Question if a Provider has on her Screening form on her website  what Ethnicity you are does that mean she does not want to see a certain race?

-- Modified on 1/9/2020 4:33:36 PM

Yes for some, for others maybe it’s just one of the things they somehow use in for ID screening though I have no idea how it would be used.

I am a fellow lady and I am curious how they use it to screen. I have always wondered. Perhaps some think that a certain ethnicity all act a certain way (aggressive). Or maybe they think a certain ethnicity will have a larger package, or be into a natural smell and not wear deodorant. Over the years I have come to find out that every ethnicity has people of all different types. I have had gentlemen reach out and tell me their ethnicity and say "are you okay with that?". I was never bothered by it and never really felt the need to ask. But I guess when it comes down to it the ladies have their reasons but like I said before I am curious.

I have asked that question several times to ladies that have required ethnicity. These are the answers I have been told as I hobbied around the world. One lady had been raped as a teenager, and would not see anyone from that race as it brought up bad memories and trust issues. An Asian lady would not see my African friend as she said the were too well hung and they hurt her by going too deep. Another lady friend would not see Indian people, as she did not like the curry smell that they sweat. Some would call these issues racist, but the girls called them preferences. I have my preferences when I schedule. But some guys think that escorts should take all comers with Benjamins in their pockets.

Girls ask for things like age, ethnicity, etc. in screening forms. Unless they explicitly state that they don't see certain ethnicities, or guys under 35, etc., I wouldn't assume they don't. I'd just fill it out and see what happens.

I always find the "well I was raped or beaten up by a White man so I will not see White men as clients" Just like I know this hobbyist who will not see Latino women here because he said "I read somewhere that a high percentage of  Latino women have AIDS in South America." #Ignorance

For many is it racist and they have no problem telling you why and attempting to justify their racism as a preference.

I sometimes ask so I get a sense of what you look like when the door open. Not every one reaching out wants to send a photo of themselves to the provider they are trying to book with. I am open to all races as I screen for compatibility and safety, not for looks or ethnicity.

Since you put certain types out there I will reply....

Not every African American is well hung and goes deep. I have come across African American gentlemen that are sweet, gentle and not hung. I have come across many Indian men that don't smell like curry. I have come across white men that are hung and aggressive. I don't think it is fair to assume a certain ethnicity will be a certain way.

it's just to help me with screening, to know what I am looking for, I do meet new and old friends or different races, backgrounds, etc.

That's good to know! Great reviews btw you are definitely on my short list to see.

When I've asked, its usually more FOB (fresh off the boat) versus American men of different ethnicities. For example, I've heard providers not liking a certain race because they encounter a larger percentage than usual of those who like to argue and haggle over the fee.  

I know some providers who won't see YOUNG black men, but have no problem with older black men.  

Women screen for all sorts of reasons, I've been blocked before after a provider said yes at first, then looked at my P411 profile and then said no. I used to get offended. Still not fun, but plenty of fish in the sea.

I want to know who i'm seeing but my asking is not to discriminate.
I don't have anti-race/ethnicity policy of any kind.  

Since we're not talking about someone serving me at a restaurant, renting an apartment to me, or something pretty impersonal, I would prefer to know upfront if someone doesn't want to see me for whatever reason and save my money for a nice experience with someone else which always involves the provider enjoying herself too (or at least good enough at faking it!).

I think skin color matters more than ethnicity in this hobby, both from the provider and hobbyist perspective.   Ethnicity is simply a correlation factor.  Skin color is the real discrimination factor.  

Its well known that some providers  refuse to see dark skin Hindu, Middle Easterners and black with excuses such as they smell curry, they haggle, or they are too well hung.  Nonsense.  Many white smell and are  well hung too, specifically from the perspective of petite Asian providers. How come few, if any. providers refuse to see light skin East Asian who eat garlic, kimchi and haggle due to their cultural practices.  

Providing is the most intimate personal service, so it is within the legitimate right of providers to reject seeing certain ethnicity they don't feel comfortable with.  Black hobbyists complained often for discrimination by providers, yet they can't file lawsuit for discrimination because providing is not a legitimate service to begin with.  Black complained that they need to tell providers upfront their ethnicity before booking so they don't get rejected at the door, and the darker their skin, the more likely that could happen.

Hobbyists are discriminating on skin color too.  A well known agency owner in the other board posted that she had trouble getting booking for black providers, and the darker their skin, the fewer call they get.  So to get more booking, she lightened up the photos for dark skin providers.  Black and Hindu hobbyists have specific crush on fair skin providers they may not get in real life.  Have you ever watched Bollywood movies?  The leading actors and actresses are all light skin and the bad guys and servants are mostly dark skin.  Except in sport, there are many more examples of successful light skin African American over their dark skin brothers.  

When Martin Luther King said "Don't  judge a person by his skin color, but by his character."   It's just wishful thinking as the real world behaves exactly the opposite.  

Yes but the question is if a man of color sees that question on her website should he assume she is a racist and not fill out her application giving his personal information?

Over the years I've had many providers tell me their reasons for not wanting to see certain races/ethnicities. Usually it's because of bad experiences they've personally had or their friends have had. I wouldn't automatically chalk it up to racism since there are providers who choose not to see clients of their own race. And some ethnicities have an unfortunate reputation of being cheap and trying to low-ball providers. On an individual basis none of those negatives may apply but, since a provider doesn't know you individually, she may use more general considerations to set her personal preferences. In answer to your specific question it might work well to try an initial call or email to get a sense of whether it's worth it to proceed further.

I would argue a K-girl would see a guy who 'smells' like kimchee (which really isn't the case, maybe breath versus overall body smell), because she is used to the smell.  I don't know if southeast asians mind curry smelling guys because they are used to it - I don't know many Indian girls who are FOB. The ones that I do know are 'bananas', meaning they look Indian, but they are American girls inside, and just look ethnic.

It sucks, but forcing somebody to do something they don't want to do - whether physically or verbally - isn't going to solve the problem, but just makes it worse.