I was with a provider who was advertised as GFE. And while she was friendly and nice and accomodating there was no DFK which disappointed me because that's a real mood helper. Is this a YMMV situation? I'm not ugly or anything (at least I don't think so). What makes a provider decide if you get DFK or not?

Kind of funny in a way -- in "real life" you might only get a good kiss from a date but in the hobby world you might get everything but that kiss.