Third time in as many appointments, driving to in call at around 3:30/4p, I get the same message: "I have not eaten, ordering food, what you want..." .So very sweet, right?
Well, I usually book a 2hr playtime, at least days ahead. I am not inclined to spend $15 - $20/minute, to dine with a stranger. I would book a lunch or dinner date, if I want that. Now I am bummed out. Can't enjoy the wine/drinks I bring. My conscious already tucking at me, to play with someone, who has not eaten. I also don't want an hour playtime, which is usually 70% of the 2 hr rate.
All I want is 3 decent, 30 minute playtime with an interlude of 30 minute relax/convo? Isn't that not how a 2 hr appointment usually goes? At least, all these years, it used to be for me.... Yeah, I know, I do book wall-to-wall, with the right ones if that is what I want...
Reverse shoe analogy, isn't that the same as me asking OTC. Well, I always leave promptly within my hour.
I am almost ready to play this game with an introductory email going, "Hello, I have food allergy, no food at in call please...?" Or tempted to say, please go ahead and eat, I can come in after 1 hr?..
Any decent ideas to right this one?....
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Contact her and mention how you feel. She is not a mind reader. Be direct, definitive, honest, and sincere. She will not be offended or hurt. This is a business arrangement. She works for you. The alternative is to enjoy lunch with her (her treat?) at 3:30 PM during your upcoming dates.
Thank you. I do communicate: "I have eaten already / Just ready to go / I can come back 30 minutes later...". The response always is: "I will wait after the appointment to eat, if you are not eating..."
I have never eaten with strangers. I definitely cannot stomach free meal.
She does not have to read my mind. Isn't it obvious that I did not choose their 3/4 hr lunch/dinner package but 2 hour session.
I get it, life happens. I would then expect the request to be: "Sorry I have not eaten, can we delay by 15/30 minutes, eat first. I can also order something for you..."? . Then I can come in 15/30 minutes late, to start the session.
I have never heard of or experienced this.
As far as I'm concerned a lady should build meal times and breaks into their schedules. If she wants to eat it should be on her time not yours.
Are these regulars in the area or touring ladies? I'd be curious to know who they are.
One is local and the other 2 were touring.
Well the backlash & drama, hence the alias and not naming names.
All were my first and obviously I am not repeating.
Finished first pop, Uber Eats came. She said she was going to meet the driver and disappeared on me. Came back with 10 minutes left and said time to get dressed. It was with an agency, and I was pissed. "He said she said" scenario where she said I said it was ok to eat. I said it was ok to go meet the driver and get her food. I never went back.
She's eating on your time, which is BS - and taking advantage of you.
Happened to me too. The Uber eats left the food outside. Pure luck, the session was ending or about to.
It bums me out and I feel inhumane, when it is supposed to be enjoyable on both sides.
Lesson learned. I plan to play for 60 minute even rates and skip the lopsided hourly rate.
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