Recently a member of the Boston board community posted regarding his frustration with a local agency. According to the poster, he was refused services because he is black. Other threads relevant to this topic have appeared this week on the Florida, Boston, Atlanta and National boards.

This topic goes beyond the issue of racism. Some would say that providers should see everyone. We know that, realistically, this is not the case. Some ladies impose age restrictions or weight or other restrictions related to physical appearance as well as race restrictions. What is the answer?

A. See everybody or get out of the business.

B. The other restrictions are okay but restrictions based on race are not.

C. It’s her body; she can impose whatever restrictions that she feels necessary.

D. The answer is C but she must tell us about it upfront.

E. [Your solution]

This is a hot button topic without question. Take a look at the existing threads.

http://theeroticreview.com/msgBoard/viewmsg.asp?MessageID=19377&boardID=9&page=6

http://theeroticreview.com/msgBoard/viewmsg.asp?MessageID=77725&boardID=12&page=1

http://theeroticreview.com/msgBoard/viewmsg.asp?MessageID=7407&boardID=16&page=1

http://theeroticreview.com/msgBoard/viewmsg.asp?MessageID=15420&boardID=18&page=1

http://theeroticreview.com/msgBoard/viewmsg.asp?MessageID=19878&boardID=9&page=1

I would like to invite everyone who has an opinion on this topic to a chat in the Boston chat room next Wednesday, February 18th @ 9:00 P.M. ET/ 6:00 P.M. PT. (If you’re located in another time zone and you’re confused, just enter the chat room the night before. At least you’ll be guaranteed a good seat.

thirsty

Personally, I will see anyone who treats me good. However I have had guys tell me that inspite of my personality , because I have an ethnic background, they opt not to see me. I think that descrimination goes both ways in this business.

I mean do we really need affirmative action in this area?  Sure, some providers discriminate...but don't we in the hobby discriminate to a greater degree against women who don't meet our "ideal" for the fantasy we are paying for?  Last time I looked, there were more than 200 providers in the DC area alone.  If one won't see you because you don't meet her standards, there are 199 other chances out there to explore.  Remember, no matter how much money we make, we still look the same in a mirror.

Ohh...I vote "C."  I'll be out the country on the 18th.

Happy Hunting...DP

I vote for C.  I am a black male and have learned the hard way to ask up front if they see black men.  I have been in the situation as the guy above and it did not make me a happy camper.  I cannot blame them, however because I have a certain type of provider that I like and I will not go to ones that don't fit that profile.  Just like I like to see a certain type of provider, they have the right to specify the type of person they want to see.

Another point is that I don't want to see a provider that does not want to see me.  It does not make for a good experience.  The reason that I did not go for D is because it would not be good for the provider to assume a person's race.  I think that it is up for the hobbiest to ask up front.

Agree with DP. AA does not apply here at all. It's her body anyway and can refuse service on ANY basis. Just like a restaurant won't let you in if your NOT dressed correctly.

Most cases Thirsty, it's not because your black, it's that most black fellows are hung like horses and that some gals simply can not accomodate your tool.

Other gals have no resrtictions and would love to service you no matter how large you are...just need to shop around.

DP got it right..

MM

I pick D. I agree that a provider shouldn't exclude clients just because of their race.

If the provider has restrictions such as weight, height and what not then the provider should make it clear they require them before seeing the client. The provider should not be afraid to ask and the client should not take offense if asked. None of the providers I have seen have asked me these questions but if they did I would answer them.

Thats my .02 cents

Guz

I hear you sister. 'VIRGINIA'

-- Modified on 2/15/2004 1:12:11 PM

That's their loss Jayla, and you're better off without anyone that has that attitude.