I have had a "relationships" with a provider where one could considered it BF/GF.  The relationship was exclusive for quite some time and she wasn't working and I was taking care of her.  This lasted for about 2 years.  Eventually her drug and emotional issues became my breaking point and it didn't end well.  Wonder if you Mongers or Providers have any experiences when it went over the line?

I have been fucking a friend of mine who is/utr a provider, and she was living with this poor sap who was taking care of her after he asked her to stop working, she had him by the balls, soon as he went to work, I was over banging the shit out of her, almost every day, then when she would want to take a break from him, she would go back to her on place for which he was also paying, and I would come over and we would chill and fuck like animals. I even helped him carry his stuff out of her place that he was paying for, this was after she whipped his ass, I actually felt sorry for the poor cuckold.

Long story short... it's not really advisable to entertain a relationship in the hobby world. Unless you (as a hobbiest) are content with her continuing to work or her (as a provider) willing to retire and lead a civilian lifestyle with her man.... Not many guys can handle the tolerance of letting their SO continue to work and most of the ladies come to resent the fact they lose their independence once they are no longer working so it is a double edged sword... I suppose if the monger were well off then it would make little difference but at that point it would be just a private consultancy with an exclusive agreement.

I've dated 3 providers, one of which was long term in addition to 2 strippers...

Needless to say... the strippers were very much the same as the experience you expressed with drug, alcohol and other abuse problems which I finally grew tired of and kicked them to the curb... the last one I tried to get help and that was worse than just leaving her to her own devices it turns out.

The three providers on the other hand all ended differently... Only one was particularly negative. The first one simply felt she needed to be on her own and wanted to take care of her self... basically wanted to go back to work which I was fine with but she was not. The second started working again without telling me and used my house for her activities while I was at work which aggravated me enough to kick her out as well (trust is a big issue with me)! The last one was about 2 years and it was fine until I found she had been stealing money and various small items from my homes and selling them... When I caught her and called the cops she fled the state to avoid arrest.

Can it work out... I suppose so but you must consider the types of personalities that are involved with those who are in this hobby be it as a business or as someone who partakes. We are generally self centered people so two people with that specific trait are not likely suited to each other.

Is that a generalization... Certainly... is it accurate?? I believe it is and while I do think you can find someone anywhere you want to so long as you are open to it... Most people are not able to get out of their own way to realize it nor are they sure how to tackle the realities of such a complex pairing.

Would I do it again.... yes. I am open to meeting anyone that I feel is honest and caring... so long as they are honest. It may be difficult but you meet some of the most amazing people through TER and the various people you meet by somply making appointments.

It's a crazy world... and no one should let others judge how you meet or what you do. I just wanted to share my experience and it is not to suggest wither is right or wrong but merely state that it is possible and should not be automatically shunned...

Happy Hunting,
Fog

While I'm sure there are people like that and perhaps most of the CL/BP girls would engage in such hostile behavior I would point out that I wouldn't care if my ATF was banging you... More over I would be happy b/c it means I wouldn't have to deal with it.

One of the things guys like you fail to realize is that the main reason we partake in the hobby (at least myself) is to be able to say goodnight, go home and not have to call, comfort, or deal with the drama of a relationship. While I applaud you being able to see someone without paying.... I'd submit that you likely have to deal with other unpleasantries that he does not.

To each their own but there is no need to criticize the OP.... While you applaud yourself you should also realize that being around someone with such low character likely puts you at risk of other things... after all.... if she is willing to take advantage of someone who is so generous to her... why in the world would she show you any more respect? My guess is that if she is fucking you then she's likely fucking others.. some for money and perhaps some for other reasons...

Whatever the case... using the example you've provided, I'd suggest you take a bath in disinfectant and head to the nearest clinic to get checked out because I'm pretty sure this is a prime environment for STD's.

Foggarty and Rodney,
I'm giving the OP a different perspective to his situation, and I never criticized him once, I even said he was lucky, you both are on a pay to play site and then mention character, stop it....

As for looking a relationship in this hobby, do you know the song from the movie Urban Cowboy: Looking for love in all the wrong places? Why ruin the fun by getting emotional attached when you pretty much know it won't end well?


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I've been wrestling with this myself.  There is a lady that visits DC from Vegas ever so often who I've seen a few times in the past.  A few months ago we started talking on the phone.  Now we talk constantly and a chemistry has developed.  We've even talked about being together in a non-hobby relationship.  I'm traveling to the west caost on business next week and she'll meet me to spend a few days with me, off the clock.  Mind you, she's flying on her own dime.  I'm not trying to save her, ask her to stop providing, or anything like that but there is obvious chemistry between 2 people and we'll see where it leads.