I’ve noticed that there are several independant providers and agencies here who require you to divulge your real name  even if you have references and our TER whitelisted or on P411.  I’m just curious why anyone in this town would agree to that?  Also why is that necessary if somebody has references that will vouch for you?  I understand that it’s difficult for a newbie but for somebody  who is an experienced hobbyist with many reviews and references?  

Providers need to know real name for safety reasons.  

If you don’t understand why women who are disproportionately targeted for robbery and violence want to know basic information about who they are about to spend an extended amount of time alone in a room for with limited recourse for action without self incriminating, then that’s fine.  

Some may be okay with that but this is DC...good luck with that especially if you are an unknown provider. I for one would never divulge that and I have no problem passing any provider who requires it no matter who they are.

And I have given my name to escorts for screening.  I thing bad has happened. If you’re not comfortable submitting what she wants, move on and find another escort that is comfortable screening you based on the info you’re providing

I just want to feel safe. That’s all.  
If you don’t want to give me your name no hard feelings.  

I have given my info.... haven't had a single problem. Of course, I don't have a spouse to hide things from, or a job security clearance. But really... a lady with class won't do anything with the info other than vet you initially. It seems that most of the higher end ladies ask for the same stuff. I was a little worried the 1st time I gave it out....just because I was green to the hobby. But being willing to give them what they need has certainly opened me up to a much better level of provider. If not.... I'd still be hearing " you have 15 minutes left." 1st....and last time I ever booked a BP girl.....
Do what's comfortable for you.

There are providers out there that have security clearance too not just clients. They have to take same security measurements to ensure they are not meeting a coworker or their boss.

Like I said....I have no qualms giving them what they need to verify me. I was simply stating that I'm not in a position where it could cause me a lot of headaches. But I do my homework.... I only inquire with well established, reputable providers.

PLEASE say this again.  

Completely understandable.... you have every right to protect every aspect of your life.

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You can hope, wish and want them to accept only your P411 info, references, etc., but there are those who still insist on having personal information. These ladies do not get my business, plain and simple.  

and they are doing just fine with out.

Clearly, this needs to be explained again. There is "gentle" screening and "hard" screening. I'm not trying to create a debate but there are reasons for both. No matter what, you are receiving unsupervised access to a person's body. They are allowed to ask for whatever information they feel is necessary; and if it's too much, you are allowed to politely bow out and keep it moving.  

it when people fill out the form because it stops all the back and forth emails due to everything being in one places (all your screening info/date requests/a little about you). Before I made people fill out the form, on average it was taking anywhere from seven to nine emails to get everything situated. Now, it's down to three to four: the "Thanks for Inquiring" email, the "Screening is Complete" pass or fail email, & date confirmation email (maybe a misc. one after that).  

This is supposed to be a fictional site right?  
So a decade ago, many of us here made the mistake of giving out my personal info to see some very hot women at several DC agencies and Indies. It was fun while it lasted. But in the long run, many fellow hobbyists got burned when either the women, men and agencies got busted. Personal information that was promised to be deleted, was kept on laptops that were turned over to law enforcement agencies. The DC Madam case was the most notorious. Several high profile reviewers here sang like canaries when they got caught.  

If you are seeing a provider and plan on laying down with her, it's not too much to ask to fill out her booking form.  You shouldn't assume just because you have so many reviews and whitelists that we should just suck it up and deal with it. I want an email or my form filled out with that info included in there.  Makes things easier for both parties.

The most safe way for ladies is to ask for real world info.

is accused of stealing a deposit a few posts up.

The problem is, a woman is always highly reputable, until she isn't.  

Fairly new around here, but I've run across a couple threads eluding to you being " outed".  

She used to live in Dallas and then moved to Chicago, when in Dallas she answered virtually every ISO post with a "pick me, pick me" reply. After she moved to Chicago I thought those days were over, but instead what happened is that she started answering every ISO post on BOTH boards. I called her out for it and got a threatening PM from her telling me that if I didn't start "being nice" to her she would "make me pay"  

Damn..... that's crazy. Must have had a huge pussy if she could service Dallas and Chicago simultaneously!

According to Twitter. And nobody ever bullshits on Twitter, right?

Especially in a place like DC.  I'm honestly a bit surprised that you girls are so intractable about this.  My gripe on this topic is the same with Eros and P411 requiring entertainers' government IDs to sign up:  This is a sensitive business!  It's one that can carry serious implications for people who are discovered to indulge in it, so needing anonymity is perfectly normal.  I'll certainly give a gentleman an option to verify using his real word info if he wishes, but I would never require it if his playtime identity can be verified.  

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Fill out an appointment request with you on P411, would you still require me to fill out your website form or send you a separate e-mail?

Why not just give her the name of your ex-wife's divorce attorney?  I'm sure he will check out just fine.

The takeaway here seems to be that we providers require certain information that we determine will keep us safe. If you're uncomfortable with what we ask for, you can always find someone who doesn't require those things.

Looking at your site, you just request 2 references, and all board handles. I don't think that's an over the top method at all. But many require pictures of I.D., employer, email @ work. Figuratively speaking....stopping just short of wanting your social.  
I think that's what these guys consider too invasive.
Each side has good reason for defending their stance on it. But put yourself in the others shoes...
If I came to visit you, then asked to see your I.D. with your full legal name and home address, and your on the books employer info, as well as your work email....would you feel secure giving me that info?  
Not saying you're wrong.... not saying they're right, just each has legitimate concerns.

You got me wrong.....
I've done the heavy screening. I don't really give a shit. It probably seemed like I was leaning towards the client side. But I was just trying to say I can see where both sides are coming from. I'm Switzerland here man...

Totally agree!!! No one wants to feel unsafe with someone they are about to intimate with.  

That's yet another reason we're "insecure" - spare us your advice about who YOU think should be "hobbying".  Ladies requiring "detailed info", if it includes RL, is for THEIR security and safety, NOT ours.  And what the fuck does "reputable provider" mean?

As it's been said many times over, if you don't like a provider's screening requirements or process, find another woman. It's really that simple.

I completely agree that it should be a case by case basis. What she said about his "playtime identity" is spot on.

If the personal info requirement was hurting business, then you wouldn’t see as many providers asking for it.