"Understanding is a three edged sword: your side, their side, and the truth."
— J. Michael Straczynski ( Babylon 5 )
You have a lot to say so, let's stick to the facts as we understand them:
a) You originally made an appointment with this provider for 10pm.
b) Part of your decision making process in selecting her was because she was running some sort of special which, I can only assume from the information you gave, included Greek in the price.
c) She had a flat tire which made her late but, once it was fixed, she offered to keep appointment.
d) She arrived around 11:30-11:40, took a quick shower and was ready by about 11:50.
You also took a shower and was ready by 11:55.
You ended the session around 1am and left the room by 1:15.
Looking at the evidence in front of me, it appears that at the very most, you should have been charged from 11:50pm (the time she was ready) to 1:15am (the time you walked out), 1 hour and 25 minutes. 1.5 hr, if you wanted to round up.
Now examining her justifications:
"Honey definately not a clock watcher and tire was out of my control that's why I offered off the bat to meet on another day vs a wild goose chase late in the evening after getting it changed..."
We can all agree that the tire was out of her control but, SHE was the one that offered to continue with the appointment once it was fixed.
"Bussiness is bussiness we did 2 hours and extra to point of sore the following day on Greek."
According to your information, she was running a special which included Greek for a certain price. Ultimately, these were her terms which constitutes an agreement by her making. She shouldn't be charging you extra because she didn't know her own limits when it came to the special services she provided. She is under no obligation to keep going if she's in any sort of pain or discomfort. It's not a difficult thing to say, "Back off, this is too much for me" or "I need a minute" as any rational and reasonable woman should do.
"...when you do especially buz the room rate the night before Thanksgiving was 150. So vs what rooms generally book for I was out.
This goes back to the pricing structure being on her terms. She should set the pricing, specials, and discounts in accordance of what she knows she can get for a hotel in her market. It would be one thing if this was an outcall where you are responsible for the location but, this was an incall and therefore, her responsibility. If she wasn't making much money off of this, she should have rethought her pricing structure.
Hope that you understand that plus I didn't get home until after 230am. ...{A}s you can also read at that time of night or anytime after 8pm is generally something I don't do and, I was tried however; even with stress strain and unknown tire blow out still put my all in and, was there.
Again, this was her choice to work after 8pm and to take the call even after her tire blew out. In all technicality, she is under no obligation (other than perhaps her wallet) to take calls that are given to her. If she felt that it was going to be too late at night for her to work after her tire blew out, she should have canceled and rescheduled you for another time.
Based upon what I'm reading and only what I'm reading, this provider is expecting you to pay for her gross lack of professionalism. I would say compensate her for an hour and half to be a gentleman and to be the one who takes the high road.
Finally, next time, I suggest you deal with someone more in line with your social class. I'm assuming the you copied her e-mail verbatim and it speaks volumes.
(Yes, I'm a New England private school educated snob but, it doesn't make my observations any less true in your case.)
Let me know how it turns out.
Sincerely,
Lee Dreams
Edamus, bibamus, gaudeamus
Did your New England private school education teach you the difference between "their" and "there" and "they're"?
Thanks Lee.
I was probably going to take the high road anyway, like you said, and offer some compensation for the extra time that I stayed, but most of all I think I just wanted to vent and stand on principle and to see if others agreed with me. Also, during this economic downturn, I budget carefully during my trips away from DC and I wanted to see three different providers this week. Compensating her for a fictional hour would mean I could only see two. (I know this last sentence sounds selfish and probably a little uncompassionate.)
The email I sent her was essentially my post on the DC board. The email she sent back I cut verbatim, but left out two names which might help identify the provider.
I think my fault was thinking with the wrong head. Like she said in her email, she initially did say she wanted to reschedule for Thanksgiving day because she didn't want to inconvenience the rest of my night, but I told her my time was unlimited because I really wanted to meet her. But like you said, she was still willing to meet after the tire was fixed.
BTW, her special was $$$$/hour. It is normally $$$$$/hour. And her services always include Greek, rimming and BBBJCIM which are my holy trinity for a provider. I think the point she was making about soreness was that we spent almost 15-20 mins doing Greek during the 3rd round, but like you said, if it hurt she could have stopped it. A few times during the 3rd round I did ask if she was in any pain and she told me not to stop.
As far as her grammar is concerned, English is her fourth language (I think Spanish, Portuguese and French are her first three.) She told me she came to the US when she was 16 and got her undergraduate degree at UCLA and is now providing on the side to finance her MBA at a university in Dallas. (Not sure if any of this is true, but this is what she told me.) She looks to be in her early to mid twenties and she uses quite a bit of colloquial slang with a fairly pronounced accent so some of what she said to me verbally, I didn't always understand. (I know the written word is different than the spoken word.) Also her email signature did say it was sent from her iPhone which is not the easiest thing to type on. I'm not trying to defend her writing style per se, just wanted you to have all the facts.
One thing I didn't mention in my post was that I told her I wanted to meet in person to pay some compensation, but according to her email, I guess she doesn't want to do this and just wants me to wire the money instead. I'm not really sure how to wire money.
I will try again to contact her and give her some compensation. Again, my problem is, when I find what I call a holy trinity provider, at what I consider a reasonable rate, with 9-10 TER ratings, I treat her like a rare metal. Maybe I should think with the big head, pay some compensation and walk away.
This was all incumbant upon her to clarify given the extenuating circumstances. If she is too scatterbrained to recall her fees and services and how much time she devoted then tough! My expectation is to have settled up before leaving the room. calling someone back hours or days after the fact is rude, obnoxious, and down right unprofessional.
I would not pay anything over the hour rate unless you feel i was worth it to you! In my mind.. the time she took to repair her vehicle may have been inconnveniant for her but it was also inconveniant for you... So I'd say you lost the time as well and could have cencelled if you wanted to.
I may just be a stubborn asshole here but I blieve she is trying to recover the cost of her tire. Of course that assumes that it was the truth and she was not delayed at another appointment...
I blieve there may be some details left out here but based on how it has been presented you don't owe a damn thing. If she failed to verify the amount in the envelope when she had ample opportunity then I'm sorry...
My .02
Fog
