A lot of hobbyists enjoy conversation with a provider almost as much as the rest of the sesssion. However, there is a bit of etiquette that comes along with this. Everything discussed with me of course is confidential, but this does not mean that one should reveal every secret they know. Many gentlemen in casual conversation end up revealing private and personal matters about other providers that I believe should be kept to themselves. Even if you think/know the provider and I know each other, it is best to make it your policy to not speak on the personal matters of anyone other than yourself. As well, you should dissuade providers from speaking about other providers personals matters.


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I was in chat on another forum..and a provider said to me, "Welcome to Raleigh...I was with a client and he told me you moved...let me know if you ever need anything".
I said to her...well I do get to Raleigh quite a bit..(I had not moved to Raleigh)..I asked who the client was...she said "Oh your name just came up in pillow talk"...I said well I hope you find other things to talk about besides me....


I do not want to be the "pillow talk"...
nor do I want to enter in a conversation about other providers when "we are snuggled"....
Pillow time is intimate..the conversation..and I actually prefer none...I prefer conversing at that point with my hands....touching..I am a good listener..but I prefer to keep the time spent between the sheets with him and me....
xoxoxo
sexycarolina

Yes I also have had this happen to me.

I had a client who saw me, then saw another provider and then to see me again. He told me about her talking about me ect. I don't care what ANYONE says about me, It is so childish.

I had a client ask about a provider awhile ago and when I warned him she was $$$ hungry (she ripped me and other girls off doing double sessions) to be careful he went back and told her....NEVER AGAIN!!!

From now on * I dont know* is my middle name........

I totally agree with this.  I had one client tell me about problems other ladies had been going through, and I just didn't like it.  Made me lose my respect for him.  I don't like feeling like I'm put in the middle.

I love great conversation, but I will never ever tell a client of any personal problems I may have outside of the hobby.  I'm very careful with that.

It is none of my business about other providers' personal lives, trials & tribulations.

...by insisting we talk only about me.

"So, had you heard I was handsome?"

"The ladies all say I'm charming, do they not?"

"I saw you admiring my kryptonite ring. It's real kryptonite you know."

"God..you really are big"..

"I love it when you do me like this"

"Move a little closer"

"Oh goodie..more condoms"

"YOU ARE ALL THAT"

xoxoxo
sexycarolina

Many providers will say this in a open forum. But when the rubber meets the road they will bring up other providers names during  pillow talk. They will ask is this provider ok for references, etc. Sometimes they will talk about where a provider offers incall. I found they have talked about a providers problems. Sometimes they will talk about other clients also. I don't want to hear about every tom, dick, and harry that you had a session with that day (It is a real turnoff). Don't tell me that you had other sessions period. Speaking this issue I had provider ask me to throw out all of her condoms of clients that she had seen that day !!!

If a provider truly has problems with drugs and another provider knows about it, I think she should warn other clients about the problem. This is a serious safety issue because if there is a bust a client could have additional charges.

The other issue concerns personal hygiene issues. I know for a fact that providers exchange this information when it concerns references. Many providers want to find out more than if a guy is safe and pays. So what is wrong with clients getting this information from another provider ?

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And don't forget...

"The Nationals? I don't really follow hockey."

This is so true.  I can tell you that I watch what I say.  It's like I can see it coming and out rolls my preprogramed responses or I just redirect them like I would a child.

I remember one client who told me this provider from Long Island (Ny) was a herion addict.  I believed him and sure enough I found out she was a great lady and hardly what he had said.

Sounds good to me.  Sure would make the reviews a whole lot easier to write, as well!...

there is a whole other set of rules/guidelines that most providers follow. I was just speaking of casual conversations between clients and providers.

I have had gentleman ask me "What's the deal?" on a provider he planned on seeing. In a situation like this, I give a general thumbs up or down without going into detail why.

Same kind of rules usually (or should usually) apply when providers are getting references, and when hobbyists are asking others for info on a girl.

I mean when it comes to talking about others issues. I got waaaay to much on my plate to criticize other girls and how they are living their life.......

You know I am a bit of a chatter box and if I dont talk about anyone else I may talk too much about myself.....

That's YOUR fault though. Shouldnt have made me feel so comfortable, sometimes it does feel good though to talk and not be critisized...(Yes you are a good listener)

Yasmine, you may be the first person who has EVER said that about me publicly.  Thank you very much for the "flowers", dear.  I get so much "press" about how big my mouth is, you cannot imagine how kind and reassuring your words are.  Now if only I could boost the "listening quotient" up to about 95%.

Darling, when with you speaking is very difficult *wink* at least for me it is.

I actually would rather be with someone who is genuine and can listen than monopolize the whole conversation talking about ME,ME and ME! I guess this is why time isnt an issue with me, I know I love to talk to *break the ice* and sometimes the conversations are quite interesting so much that I actually loose track of time.

I guess that is why I dont care too much for *time* restrictions.

As for the *press* you get, you are you, never let someone try to change you and get you to be who THEY want you to be. We are all different and what fun would it be if we were all the same?

Your not mean spirited and dont go trashing anyone and at least with you I know where your coming from......

Dont fret it hun, the way I look at it is that SOMEONE must find me interesting enough to talk about me!!!!