consider myself). Part of the issue is that I get nervous the first time I see someone and if every time is the first time, then I spend a lot of time getting nervous.
I intend, over the next few months, to try a new strategy and look for residents or more-frequent visitors to DC who are perhaps older and whom I can see numerous times on a regular basis.
My questions -- have other people had this kind of reaction to the business and adjustment in behavior? Does it work in general? Does this strategy work in DC? ( I put the question on the DC board rather than the General DB because the answer in part depends on who is here on a full-time basis.) Any other thoughts, advice people have on this?
Like everyone, I'd welcome suggestions of particular providers that meet the bill here, but of course I use the search engine too.
Thanks very much.
Some people have experienced the common phenomenon of law of diminishing returns when seeing repeat gals.
Performance typically starts out great, and usually plateaus out at some point and then there is drop in performance. Now, don't treat this like a RULE, but it has definitely been observed by plenty of guys. For the same reason, some guys don't repeat or even if they do repeat they spread out the repeat visits over few months, and not like every week.
Another thing is the emotional aspect. Some guys start having feelings for the girls after a few visits. Unless you are really interested in dating the provider, you should be careful to guard yourself from this issue.
So if you do want to play the "repeat game" be careful of these pitfalls..
The biggest plus side of repeating is you don't have to go through the verification process, and lot of gals will grandfather you their low rates, should they choose to raise them..
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We are all different, thank God! I for one like the 30 to 50s most of the time. Not only because they have had more experience in taking a man to his limits but they also have a more mental understanding of our needs. I will occasionally go for that young spinner but that's not my norm! Maybe a test to see if I can still handle it...
When I was younger, the jump in and nail it was the only thing on my mind. Now, as I get older, I prefer foreplay rather than the actual sex act. I am just as happy, actually happier, to finish with CIM rather than in a piece of latex! I love the cuddling, rubbing, teasing and of course the giving and receiving oral part of the experience. I love to watch a women play with herself and then offer me her fingers to lick clean. A body to body oil massage is also a big turn on for me. I lady telling me she is going to rape me to no end is exciting too. Sometimes the noisiest, sloppiest BBBJ drives me crazy. Like they say, variety is the spice of life!!
You will find your ATF one day. They are like fine wine, you may have to taste a lot before finding that special one. I guess what I am trying to say is that your needs and turn-ons may be different others so keep testing the wine. And remember also that reviews are POVs. What's good for the goose may not be good for the gander! Nuff said!!!
I am also middle aged (sigh...) and like you have been hobbying for 3 months. My experiences are similar, and I am now looking to find a small group of go-to providers. I've enjoyed the variety, and the experiences have helped me figure out what I do and don't want as I mature in the hobby.
Where I don't agree with you moocher is your implication that it is the girls that don't know what they are doing. I may be reading between the lines of your post, but my interpretation is that you haven't done a good job communicating with your providers and being up front about your wants and expectations from your session. If you need something a little different than a typical hobbyist, then it is incumbent upon you to communicate that before scheduling, or at the beginning of the session at the latest. I've found that providers WANT the session to be fun and meet/exceed your expectations, but it is up to YOU to let them know what you want. They can't read your mind.
When I first started, I was somewhat nervous too (most guys are; they are lying if they say otherwise). On top of that, I wasn't very sexually experienced due to my Asian heritage (I was a stereotypical Asian geek who studied and worked hard thus had no time for girls). Once I started hobbying, I was like you and tried to taste every candy in the store. Back in the mid 2000's, there were tons of agencies: TGND, Prime/DMV, Classy, EGC and others so I saw plenty of coed girls. After a while, I realized I prefer someone who's more experienced and can take charge so I switched to MILF indies like Mindee DD and Stevie Thunder. I also discovered I had far more in common with them because there was less age difference. Some guys like to lead and don't care about the personal connections so they prefer young inexperienced girls (different strokes for different folks).
I think you will have much better luck with MILF's just because there are far more of them than PYT's in the DC area. Most of the visiting providers are also in their thirties. It's hard to find an indie in their twenties with whom you can establish an ATF-like relationship. I am seeing a 25-year-old UTR regularly now but that's pure luck how I found her.
Like I said, don't factor nervousness into your decision. It will go away or become much easier to handle after you have enough romps in the sack.
These are all really helpful, especially the notion that I was perhaps not indicating or leading enough -- they can't read minds, after all. Much appreciated.
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particularly the 1st meeting. i think providers prefer it as well.
However, any more than 2 hrs could be a problem. (which can be mitigated by proper screening.)
It might happen naturally but forcing it or evt will not work.en seekig it ou
I've been doing this for about three months now. I am 54. I have had the "kind in the candy shop" feeling throughout --OMG there are a lot of cute babes out there -- and hence have been going after one off encounters with lots of 25 YO or younger babes that are relatively new to the hobby -- basically, just looking for hot girls with good reviews.
I am getting the feeling that I am missing out on a different aspect of the business, namely repeat business with ATF-types and more-likely-to-be-here-often types that are a bit older and with which I can form more lasting relationships. Part of the issue is that I feel some of the young girls don't really know what they are doing (or at least don't know how best to handle older men that need some special attention and for whom everything is not automatic every time, which -- alas -- I consider myself). Part of the issue is that I get nervous the first time I see someone and if every time is the first time, then I spend a lot of time getting nervous.
I intend, over the next few months, to try a new strategy and look for residents or more-frequent visitors to DC who are perhaps older and whom I can see numerous times on a regular basis.
My questions -- have other people had this kind of reaction to the business and adjustment in behavior? Does it work in general? Does this strategy work in DC? ( I put the question on the DC board rather than the General DB because the answer in part depends on who is here on a full-time basis.) Any other thoughts, advice people have on this?
Like everyone, I'd welcome suggestions of particular providers that meet the bill here, but of course I use the search engine too.
Thanks very much.