Contact you.

I see your ads on p411 and d-check, if you were contacted through one of those sites and I had numerous "ok's" or "references " on the site would that be sufficient to see you?

Phone number and don't give it out. Make them contact you through your website or email ONLY. And put your requirements on your website, and if they don't email you what you're asking for..*don't* reply. (From the sound of it)...You are getting low life time wasters contacting you. Don't allow them to just call you and expect that you are going to see them JUST because they contacted you. You make the rules. I haven't looked yet at your website yet, but it doesn't appear that they are feeling like they have to follow any rules, and that they appear to think they are doing you some kind of favor, so they can treat you how ever they want.

...you on THEIR terms. We are beholdened to your standards, including and especially as stringent a screening process as you execute. I don't understand the animosity of hobbiest's who don't want to comply with your standards. I've never had a hard time with screening. I use P411 and DC, along with my TER handle. Seems to me that the providers I see, who have fairly strict screening, are as busy as they want to be AND, as far as they let on with me, enjoy a good deal of their gentlemen callers. You appear to be a very classy lady, Sloane. Stick with your high standards, don't compromise, and make your "friends" treat you with gentlemanly conduct and respect. Hope this helped.

I look for three things...your pics, your bio and your reviews. And you're three for three. Smoking hot, really interesting bio (your focus on charitable giving is very cool...no BS...I mean that), and you've got great reviews. So you are definitely someone I would want to meet.  And I would recognize that in order to see you there are screening requirements. And its up to me to decide whether or not I want to provide the information you're looking for.  If I'm unwilling then that's that. I won't get a date. And I get that. I've been I asked for my real name, my employer, my work phone number etc. Sometimes I'm willing to give it, sometimes not.  But I always respect that a girl has every right to get comfortable with me and screen the way she needs to screen.  

Aerial has it spot on. I have requirements listed on my website. I request a first and last name and now I request links to some sort of website presence and two established references. As does my girlfriend Grace Hadley. I very rarely ever respond to e-mails that do not include all of the information in the same e-mail, unless i"m pretty sure I can get that information somehow. I even set up my e-mail account to immediately respond requesting the proper screening information. If I never get it I never get it. When I began screening this way the caliber of men I was seeing suddenly went up. These men want to know the provider they're seeing is responsible, professional and very safe. I always have gentlemen walking through my door that are polite, considerate and kind and never have any issues giving me their screening information. I never ever ever give out my phone number until the day of the date and I do not accept future date appointments via phone either as I only answer my phone when I am expecting a date.  

Exactly. They are showing that they have not looked at your website, reviews or at any of your requirements. If they're contacting you without giving you screening info upfront without being asked, they are not only purposely trying to see what you'll do in terms of references, but they are making you do your job twice. Because if the info is there for them to see and they aren't taking the time to look at it before contacting you, they are not going to take their time with you in person.

Changing your way of contact /standard's may seem like you get less requests, but you will wead out the ones who treat you that way. And be happier with who you do spend *your* time with.