I recently filled out a reference form to see a new provider in the area. When the new provider called one of the references, the reference said that "i was fine".
Aproximatly one hour later the referece called my cell phone crying and saying this was a complete slap in the face to her.. seeing that i had just seen her two days before. She said that it was completly disrespectful to ask for a reference two days after a session.
The phone calls repeated two days streight "trying to argue"
I had to leave cell phone off for 2 days.
I know this is not the norm for this hobby. But This has happened two times with two different providers in the past two months.
I am allmost to the extent that i will not see a new provider that asks to many questions for a reference and makes the reference "my regular" insecure.
Does every provider have different standards for when they call a reference? How do you not cross the lines between privacy and jeolosy "or greed" meaning money when you have a extremly good customer that spends money on you but wants to see other providers and you might lose him as a customer.
Again i no this probably does not happen that often but it seems like the past couple of months it has.
is just an alternative to give to a new client, in case he doesn't want to provide his work number. Either one is fine with me. I don't understand why providers act in a such unprofessional manner when it comes to refer someone. This is NOT an emotional tied relationship, is business and, like any other consumer, a client has the right of "purchase" time with whoever he wants and whenever he wants. In my personal case, I don't have problems giving references because I know my clients appreciates it and that it will NOT stop them in seeing another person. It's silly to think a client is "yours" alone. In my experience, the clients I gave references didn't stop seeing me either. I'm secure of myself, I know I'm good and I know my services are top notch, so why should I worry about losing business? Nonsense to me.
I agree with Betty! I have heard of this happening with several ladies in the area. Personally, I think it shows desperation on the lady's part. I always give a reference if asked and I "cc" the same reply to the client that is asking so there is NO mistake on what was said.
Totally agree. I just don't understand it. Why being angry or sad? We are not married to each other.... that's the whole point of this business... If you start to feel obligated to see the same lady because she is becoming possessive, or have to deal with drama, then I guess you'll be better off with a girlfriend! LOL!
It's supposed to be fun!
XOXO
Nikki
she even called me long distance to settle a gentlemans request for a reference. Wonderful lady... and I thank you Nikki!
xoxox
Anik
It was good to talk to you in French! I don't do that that often!
Enjoy your stay in DC!
XOX
Nikki
That's interesting, tan. In my experience, I've never had a provider OFFER a reference unless I was no longer going to see them, for whatever reason (amicable ending, if you will). In any event, it might be a good policy to ASK a provider if you can use her as a reference, BEFORE just going ahead and DOING IT. Seems like the polite thing to do, and the proper proticol.
I offer references in any time of my business relationship with a client. Is just part of the courtesy of my services, specially if he's a nice guy. In any circunstance, is always good to contact the lady you need references from BEFORE you use her name to obtain services with a new lady. Is always good to know that I will be contacted before it actually happens so I can vouch right away. If the client do not contact me prior giving my name, I will contact him first and ask for his consent for the reference. I never give references without my clients authorization.
Correct, harassment for using a lady, as a reference check is NOT the norm. I’m sure more ladies are appalled by this mishandled display of “affection/possession” than agree the actions of this inexperienced lady.
...with Nikki and Paige. I have no problem with my friends using me as a reference, I actually encourage it. Through being creditable and reputable, reference checks have opened more doors for me than closed them. I have had the pleasure of conversing with lost of beautiful down to earth ladies, and actually started great networking relationships, as well as lasting friendships. Additionally, my friends come back worshiping my feet. LOL! I still haven’t figured that one out! J
Personally, I Do ask for reference checks, this let’s me know the guy’s a “fun” guy, and allows for the guy to keep his amenity.
I think that Betty_snj said it best” Providing a reference is just part of the courtesy of my services, specially if he's a nice guy.”
I couldn’t agree Moore!
I have allways asked permission to use a lady as a reference prior to using her. The only problem I had was one local gal who was very insitent on me providing multiple refs which I did and saw her and had a good time. I later emailed her and asked her to be a reference for me and she said sure. I sent her info to another lady on a Monday for a Saturday meeting by Saturday AM and three emails she still had not responded to the lady with a reference. What she did was get herself from my will see again list to never bother with her again. she relied on other ladys to help her but would not return the favor or show me gratitude for my hard earned $ I spent with her
Welcome to the club of reference breakdowns. ALot of providers will say they give a reference just to make you happy. But when it comes to reality things are different. Scan the message boards and you will what I am talking about.
You are better off sticking with a few providers that are good.
Providers should spend the time to make sure that customers are repeat customers. Give discount pricing for regulars. The high prices force you to see another provider after seeing her 3 times. I don't blame you for getting your monies worth.
lol! I do have a "Frequent Friend Plan" it is like the Frequent Flyer miles plan that many airlines have! lol!
It's called great customer service! I always give ref's for any gent that I have been with, no exceptions! Sometimes it takes a bit to jog my memory but I usually remember! It is too important not to.
In all ref replys it is usually the same "super nice gent I was breathing when he left!"
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